My Crazy Selfish Mother-in Law Torments Me
My MIL is either the root of all evil or simply the most self-absorbed #*!* on the planet. My husband and I have been married for three years and together for six. In the beginning this vial woman was simply moderately rude and annoying to me, yet as time has progressed she has become simply unbearable. My husband is an only child who, on his 17th birthday joined the army (perhaps there was someone at his home that he couldn't stand). Yet since I know my husband is her only child and that he does have a job that adds a lot of stress to his family I have bent over backwards trying to please this woman, and yet she has never once been anything but obnoxious to me. On my wedding day she promised to cater the bridal suite with food for me and my bridesmaids. Instead she brought a bag of carrot sticks (and no, this woman is not a health freak, she is actually rather heavy) and her best friend from college. They then proceeded to drink al of the champagne that was there for the bridal party, send my mother off to handle all the last minute details at the church (as opposed to actually helping out for once, or even going to the church to torment her own son) and then she was so drunk she decided she was going to ride in the limo with me and my bridesmaids along with her collage buddy. She has never once apologized for her behavior. Then at the reception she had her pastor give a blessing which contradicted my beliefs and the beliefs of my friends, while I sat at the table in tears.
Two years ago my husband was preparing for his first combat tour. Knowing how fragile and obsessed his mother was, I thought it would be a nice idea to buy them a puppy to help keep their minds occupied during the deployment. Well, after getting the puppy caring for it four a couple of weeks, and then flying to Chicago with it to deliver it to them, it seemed that I had struck gold and that I had finally pleased this wretched woman. My MIL became so instantly obsessed with this dog, that when my husband was getting on a plane to fly to a war zone, she wouldn't get out of the car to give him a hug goodbye. During Christmas that year, I had an opportunity to go skiing with my family (who happen to be from the same city as my in laws). However my in laws refused to watch my dog (because an extra dog was simply too much) thus I had to stay home, alone on the holidays because of my lazy, selfish mother-in-law. Fast forwarded a year later when my husband is safely home (with a new dog he rescued from Afghanistan) and we have just bought a new home. We fill our nights and weekends playing with our dogs and remodeling our home. As to be expected in the military, we get a call that my husband will have back to back deployments and we only have six weeks before he leaves. Like a good wife/daughter in law, I tell my husband that we really ought to have his parents and grandparents down before he deploys again. I only had one simple request, since I now have two dogs (one of which is a wild dog from Afghanistan) and one of our renovations was brand new hardwood floors, I would appreciate it if his parents left their dog with a friend. My husband thought that was a more than reasonable request and agreed whole-heartedly. Yet when he invited his parents, yet asked that they leave the dog at home, his wretched mother, said NO. She said that she would be coming to our house (on mothers day of all times) and that she would be brining the dog. My husband said he would have stood up to her, but she said if she couldn't bring the dog she wouldn't come down to say goodbye to him. Seriously what kind of emotionally disturbed woman would rather rot in her own home holding a dog that hates her, than come down and spend time with her only child before he goes to war.
Despite all the evil and hateful things this woman has done to me, the worst is that she doesn't treat my husband as well as he deserves to be treated. He's not perfected, nobody is. But he is a great guy and he deserves a mother who loves him and wants to shower him with affection rather than feed her own selfish desires.