I Hate My Mother In Law
i have been married now for almost 19 years and my first memory of my mil is back when we were dating. we were visiting her town and we were supposed to meet at the mall so "she could buy him some clothes"(i had NO idea how dysfunctional that was and continues to be). anyway, when he and i got to the mall on time and proceeded to go to the meeting spot and somehow wound up having some random fight and we left..we were going back to our hometown. i don't even remember what we were fighting about but at the time it was huge. there were ugly words,tears and eventually reconcilation ,then the hubs said we should go back to the mall..2 hours later. WHAT??? no way she'd still be there..this was pre cellphone days. well we went back and back to the meeting spot all the while me protesting. as we stood there debating what to do next, she walked up..2 1/2 hrs. late ..having no idea about what transpired. she thought NOTHING about being so late and offered some lame-*** excuse.
my husband has always refered to her as "my crazy mom" and the rest of her side of the family calls her "crazy aunt s." i don't think she's crazy..i think she is mean and manipulative and deluded and has a reverse oedipal complex: that ontop of ABSOLUTELY NO! boundaries. i have so many stories but the most serious and the most recent are the ones i'll tell today.
when my kids were 8 and 9 we let them go visit her in her town for 2 days. i never let her take them when they were younger because she was so unpredictable and seemed to want them only to "show off around town"..she would not accept or adhere to my rules of nutrition,bedtime..anything really. i was trying to appease but had an overall uneasy feeling in my gut. . even this many years later i still get upset and sick feeling telling this story. essentially, she had them out in her tiny cluttered car got distracted and made an unprotected left turn in front of a hemi truck..they were struck broadside .they had to use the jaws os life to cut out my youngest and he went as a trauma code to the big hospital. my older son was bruised up and she was unfazed. she never called us until the doctors insisted as my youngest had a serious head injury. at that point she called my husband and i didn't find out for another 30 minutes AFTER he had a seizure in the CT machine. we were 2 hours away and that drive to the hospital knowing how bad prognostically a seizure was..was the very worst hours of my life. i was essentially hysterical. thank God my sisters live in the same town and my mom was able to reach them and ask them to go to the hospital. when i got to the hospital, he was unconsious, on a ventalator in the PICU. he had a depressed skull fracture requiring surgery, a liver laceration and a bruised kidney. i cannot tell you how terrified i was. yet, when i got to his room and she was there i was ok..hugged her and asked if she was ok. it was probably 48 hrs. before the anger came and at that point i really thought if i saw her i might kill her..i almost called the hospital chaplan.
by the grace of God my boy woke up 18 hrs. later . he was going to be ok..lots of healing but ok.she never admitted fault though her insurance company settled out of court for many thousands of dollars which was put into a trust fund, finding her exclusively at fault.
i'll have to return to write the most recent transgression..it was bad but nothing can top this one. i have tried very hard to find forgiveness but in light of her continued antics i cannot find it in my heart.
my husband has always refered to her as "my crazy mom" and the rest of her side of the family calls her "crazy aunt s." i don't think she's crazy..i think she is mean and manipulative and deluded and has a reverse oedipal complex: that ontop of ABSOLUTELY NO! boundaries. i have so many stories but the most serious and the most recent are the ones i'll tell today.
when my kids were 8 and 9 we let them go visit her in her town for 2 days. i never let her take them when they were younger because she was so unpredictable and seemed to want them only to "show off around town"..she would not accept or adhere to my rules of nutrition,bedtime..anything really. i was trying to appease but had an overall uneasy feeling in my gut. . even this many years later i still get upset and sick feeling telling this story. essentially, she had them out in her tiny cluttered car got distracted and made an unprotected left turn in front of a hemi truck..they were struck broadside .they had to use the jaws os life to cut out my youngest and he went as a trauma code to the big hospital. my older son was bruised up and she was unfazed. she never called us until the doctors insisted as my youngest had a serious head injury. at that point she called my husband and i didn't find out for another 30 minutes AFTER he had a seizure in the CT machine. we were 2 hours away and that drive to the hospital knowing how bad prognostically a seizure was..was the very worst hours of my life. i was essentially hysterical. thank God my sisters live in the same town and my mom was able to reach them and ask them to go to the hospital. when i got to the hospital, he was unconsious, on a ventalator in the PICU. he had a depressed skull fracture requiring surgery, a liver laceration and a bruised kidney. i cannot tell you how terrified i was. yet, when i got to his room and she was there i was ok..hugged her and asked if she was ok. it was probably 48 hrs. before the anger came and at that point i really thought if i saw her i might kill her..i almost called the hospital chaplan.
by the grace of God my boy woke up 18 hrs. later . he was going to be ok..lots of healing but ok.she never admitted fault though her insurance company settled out of court for many thousands of dollars which was put into a trust fund, finding her exclusively at fault.
i'll have to return to write the most recent transgression..it was bad but nothing can top this one. i have tried very hard to find forgiveness but in light of her continued antics i cannot find it in my heart.
By:
doodlebird
Age:
46-50
,
Female
