Sick and Tired of My In-law's Crap!
As I've been reading, I have seen that most women have had a great relationship with their in-laws until they've had children. Well, now I can certainly see that my problem is common, although that does not solve anything....perhaps someone may have some sound words of comfort/advice for me...
My son is now 14 months old, and I have only managed to finish one page in his scrapbook. Everytime I look at the pictures of our baby and family to choose the next one, I get incredibly angry, and I begin to think about the day my husband and I brought our son home. We were not getting any sleep at the hospital, because the baby was in the room with us for the 72 hours we stayed at the hospital, and we had constant visitors throughout the day. I was very emotional and borderline postpartum depression. (partially we believe due to the lack of sleep).
So....we asked our families (who had already been in to visit 3 TIMES) to skip visiting until we got home and explained that I was not doing very well, and needed some rest. My mother in law was VERY angry.
The day we brought our son home, my mother-in-law came over, and criticized the way we had everything set up, how we were taking care of the baby, how we shouldn't do this, and we shouldn't do that, he's too cold, he's too hot. I was starting to cry, as I was having a hard time emotionally, so my husband asked his mother to please leave. She was livid, and said that we were wrong, and how could we treat her so disrespectfully, she is very hurt...and will NOT try to understand that we need a bit of space, how dare we....then she gave us the silent treatment for a full week. AND never once apologized, although she got us to apologize for "the way we treated her" ONLY thinking of herself as usual.......
My husband and I have moved out of town for his job, and now whenever we go to Windsor, we have to stay at my inlaws for the duration of our visit. the two of us, our dog, and our baby, are stuffed into the tiniest bedroom in the house, with a single bed, and space only for the playpen on the floor. We are living in way too close quarters, and all they want to do is sit at their house and take pictures of the baby, and keep him up all weekend. they seem to forget that babies need naps.
Now my husband's brother also feels the need to tell me what to do with our son, regarding what time he should be going to bed (apparently no naps and 9:30pm at night is bedtime). I am absolutely livid and I never want to go to stay at their place again.
Things just seem to get worse and worse everytime I see that family. I actually do love them but I am so Angry and so sick and tired of being made to feel like I know absolutely nothing about the care of our son.
Thanks for listening