The Day My Mother In Law Cut My Daughters Hair
My dghter had a beautiful head of blond curls. But while I was at work my monster in law cut my 3 year olds hair for no apparent reason. She cut her hair without asking anyone. And to be more mean she waited till my father in law was out with my son where he could not stop her! This has very much upset me and I would like some sisterly advice on what I should do to return the wonderful favor in which my wonderful monster in law has done to me and my dgter!
My husband was furious as well. Hair is a big deal to us. My hair is waist length. My husband does not even like for me to trim my hair. My dgters hair was something we had discussed and said we were not going to cut it ever until she decided (many years from now) to cut it. My husband confronted my mil over the phone. He was furious. He says he will make sure the whole family knows what she has done.
This is not the begining of her maddness. Lets go back to ........ 8 years ago .........3 weeks before our wedding..........the church was booked......the tuxs were sized and rented ......the wedding dress was in the closet......mind you we had been planning this wedding for 9 or 10 months.........and we had just had dinner at my ( "future" in laws house) and I was helping my ("future") mother in law wash dishes. When she informed me that her son( my "future" husband) would not be getting married and that he would live with her forever. What could anyone say to that? That she is nuts.......yeah but we have established that already..... To keep the peace and not ruin our wedding, I just put the dish that i had in my hand down and walked out.
After we were married we had bought a fixer upper house, my mil waisted no time telling me where i put everything and what color it should be. She even rearranged my stuff. If I had it one way she thought it should be another.
BUT THE ALL TIME KICKER IS THE DAY I WAS TO HAVE MY FIRST FAMILY DINNER IN MY FIRST KITCHEN........MY HUSBAND AND I HAD REMODELLED THE KITCHEN COMPLETEY (NEW EVERYTHING). I HAD PURCHASED A VERY EXPENSIVE SINK AND IT HAD JUST BEEN INSTALLED( BY MY HUSBAND AND MY FATHER IN LAW. WE WERE ABOUT TO SIT DOWN AND EAT .........WHEN I COULD NOT EVEN BELIEVE MY EARS........MY MOTHER IN LAW ASKED MY HUSBAND HOW HIS X WAS...........AT MY VERY FIRST TABLE ...........AT MY VERY FIRST FAMILY DINNER.....THEN AFTER DINNER SHE TRIED TO RACE ME TO MY NEW SINK TO WASH DISHES FOR THE FIRST TIME .......WHEN MY FATER IN LAW TOLD HER TO STOP THAT THIS WAS SOMETHING I WANTED TO DO.....SHE SAID I JUST WANTED TO HELP...
EVEN TODAY SHE NEVER MISSES A CHANCE TO ASK HOW MY HUSBANDS X IS OR WHAT SHE IS DOING NOW. SHE HAS TOLD ME THAT THEY WOULD STILL BE TOGETHER IF IT WERE NOT FOR HER( MY HUSBANDS XS FAMILY).
WHAT SHOULD I DO TO MAKE THIS SITUATION BETTER? MY MOTHER IN LAW LOVES HER FLOWERS. I WONDER IF SHE WOULD LIKE IT IF I WENT OVER THERE AND CUT THEM ALL DOWN WHILE SHE WAS NOT THERE? OR MAYBE JUST TRIMMED THEM A LITTLE?
Of course I have more self control than that, but it is very hard to deal with a mil that is that crazy. I know that what comes around always goes all the way back around. And the second time around it is not so sweet!!!! Life is short........and anyway I have 2 wonderful kids to raise. I can avoid the monster in law. And I know her maddness will eventually be gone with the wind.
I ALSO KNOW THAT IF MY MOTHER IN LAW TRULY LOVED HER SON AND HER GRANDCHILDREN THAT SHE WOULD HAVE SOME RESPECT FOR HER DAUGHTER IN LAW. SHE VIOLATED HER GRANDDAUGHTER AND THE TRUST HER GRANDSON HAD FOR HER. NOT TO MENTION THE TRUST HER SON HAD IN HER TO PROTECT AND CARE FOR HIS MOST PRICED POSSESSION ----HIS BABY DAUGHTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I could not deal with it anymore. Last night I went over there to talk to her (mil). My father in law would not let me see her. He ended up pointing a gun at me. It is now over I WILL NOT EVER SEE EITHER OF THEM AGAIN. THAT WAS VERY WRONG. HE WANTED TO KILL THE MOTHER OF HIS GRANDCHILDREN.... MY HUSBAND IS FINISHED WITH THEM TOO. WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT THIS????