Speak Only When Spoken To.
My MIL is excluding me by sending my husband and children postcards. I have torn the last two up as they were from a holiday distination and asked my daughter to "write to her". MMMMM when shes home there is nothing stopping her to ring her if she wants to. Its an indirect way of using me as her victim game. I left a message last year and now my sister-in-law has accused me of abusing her mother. My mil has not spoken to me about it (probably because it really wasn't abusive - but what a good excuse to change the focus from her and confirming shes a victim.) Anyhow all has been ticking along nicely until again more postcards making note to say hi to Dad. This has gone on far too long and I really am at the point I am not letting any of this game play come into my home. It has taken years but I think because I let the past go my Husband is going to speak to her as he has had enough. I am willing to try and talk to her even though I know the whole family are so close minded and unable to understand from anothers piont of view or do I save myself and children.