Extra! Extra! Miracle! Man Asexually Reproduces!

That is the headline according to my mother-in-law at least.  Since we told her that we are expecting our first child, everything she has said has been about my husband as a baby or about how the genes from her side of the family show in the ultrasound (what??).  She has never once acknowledged that this new child has a mother and that the mother is me.

This is her usual way of operating.  She's one of those woman who poured her whole life and worth and identity into her firstborn son.  He turned out to be a wonderful guy.  But when the time came for him to get married, it didn't work for her.  If your whole identity is wrapped up in your son and he marries another woman, where do you go?  You get lost.  So your coping mechanism is to just pretend like "the other woman" a.k.a. your son's wife, doesn't exist.  Just ignore her when they come visit you, make no mention of her when you talk to him -- then everything is like before.  Your weird sense of self worth continues on in your relationship with your son.

It is creepy.

And I was dealing.

But with the pregnancy, I'm afraid things are going to get worse.  If she refuses to have a relationship with me, how am I going to feel about her having a relationship with my child?   I try to be a good person, but I'm not that good of a person.  I'm afraid I'm going to refuse to let my child be with her because I hate her so much.  But that's not fair to my kid, right?  The kid should have a relationship independent of what goes on with the crazy lady and me.

But I'm not that big of a person.  I really hate her.

nikolove nikolove
26-30, F
Feb 14, 2010