IS Your Mother In Law Worth Dying Over?
update on the update nove 2011 things went this year we took her out to dinner her fussing nitpicking everything about the dinner .thank god for my glass of wine befor the dinner . i made sure to have a glass of wine befor we went to get her . thank god its over . she started fussing about
everything her usalthing if she cant controle every thing she will fuss threw out the dinner , we was trying to please her we payed for everthing
i wanted to be kind she wasnt happy about that statring in i'll pay for your daughters dinner but not yours . iam so sick of that gameone day i will get up the nerve to say if you pay for our daughters dinner pay for ours , but like me i try to keep the peace , sometimes i feel like a darn door mat. thankgivng i didnt feel went too bad but next year shes cooking it woohooo cant wait ! iam having my wine first . so i just toone her out . she trys to make us all crazy.
then theres christmas dinner too .well iam baking my pies ive got that to look forward to , i'll make the best of it as i always do she hoply cant live for ever iam so sorry to think that but shes so misarable to be around ,she wonders why we dont come over or call very often . just going over her house
acting like nothing ever happend seemy mother blogs about my mother in law about her causing me a stroke you'll see the fully story. she wont apploise for nothing shes done to us i know forgive and for get , its just a hard pill to swalllow when someone treats you so badly when all you've tryed to do is what they asked you have to read my other blogs on my mother in law ......
update on the story i written today nov,24 2010 my mother in law have a good relationship now we are in fact
like mother and daughter . ive eccepted her for who she is and its made things better
i call her once a week i know shes getting older and wont be here forever . i wrote this back in 2008 i was so stressed out
i wanted people to know that stress can cause you health problems and can kill you . i dont complaine any more
i just eccept her for who she is and its ok . i know she wont ever say shes sorry but her actions now shows love and that she is
sorry and that means the most to me . i feel looking back she was looking out for her son , he had been married 2 other women plus
she was grieving seeing her husband die of cancer he fought for almost 6 years off and on so things are so much better for her and i
i can even call her when i need advice and shes a wonderful momin law
this was written in 2008 ,read the bottem we now own our own house as jan16,2009.
read all this blog befor you coment yes we are adults befor you judge us to be losers read all this blog .
we did what we did out of respect for his mother his father had just died . thats why we moved in with her and we payed her rent just read all the blog befor you judge us or make a harsh coment what would you do if your mom lost your dad, and was begging you to move in
would you say well get over it mom we wont move in what woul you say to a woman greeving her husband of 50 years?
would you have compassion ? we did for her and if we had it to do over we would still help her out .
I am KARLA 43 year old married woman, over been for the passed 8 MONTHS LIVING IN PURE HE LL WITH OUR MOTHER IN LAW. THE STRESS HAS BEEN SO BAD BECALSE SHE BLOWS UP AT ME FOR THE STUPIDEST THINGS . LIKE THIS PASSED SAT. I COOKED PROK CHOPS WELL HEAVEN HELP ME I DIDNT OFFER THE (QUEEN) MOTHER IN LAW ANY THING THAT I COOKED SHE GOT SO MAD THE NEXK DAY SHE BLEW UP AT ME AND TOLD ME HOW SELF FISH I WAS BECALSE I DINT OFFER HER SOME OF WHAT I COOKED, AND I TOLD HER WHY I DIDNT OFFER HER ANY. SHE ALWAYS SAYS THINGS OH I DONT EAT MEAT OR I DONT EAT AFTER 4PM OR I CANT EAT THAT . SO STUPID ME FOR THINKING WELL I DIDNT OFFER HER ANY . SO THIS WAS SATUARDAY THAT ALL THIS WENT DOWN, THE STRESS WAS SO BAD THAT LAST NIGHT WENSDAY I WENT TO THE ER I WAS SLURRING MY WORDS AND MY FACE WAS GOING NUMB ON MY LIFE SIDE . WELL THEY TOOK MY BLOOD PRESSURE THE TOP NUMBER WAS 222 /207 WAS THE BOTTEM NUMBER . WELL FOR THIS B ITCH I ALMOST DIED! MY HEART WAS IN LARGED BECALSE OF MY BLOOD PRESSURE ,AND SHE AINT WORTH DYING OVER , WELL THE DOCTORS ADMITTED ME LAST NIGHT AND I TOLD ALL THE NURSES AND DOCTORS I WANTED MY MOTHER IN LAW AND HER DAUGHER BANNED, THEY ASKED WHY I SAID THIS CRAP IS ALL BECALSE OF HER ALWAYS JUMPING ON ME THE ONLY ONE I WANT IN MY ROOM IS MY HUSBAND AND MY DAUGHTER NO ONE ELCE. THAT FELTED SO GOOD TAKING MY POWER BACK , MY HUSBAND CALLED ME TO TELL ME WE WAS MOVING OUT AS SOON AS WE GET OUR TAXES MONEY!!!! I AM SO HAPPY . KNOW THIS ANY ONE THAT HAS A MOTHER IN LAAW FROM HELL THE STRESS WILL KILL YOU DONT WIND UP LIKE ME ! THE STRESS WILL KILL YOU . ASK YOUR SELF IS YOUR WIFES LIFE WORTH THE STRESS FROM YOUR MOTHER IN LAW IS IT WORTH HER DYING OVER YOUR MOTHER ? IF THE ANSWER IS NO THEN STAND UP TO YOUR MOTHER AND TELL HER STOP THEN TAKE YOUR FAMILY AND KEEP THEM SAFE . COULD YOU FORGIVE YOUR SELF YOUR WIFE DIED BECALSE OF THE STRESS YOU PUT HER THREW LIVING WITH YOUR MOTHER IN LAW? WHAT DO YOU THINK? COMMENT ON IT. MY LIFE IS WORTH MORE THAN MY MOTHER IN LAWS HELL MY HUSBAND IS STANDING UP FOR ME . AND IF YOU DONT STAND UP FOR YOUR WIFE THEN YOU CONDONE WHAT YOUR MOTHER DOES TO YOUR WIFE AND THATS SAD! UPDATE: today its valinetines day happy valantines day every one and a special happy valantines day to HURTATWORK (my husband donald) i love ya darling . iam resting at home now. today i went back to the doctor and iam doing better my blood pressure is still a little high but its much better , i told marie (mother in law)that i was taking the fk it way i wasnt letting any stress bother me any more becalse i have a daughter and wonderful husband to grow old and love ,and moter in law reached out to me and hugeed me i hugged her back with one hand. shes bought my daughters favrote pop DR. PEPPER and bought 2 of our favrote pizza, i know its what i cal l the honeymoon stage, iam not sure iam not falling for the niceness iam still watching her becalse this has happend befor she suddling is miss nice again , ive been threw this with her . i think shes seeing she was the cause of me having a mild stroke . i pray hes not falling for it too, iam just praying she stays nice till we move out i still cant trust her after all shes done . but we will see how long the PEACE lasts again ! i dont know but iam not going to let her stress me out again closte to dying . nexk time i may be fatal ....make no mistake her kindness of 3 days dont make up for the he ll shes caused me . she should be paying my hospital bill. but iam not going to push it. and iam taking it day by day. iam holding my breath for her to go back the way shes been for months. hes giving her more of a chance than iam. iam still waiting and watching her becalse iveseen her worst side and if her and i never have a good relationship t dont matter but iam keeping my distance i wont let her hurt me and y family again like she has. she just dont see how she almost cost me my life its all about her ....
sorry about the caps
update nov4,09 JANUARY 16 2009 we bought our house
my blood pressure has went back to normal ive recovered from my stroke
but the lession i have learned never never again will i move in with my mother in law
Ask me if ive forgiven my mother in law yes ,but i know she wont ever admit
all shes done to hurt my family . I would really love to set down and talk with her me and my husband
talk about the things ive doen to hurt her too and ask for her to forgive her but
she wont ever talk about it and if i bring it all back up its a waste of time becalse
i will getthe speach ive wecomed you into my home like she did to me one day
and i told her yes you welcomed us into your home but you bilked out of so much money
i gave up my home for you and i didnt have to that conversation didnt go too well.
but i know the kind of wman she is and she wont ever say shes sorry for what shes
done to us , but iam really sorry so the best i can do is write her a letter to say iam sorry
dont know if i can send it though. it s taken a stroke to wake up my husband what a mother he has.
update feb2010 its been a year ssents we moved out form mother in law
we bought our own house , and i go see her when i feel like it . things are going well in
my health is so much bettter what a diffrence ime makes .
up date march14,2010 my mother in law is warming up to me but i still
iam cautious of her now i think becalse of what i did , i emailed her
a copy form to help her daughter get her gov loan she took out
10 years ago and now shes really warming up to me . but iam just me i wont
s uck up to her to make her love or even like me . i know she was greiving
why she did some of what sshe did but , i wished she could really feel the pain
she enflicted on my family . oh well i can just live my
life and be happy and i will
do just that . we dont visit her much but every time
she calls me she makes sure to tell me how lonley she is . forgive me
but i just dont want to spend much time with her
18 months day in day out
being treated like crap forgive me if i just
right now cant let you back
into my heart . its wanting to jump back in for more punishment.
i wish her well , i dont wish any bad thing to happen to her
and if she needed us we would be there for her butmy relationship's
only on the surface becalse i dont want her to ever have the power to
hurt me that deep again .
up date now its april 15,2010 we have bought our house over a year ago
we dont go see my mother in law very much , i have for the most part forgiven her
for all she put us threw its a hard pill to take knowing she will never ever say shes sorry
for all shes put us threw or even let on thats shes done us wrong used us and mistreated us
durring this her time of her loss of her husband i know now that she was greeving his loss
i do have sempthny for her to watch a man youve been married to for almost 50 years to watch him
fighting cancer for almost 7 years i wouldnt wish that on any one . i feel so sorry for her loss.
it saddends me the relationship i had such hopes for is gone , i think its broken beyond repair
and its the best it can be for what could have been . i had such dreams for a mother in and daughter in
law relationship that really could have been so much more . but now i see even her mother daughter
relationship is broken . but iam now seeing my mother in law can give what she dont possess
and i dont hold that against her . she can give me a relationship she dont even have with her own mother
or even with her daughter . and good bad or infiddrent she is who she is . our relationship is
what it is too . i dont hate her but i dont wish any bad on her . if she called needing us we both would be
there , like we have done . but i will never move back in with her or her live with us never ever
but iam glad now i live in my own home. read the date this was written jan 15 2009 we bought our own house
we live in the nexk town . sorry about the caps . i havent edited my story been working my next book
hehe going to write one on my mosterinlaw . shhh sorry about the caps i will edit this soon.