Its Been a Month
My MIL still thinks I am mad over what happened a month ago, what she doesnt know is I have no desire to see her at all. EVER. There was a family wedding last weekend and I did NOT go, He went to the cermony, but not the reception and I am sure we were the topic of conversation at dinner that night. Some of his family doesnt want me there anymore that I want to be there.
And when hubby told the mother of the groom that I would not be going all she said was she wished I would change my mind which he told her I would not. However nosey controlling MIL had to give my husband a hard time because the aunt and the groom never did anything to me, which is true but get the hint lady! I do not want to be around any of them, and mind your own friggin business for christs sake! My problem is I know she wont let it go until she gets her way and I know she is talking my husbands ear off (remember she calls everyday) and as much as I WANT to know what she is saying and what HE is saying to hopefully defend me, he wont tell me, and I know it is for my own good.
I know I shouldnt care what they say but I am a very sensitive person and have always worried what people are saying or thinking about me. Chalk it up to low self esteem. And I am prepared to be responsible for my actions and so far so good, my b-day came and went and as soon as I heard her say on the answering machine start to wish me a happy birthday I hit that delete button so fast.
I have put with this woman's crap for my entire marriage. Now my bigger problem is when the holidays roll around, I have made it clear to my husband that I want nothing to do with his family and I know it hurts him, and I am sure she doesnt know this yet, but why should my holidays be ruined?? Because I dont speak to the niece, her husband and her parents have the rest of the family in the palm of their hand, so last year, I was kind of off by myself and talked to hardly anyone and this is a huge family. And I will never put myself in that position ever again.
I really do not want to see or talk to this woman and several other members of this family. Its his family he should deal with them not me. We altenate everyother year and this is her year for Thanksgiving and we always spend Christmans Eve with his side and Christmas Day with mine, and unfortunatley they will be spent separately, he can go with his and I can go with mine, right? Does anyone else have to deal with this?? We do start counseling (again) next Monday, cross your fingers that he tells my husband that he has to tell his mother not to call so much and let us live our own lives.