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Mother In Law And Her Damned Blog

Okay,so we have not spoken to my mother in law in a year and a half.And its been wonderful!No drama, or guilt trips. But now, I am concerned about what she has been writing on her damned blog. She is making us sound like monsters with no heart, if only people knew the whole story! I know we should not care about what she is writing, but now and days employers look to the internet to determine what kind of person you are.
SnowVixen SnowVixen 22-25, F 11 Responses Dec 19, 2011

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If she's making allegations against you that have no basis in fact, or running down your character in ways that could threaten your future prospects of employment, send a letter to whoever hosts her blog demanding that it be taken down. Even better, have a lawyer do it and send it by registered mail.

Just a follow-up. Most ISPs will promptly block domains that contravene any laws as soon as it's pointed out to them. I've had sites of my own blocked merely for quoting something from another site.

So what's happening with this now? Anything?

Well, she still writes about my son and I.But she is no longer calling me a monster,and her behavior has improved.I have thus tried making friends with her, its been a challenge because my husband hates it.I am trying though.

You feel wonderful about not speaking to your MIL. So that really is the solution about her blog. Stop going to it.

We have not talked to her since my son was born,nor has she seen him.Sounds harsh,but the behavior she has is not something I WANT my son to learn.Not to mention she treated him like a accessory when I was pregnant with him.Sad really.

Just act like she doesn't exist, it works like a charm. The only down side is she could ramp up her horrible behavior/comments to get a response out of you. That's what my MIL did, but I just kept right on acting like she didn't exist,. Now I don't give a damn what she says or does, b/c in my mind she's just not worth it. Funny though, now she wants everything to be good between us. But it's too late, I gave her many chances and she blew them all! Now I laugh as she cries and cries, so much for her saying she'd never waste a tear on me! I know it sounds harsh but this demon has tried everything to destroy my marriage and family, not to mention run me down with her car.

That reminds me what a friend of mine said - With some in-laws, by the time you win them over, you don't even care anymore, you're done.

I am in the same situation, my mother in law is a terrible woman and a real pest, six years ago when I was still engaged to her son, she tried everything to separate us. At that time I remember she took a vacation of 2-3 weeks in summer to visit her son and me with the only intention to separate us. She even followed me in town when I was shopping and force me to take a train back home to send me away. I am a very good person and I did not deserved all this. Luckily my husband is intelligent and a good man , he was and he is on my side ! Now we are married but I cannot forget all the bad things that she did to me. She is acting to be the good mother in law now that we are married but this does not full me. Obviously as you can understand I really hate to meet this woman for Christmas or for any other occasions. She alyways complain that she does not see her son .. what a nonsense ! she always find a way anyway to come and see him even when I do not invite her. Fortunately we live in another country , very far from her but because she is quite well off with money she can pay and take several vacations during the year and pay for flights or to take days off .. My husband is fair and if I don`t want to meet or see her, we try to compromise like ( 4 hours today with her but not tomorrow .. etc..).. This situation anyway is causing a lot of stress. I cannot enjoy my Christmas this year because she is here for 7 days , luckly in hotel.

I am in the same situation, my mother in law is a terrible woman and a real pest, six years ago when I was still engaged to her son, she tried everything to separate us. At that time I remember she took a vacation of 2-3 weeks in summer to visit her son and me with the only intention to separate us. She even followed me in town when I was shopping and force me to take a train back home to send me away. I am a very good person and I did not deserved all this. Luckily my husband is intelligent and a good man , he was and he is on my side ! Now we are married but I cannot forget all the bad things that she did to me. She is acting to be the good mother in law now that we are married but this does not full me. Obviously as you can understand I really hate to meet this woman for Christmas or for any other occasions. She alyways complain that she does not see her son .. what a nonsense ! she always find a way anyway to come and see him even when I do not invite her. Fortunately we live in another country , very far from her but because she is quite well off with money she can pay and take several vacations during the year and pay for flights or to take days off .. My husband is fair and if I don`t want to meet or see her, we try to compromise like ( 4 hours today with her but not tomorrow .. etc..).. This situation anyway is causing a lot of stress. I cannot enjoy my Christmas this year because she is here for 7 days , luckly in hotel.

And to top it off, she changed my password on a site that my sons pictures were uploaded on from when he was born.So,now I cannot log in to order more pictures.Right now, I just want to call her and ream her a new one! She is seriously ******* me off!

Internet bullying?! How malicious and shows her immaturity! I understand , my MIL has contacted everyone I work with that she knows, to give them "her side" of the story. It pissed me off. I finally told one lady that I don't want to know or hear anymore. Fact of the matter is no one, NO ONE, will ever truly understand why or how we've come to the point of cutting her out of our lives. For her to include outsiders in our family issues is inconsiderate and disrespectful. Futher proof that our nutcase MILs have no privy in our lives. Hold your head up and don't let her get you down, because that's all she wants is to keep you down. DOWN to her immature level. Don't let her get to you.

Yes,the town in which we live knows what my husband looks like.Because she posted pictures of him,without our permission might I add.She is a recognized blogger in the city where we live so, every time she talks about us we get weird looks. =.=.

That is horrible. It's not the world's - or the Internet world's - business. Totally inappropriate!

It is annoying and it would definitely bother me. Are you saying, though, that anyone reading her blog would know that it's you? I'm not understanding how any potential employer could come across that. Though it may be a valid concern, which is really too bad, to say the least.<br />
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My MIL also tells only half the story - her half. She fails to go on about how nice I've been to her, she's had the strangest things to say about me and to me.

I feel so sorry for you- not quite sure what to say but as an employer, in my experience I would only look at professional web sites that are work related. You may also find that with a Mother in law like that an employer may think that you deserve a break? I hope you and those you love are blessed with peace and happiness in the New Year!! Momamoo 

Its annoying because she always plays the victim.Never really telling the full story or the truth for that matter.I hope they would give me a break because I am not a monster.I am just trying to protect my son.

You're not alone in this- can you change your name? It may make your life easier if you want a fresh start? I do hope things work out for you!