Just When I Think She's On Track...

Here's one of my favorites from 10 years ago while I was pregnant with my daughter.  I've been with my husband for 15 years, 11 of them married.  We got married when we were 32 and we tried from the start to get pregnant as I wasn't getting any younger.  She so wanted a grandchild that she would come over and go through my bathroom wastebasket looking for personal hygiene items that would indicate I wasn't pregnant, and then confront me about finding them.  after 5 months, I found out I was pregnant the week AFTER my mother was disgnosed with inoperable cancer.  We lived about 20 miles from my mother and my workplace at the time.  I spent my entire pregnancy working 40 hours, taking my mother to chemo and radiation treatments, only to come home at midnight (after leaving each morning at 4am) as I was trying not to leave my mom alone for extended periods of time.  My MIL caused quite the rift as she kept telling me that I should hire someone to take care of my mom as my responsibility was to my husband and her grandchild.  Luckily, I had a wonderful boss and friends who took care of me during this time.  When I was 8 months pregnant, it was evident that my mother only had hours if a day.  At this point, I had been staying at the hospice, sleeping in a chair for a week.  At last, my mother passed away.  My husband and I went home at close to midnight and found my MIL waiting for us and as I got out of the car, she came up and hugged me and whispered in my ear to not be upset as it would harm her grandchild and that it was ok as she was my mother now!!!!  This was 3 hours after my mother died!!!!  I started screaming that she was a self-centered, narcissitic human being and as my hand came back to slap her, my husband grabbed me and led me into our home.   This was the start and I wish I could say that story is the worst, but unfortunately, it goes downhill from there.  No one in Hollywood could make up some of the things she has done.   Take heart everyone, I tell people that I know I'm going to heaven, cause I've been in hell.

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2 Responses Dec 26, 2008

I am so sorry your mother in law is such a cow. I can't believe ANYONE in their right mind would do the things that she did to you. <br />
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I applaud you for your efforts in being strong during your pregnancy and taking care of your mother during her las days. I think you did the right thing for your mother, I would have done the same.<br />
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I just wished that you actually got to slap your mother in law...too bad your husband took your hand away.

This is unacceptable behaviour! Your MIL is a self-absorbed, controlling freak! Someone has once defined evil as the 'absence of empathy'. She is evil. You need your husband to support you, because this woman will not respect boundaries..it is your husband's duty to set these boundaries. Good Luck!