Trashy, Rude, Disrespectful & Irresponsible
I hate my Mother In Law. She has two sons, I married the eldest. She brags about how she got pregnant her senior year of HS. She was a horrible mother to my husband when he was a small child, she was young and irresponsible and repeatedly put him in dangerous situtaions.
She's hasn't changed much since his birth some 30+ years ago. She's diabetic, she has a low sugar reaction every single time I am in her company. She is in her mid 50's and FAR from thin yet she wears Daisy Dukes and high heals and Harley Jackets with fringe. She looks like a prostitute. She feeds off of other men's attention even though she is married. She's trashy as hell and an embarassment every time I'm with her...
She still pulls my husband's strings. For instance - we got an invitation to her best friend from high school's daughter's wedding. Since weekends are so few (and it took a while for us to figure out exactly who the wedding invite was for) I told her we were passing on this particular engagement because we had other plans. So what does she do? She calls and tells my husband that he WILL INDEED BE GOING because she is going and expects him to as well. So the husband cancels our family outing to go to the wedding. He and my 7 year old will attend, I will NOT. This is VERY typical behavior for her. If she does not like the answer she gets from me, she will manipulate my husand into doing what SHE wants.
At Xmas, my husband and I were going thru a hard time and I was considering divorce. She took the opportunity to send him out of the house (big mistake on his part) and she cornered me and wanted to know what I was doing and how MISERABLE her son was... This was inappropriate (oh did I mention that she send me numerous emails letting me know that EVERYONE KNEW we were probably going to get divorced) when she knows NOTHING about the situation. She attacks, preaches and tells me HOW to live my life.
When she doesn't like the answers she gets from me, she will manipulate MY family to get her way. HOW do I make it stop? She called the other day and asked my 7 year old if she wants to go camping with them this Summer. Isn't that the PARENT'S decision? The 7 year old doesn't decide what she is going to be doing on weekends. Another example - daughter had a birthday on a particular weekend and the MIL actually tried to manipulate her into cancelling her plans so she could visit - thank God my daughter stood up to her and told her "NO, I want to go to my friends' party".
She's disrespectful and has SEVERE boundary issues. She knows I don't like drop ins so she's taken to calling and telling my daughter she's on her way over. I take this opportunity to leave the house immediately (thank GOD she lives 2 1/2 hours away). She doesn't get the hint. She still is prying and sending me emails asking me incredibly personal information and I just delete them... do I tell her of my "issues" - she's heard them numerous times but she does what she wants without any consideration to anyone else. My current solution is to avoid her at all costs becuase if I DO see her, it won't be pretty...