Ignorant Mother In Law. Fiancée-to-be Is A Bit Naive About Her And Her Sweet Daughters.

I plan to have kids but I wonder if I'm going to have to put up with my fiancée-to-be blinding himself to his family's cruelty. It took me about 4 years to help him see that she had a mean side at all, or I guess accept it, it seems like he simply dismissed the possibility his whole life until I shoved it in his face enough times that he finally had to acknowledge it, so I shudder to think what it will be like to have a child that I know she won't love the way she loves her daughter's children.

He's a very smart guy, but so stubborn, and it took me FOREVER to make him see how mean his family can be. He was the baby and the only boy, so he just doesn't conceive of who they can be. They still treat him like he's 5. I worry that he may not take his children's side against his socially Neanderthal, racist, cruel and idiotic family. They're a bunch of hicks.... do I want to ever bring a child of mine to their beloved stinky middle of nowhere farm? Not really. I wouldn't mind too much if I knew without a shadow of a doubt that my man would stand up for them and not support ignorance but they say ignorant things all the time and he says nothing about it. I don't know. His sister insulted me and "swears" that she said nothing, so he believed her. It makes me sick to my stomach. It makes me very upset that he believes whatever they "swear" to him and I am afraid that someday they'll "swear" they didn't mistreat his kids and he'll believe that strange bunch of biatches instead of his own children. 
BeyondAnnoyedToShit BeyondAnnoyedToShit
Sep 24, 2012