I Have To Wonder

I honestly don't know how your able to live next door to them and still stay sane. I know for a fact I would have had to move otherwise I would have went the way of a straight jacket pronto. I do know for a fact that the relationship my mother in law had with her mother in law was NOT good!!!



She did tell me that she would dismiss her all the time. Hmm so that makes sense as to why she would always dismiss me as well. She learned it from her mother in law. If i had only known half of what I know now back then things might have been different.



The one thing I would never change is my son. Having him I would do all over again just maybe change the husbands parents/family if I was given that option to. Keep the husband and do a switcheroo with his family. Yeah that would work if only it were possible. LOL...



Not real sure on the dysfunctional marriage part but most definitely the dysfunctional family oh hell to the yes!!! I do know one thing and that is that I gave it my all to his family and it still didn't matter. That is why I am done and I chose to disown them! I will never go back! Stick a fork in me I'm done done done!!! HUGZ...Be Well...:)





*Courage is the most important of all the virtues, because without courage you can’t practice any other virtue consistently. You can practice any virtue erratically, but nothing consistently without courage.

Maya Angelou

My insane mil ever narrated to me on how she spent a full day sharpening her chopper wanting to kill her husband in his sleep.



Thank God she called her sister as a parting call. And this younger sis of her managed to coaxed her not to do it else she will appear on press and mentally traumatize the children to know their mum kill their dad.



But she often hit my fil while he is sleeping. Like she boxed him that night while residing in our guestroom and started a loud quarrel that woke us all.



By now, poor fil will always waked up from nightmare of people attacking him...

That sounds like my FIL to a T. She uses him as her persnal butt-monkey. He doesn't seem to realize or care the mayhem she causes on a daily basis by doing her bidding. I'd pay good money to see him flip around someday and tell her to just shut it. But instead he just behaves like a trained animal. Which is why there is no longer any pity for him. She's nothing but a nasty dominering old hag and why he wants to spend the last few years of life tolerating it I have no idea. But they can keep it on their side of the fence.

I wonder how many of them have issues with their own MIL's, I know mine does.



My IL's are still married but their marriage is far from perfect. Since the day I met them I've always sensed that neither of them are happy. MIL makes ALL decisions, FIL can't even decide what to have for lunch on his own. FIL seems to have no opinions of his own and just spends his life doing as he's told. My husband is disappointed in who his father is, that he doesn't have an ounce of backbone and sure as hell has NEVER done a damn thing to reach out to his own son or made an attempt to put an end to all of the drama my MIL causes. I've never seen anything that even kind of resembled affection or tenderness between the 2 of them, I haven't even seen anything that vaguely resembled conversation between them. FIL spends his life asking how high when she says jump, like that's his way of making her happy, but he seems to get nothing in return for it. He has serious problems with depression which, to the best of my knowledge, didn't start until 5 or 6 years ago.



I have a lot of theories on why my MIL treats me the way she does. I'll probably never know the answer for sure but one of my longest standing ones is she's jealous of our marriage. We have what they don't, my husband treats me the way she wants his father to treat her, and she can't stand it.

don't know why my name is coming up "me". That's not how i sign on. weird.

good for you for seeing through her. The problem with alot of these situations is that the nasty people don't see any consequences for their actions. If more people would stand up to them they wouldn't be able to pull any of this crap. Instead, you read about how so many just lie down and take it. I don't get it. What would happen if they were stood up to? More than likely just throw a tantrum like a 2 yr old.

Sounds like your MIL and mine are the same lady. I've always been a very easy-going person, able to get along with anybody, but my MIL is such a crazy nut-job, I can't handle it. Everyone in her family is so used to it, that they just let her treat them like garbage and just say, "well, that's her, she's crazy." She is divorced, unemployed, and doesn't have any friends, so she has no idea how to interact in the real world.

MY wife and I have been together since 1979.We get along great but for 30 years her mother abused both of us and tried to break us up with lies and manipulation.



My motherinlaw is now an 80 year old drunk that is driving my wife crazy.I've never wished someone dead before this.



The worm is about to turn as her alcohol Dementia is taking hold and my wife and I may get some JOY and PEACE before we die.