CRAZY Asian Mother In Law
I've been with my husband for 4 years altogether, and have been married for half a year. From that half a year is when I began seeing exactly how crazy my MIL really is.
Prior to marriage, during group dinners amongst her family or friends, she would fight to pay for the bill. It's always been an Asian thing to have face in front of family, strangers, etc. However, afterwards she'll start complaining about paying for it, and start rambling about how she doesn't have any money. Other times, she'll offer to pay for my meal when we go out to dinner. I usually don't accept, because she loves adding this line "since I've paid for you this time, remember, in the future you have to take care of me for the rest of my life, also, don't forget that I want my own room in the house/apt that you and my son will buy in the future".
Here is a break down of the crazy things she does. Whenever I go over to my husband's place, she'll be in her own room down the hallway. If she needs me for anything she'll scream my name in the most deafening tone, and expect my presence in .5 seconds, or she'll call me on the cellphone repeatedly. I don't know which is more annoying. I wish she'd have the courtesy to come to me if she wants to talk. I brought this issue up after 3 years of being completely fed up after she called my name from across the hallway just to tell me to close her door.
My husband brought the issue up with her, and she called me on my cellphone. I had just woken up, groggy, and tired. She screams in her shrill voice and broken English "I am (husband's name) mother! (i already know that... i have your number saved you psycho *****) You tell my son that you think I crazy lady shouting you from cross hall. If you think I so crazy why you marry my son, huh? You neva come to my place again, you not invited! Don't you dare come ova!" (all the while chewing and gnawing on a pillow... (what my hubby told me))
At this point I was screaming profanities, because I was deeply confused in the early morning. I'm sure she said some other hurtful things, but the whole marriage thing bothered me. The way she mentioned it. She was the one that forced me to marry her son. Her son promised me a great life. That I'd become a nurse (which I'm about to fulfill in 2 years) and he'd be in the NAVY, we'd travel the world. Empty promises really, because of his discharge from the NAVY, which I don't want to get into. He also convinced me of the benefits of being a NAVY wife, etc. Gave me ultimatums that it'd be impossible to be together if it we don't wed immediately. I crumbled under pressure and agreed. Not thinking about what I wanted, but what others needed.
Stupid me. Now I feel stuck. His mom has been through several failed relationships, a divorce, and now a pending divorce. She is absolutely paranoid, and loves to write hate mails to her son. She writes things like "you will be a failure in life, get a job you loser, i hate you, move out now! You are a waste of life!" All the while my hubby works full time as a bartender. She's so greedy, all she cares about is money and protecting her property rights. Which is why her recent marriage is ending in a divorce. I wonder how my husband is dealing with these everyday happenings and his sanity.
I've been nice to this lady for 3 years! And just once that I stood up for myself, she turns on me. A true backstabber and maniac. I'm convinced she will be the reason for our divorce.
I'm just waiting for the day when we can get a place of our own, and leave that psycho *****. Then she'll have no one, what a sad sad woman. I honestly don't care if she rots in the deepest of hells.