Liking Her LessLet me start by saying my father-in-law died nearly 5 years ago. At first, she was horrible to deal with and so needy as he spoiled her and did everything for her. OK. She has gotten better with everything and isn't crying every day. Hubby and I are mid aged and married for 6 years.All that said, she has always expected people in the family to visit her at least once a week. She has one other son who has a wife and 2 kids that also are having problems with her demand for constant attention. She wants my husband and me to constantly do things with her because she likes us better than the other son's family. We go to rock concerts and things like that she wouldn't be interested in. We DO take her to shows she enjoys and take her out for dinner and have her over the house at least once a week. Sometimes...more. Whenever she hears we have gone somewhere to see a concert, she gets ticked off. She starts telling stories about so and so always including their mother in on everything they do. We need private, fun time for just the two of us but she seems to find that rubbish. She tells me to cut my hair because I am too old to have it just below the shoulders. She hates the color too. She had to stay at our house the other night because she was out if power at her house due to a storm. We wanted to take her to the other son's house to stay because they had extra room for her as we do not. She cried and said she feels more comfortable with us and begged us not to take her there. (They are great to her and their is no reason on Earth she not go there.) She is just plain selfish where we are concerned. It always has to be us. We brought her to our home where she spent one night because her power came back on the next day....thank God. I was trying to get a little cleaning done...not much but Sundays are my cleaning days and I wanted to sweep and mop at the very least. As soon as she found out she was going to get to go back home, she said to me as I was in my hallway, "I've noticed quite a few things around the house I'd like to tell you about." Well....I was seething because I am a very clean person and have a very clean house. I went into my bathroom for at least 10 minutes trying to calm myself down before going in and reading her the riot act for that remark. My husband had just walked in the door after leaving for an hour and I am glad he did because I would not have been that nice. I bite my toungue with her CONSTANTLY. She thinks she's helping but it is the "Marie Barone" thing with her. Constant meddling, interfering with our time and criticizing. She ought to be grateful we kept her at our house that night. I am sick and tired of her asking hubby to constantly fix things at her house. (Little, petty things) I told my husband what she said to me about the house and he said he was glad she was out of the house and we had it back to ourselves. He said she can be a pain in the butt. He and his mom had a blow up because she is fighting with his son about stupid things and refuses to have anything to do with him. Hubby and she have made up but she will not speak to his son. (She does hold things against people) She is also holding inheritance against her two boys and if they don't do what she wants, they get cut off. She can be sweet as pie but then again, she can be a miserable force to deal with. I find her extremely selfish, self absorbed and demanding and I do have a fondness for her even after all this but she is making my life a tad miserable because we have to be at her beck and call all the time. I am liking her less and less. She is physically fit for her age and is not helpless but she feels she should always come first before husbands, wives and children. I had to tell somebody about this. Am I being selfish here? Thanks for listening.
ihavehadit 56-60, F 3 Responses 0 Feb 12, 2013