MIL Gone Babay Gone!
First, I'd like to say that I am lucky because she doesn't live with me. My heart goes out to those whose MIL lives with them. I had to put my life on hold for 6 weeks while she visited. Some of you have much much longer!
She presented us with the final bill....$1,050......I was very upset. She never once did anything kind while she was here. You'd think she'd shower her grand children with affection and gifts....but nothing! My hubby wanted to eat out a few times and I refused unless she paid. I finally told him to shut-up and listen to me. After 20 years he did shut-up and listen and I feel much better. I simply told him I was tired of her being a freeloader. We have 3 children to support and an iffy economy. I had been laid off in December and did not find another job for 3 months so that was a big loss of income for us, but to her it does not matter. I told him that it's very ugly of her not to ever step in and take us out to eat or any other random act of kindness. My mom is always taking us out, etc....
MIL claims to be penniless, yet she always had maids when my hubby was a kid and she did not work. According to the hubby all VZ have maids. His father was a doctor and was 34 years older than his mom. She obviously married for money. So I really doubt she is broke.
She left this morning and I pretended to be asleep so I wouldn't have to fake a sweet good-bye. Of course the hubby woke me up to ask for the code to the ATM machine, which he already knew. It's like he wanted to rub it in just to hurt me.
Anyway, I told him that in the future I think it best if he visits his mother in VZ. That way they can have quality time together without me there. She hates being around me and all the visits turn ugly. Also, since she has been dieing for the past 20 years it may help him deal with any guilt issues he has. He refuses to even consider doing that. I really thought I had a good idea there. Do you suppose he wants to milk the misery and put the guilt on me when she passes?