She Is So Condescending and Husband Is No Help
Hi all, im new to this so please be patient with me. Ok so here is my story.... I have been married for 2 years to a more or less great guy there is only one real problem in our marriage and that is the Mother in Law! Somehow she has everyone thinking she is so lovely and sweet especially her 3 sons, now i know that alot of you have MILs that are abusive towards you and i feel for you i really do but somehow she does everything very very slyly so that no one really picks up on it, she undermines everything i do with my son and is very disapproving of the way i discipline him (although she doesn't say anything to my face, i hear it from other sources) now would she rather i smacked my son??? I have once heard her say to one of her friends that we were an embarrassment to her and when i was organising my marriage she took complete control which of course really hurt my mother, but in trying to please her i just let her get on with it or else there would have been tears and i would have been the bad one. Like i said she is not abusive to me but she manages to make me feel inferior and that i am not good enough by the roll of her eyes when i speak or the little tuts here and there.
Now i can handle all this but everytime i bring it up to my husband we end up in a full blown row over it, i don't understand because quite often he will mention something that my parents do with our son and i take it on board, speak to my folks and its all forgotten about no tears or tantrums but as soon as one word is muttered against his mother all hell brakes loose when all i want from him is to stick by me even if he does think im over reacting or taking everything the wrong way.
So all i am really asking if for some unbiased input, is it too much to ask of my husband especially where our son is concerned to stick by me on my decision's. I really am hurt by all this and i feel that if this continues it will end up ruining our marriage