She Is Unbelievable
Well I never thought I would have to use a site like this but I am so glad I found it. Here is my story: I have been with husband for almost 8 years, married for 6, he has twins that are 17, that live with us full time, they have been with their father since he & the BM split when they 1, she pays no support and lives out state, Thank GOD! They were never married. However, I am step mom #2, I know what was I thinking???Anyway when I met his family, I thought to myself wow, this is great, everyone is so nice and greeted me with open arms and they seemed like a close family. Yeah they are close all right, there is my MIL, she 3 sisters and the favorite niece I will call "Bully" and they see and talk to each other I think literally everyday. Which sounds great right, I thought so, until my private life became everyone elses business.
Bully is my husbands cousin they are 4 months apart, at first we got along good, she was in our wedding and we were in hers. We had some good times in the first years if our marriages. I should have known that this family was nuts when they got together almost every weekend, and we would drive an hour to see them, I and of course have to spend the night if alcohol was involved, I can remember one summer being there like 7 weekends in a row. I should have ran then. Any way MIL and I always got along pretty good, she seemed genuine when she said she was glad her son had me. But she did and still does call her son everyday if not everyother. It has really gotten on my nerves , does this woman have a life of her own, NOPE. I am 41 and my husband is 37.
Well 3 years ago, Bully & I started to have some issues because well she is a bully,overbearing, always has something to say, and most of all took things that I confided in her and told my MIL. Which it felt completed violated that she would do such a thing. Now in the mean time MIL has a BF of 50 years and her daughter (I will call Jaba )and she is like a daughter to my MIL. We started to hang out with them and Bully was not having it, she became jealous and spiteful and all the while my MIL is taking HER side because she is wining to her that she doesnt know what she did. My husband took an opportunity to tell her what she was doing and how her actions and comments were straining our relationship, you would think she would get the hint, nope she is what she is, and lets just say that I don't speak to her at all anymore even at holidays.
My MIL finally realized she wasn't gonna get her way and that I wasn't budging. In the middle of all of this me and Jaba had a fallen out and that gave my MIL a whole new situation to harass my husband about. Since all of this has happened, MIL has to constantly when ever I see her, she has to always bring up one or the other, talk about just not getting the point, why would I want to hear about either one of them, they are not a part of my life just to give you more of a background, last year I emailed my MIL, and told her that she cared more about "fixing" those situations than my feelings and that I had no plans to reconcile with either of them, and because Bully was a member of the family I would not put myself into any uncomfortable siutations which was always when she was around.
Can you believe this woman still has to make the comments. She has no respect for me or my feelings and it has really strained my marriage. The straw that broke the camels back was Mothers Day weekend, Jaba was having a b-day party for her son, and MIL was going, Jaba is not a part of our lives at all, although for appearances acknowledges my step kids, puts b-day and xmas cards in our mailbox,(she lives around the corner) her mother probably makes her, anyway, the twins were not invited to Jaba's kids party but I knew MIL would try and bring them, she did last year but they were at a sleep over and then she got mad because they didn't go over, HELLLOOO they were not invited why would they! So after a few hours sure enough MIL calls from Jaba's house wanting to know if the one twin wanted to come over and eat ( the other was grounded) After 15 minutes she calls again and my husband finally told her no she wasn't invited. I was furious for gods sake the woman was coming to our house after the party so why ask her to come and eat, Because she wanted her there to have the control. I ended up leaving my own house because I did not want to see her when she stopped by. My husband told her why I left, and if Jaba wanted them why didn't she put an invitation in the mailbox??
He also told her that I didnot want to hear all about the party because she would have done that too, she is so predictable. I have told my husband that I do not plan to attend any future family functions because of her and if she wants to visit I will leave. That's how fed up I am with this woman. We had another fight today because yesterday she wanted to see the twins for their b-day and she never bothered to tell him that she was in deed having a memorial get together with the family and of course Jaba & Bully would be there. I had no plans to go and had a feeling she would do this because Jaba didn't put a b-day card in our mailbox for them. Jaba and her mother & father, Bully and her mother & father all gave my husband the cold shoulder, I told him why don't you point that out to your mother. Again I told my husband that his mother was ruining our marriage because she just won't stop. The family has created her to be this way and they tolerate it, I do not and will not tolerate her BS any more. I am his wife and I told him he has to get some balls and tell her to back off and get her own life and stop trying to run ours. The kicker is she won't, he has had several arguments and he has told her it is what is is and to move on, but she just won't stop. Now I want nothing to do with her or any member of his family. Between her and my stepkids, my marriage is hanging by a thread. Now she can suffer the consequences for her actions. Thanks for letting me vent.