seriously. most people think she's endearing. she lives with us but she needs to be in a nursing home. she has so many medical problems and always asks me what is this and what can i do about that? she seriously needs to be somewhere where she can get those questions answered. she "falls". but she weighs over 200lbs and noone can help her up. so her sons have to stand there and watch her wiggle her way across the floor to get to a place where she can get up. a lot of her problems would get better if she would walk. she's too lazy. she wants to be able to take a pill and make everything alright. shes so lazy that she puts her garbage (bananna peels, tops off strawberries, empty wrappers, the papers her diabetic syringes come in, etc.) in the sink when she had to walk right past the trash can to get back to the couch. she sleeps on the couch and has for about 3 years. she has a bed. when people do come over, not very often, ther is no place for them to sit because her crap is in all the chairs or covering the couch.she is only66. my kids hate her. they are older with family of their own. we just recently went to see one of my sons that i hadn't seen in a couple of years. about 200 miles away. i told her that it would be late the next night before we would be back. her other son( not the one im married to) was to come over to check on her, and he did. she called me the first night to say that there were bad storms in the area and that if a tornado came thru and killed her, we would know what happened. i asked her if ashe wanted me to call the other son to come get her, ( he lives 10 min. away) she said no, she didn't want him to have to get the kids out. but she wanted us to drive 200 miles back, in a storm, because she was scared. the next day about 3pm she called and asked where we were. i told her we hadnt left yet and that i would call her when we did. she said she thought we might have already left and forgot to call. i reminded her that i had said it would be late. anyway, she called again about 8pm to say the storms were back. we didnt change our plans. it was about 1am when we left. it really burned me up because she knew that i hadnt seen my son for a long time. we work 5 miles away. my husband is 50 yrs old. he still has to call home to let her know that we got there ok. oh, i am invisible unless she wants something. her family knows how she is.her brother, a preacher, doesnt want to be bothered by the situation so that just leaves my husband and his brother. the brother has basically said hedont want to deal with it either. i am so fed up. if anyone said anything to her about going into a nursing home, i can just imagine the hell there would be to pay. she is so manulipulative it is unreal.a lot of the stuff she does is faking. the family knows this but we are the ones that get to sit in the er with her at least 3 times a month. thats down from every saturday. the er doctors finally told her they couldnt find anything wrong with her and to go home and take a tylenol. OMG i laughed.