Jealous MotherI grew up with an alcoholic mother . I left home, got married, and joined the military at 19 and havent looked back since. When I gained rank and made more money in the military, mom wanted to know if I made more than her and if my wife also worked. When I made the rank of sergeant, I wanted her to be proud that I accomplished that. Instead she gawked at how much more that I made more than her, a 25 year post office worker.
When my wife was pregnant, we came home to visit. My mom gave us her queen sized bed for us to sleep in due to my wife's condition instead of us sleeping in my old twin bed that I used to sleep in while I was growing up. But when she got that booty call from her boyfriend, she came in that night and kicked us out of her bed saying that she needed her room.
Because we were stationed overseas, our son never had the opportunity to grow up around his grandmother. She used to ask are we showing him her picture so that he knows who she is. My thoughts were "If you could sacrifice a visit over here, he would know you better."
The same question was asked once we returned stateside and stationed in Texas. This was after mother in law and grandmother in law made 2 visits.
Mother was not too happy that I married early in life. Not happy with the woman that I married. She also expressed that in front of my soon to be wife but can't understand why my wife harbors resentment towards her. My younger brother is also military and is stationed in Texas receives frequent visits from both mom and his dad. His kids know her more than my kids. Mom sees nothing wrong with this.
Just bought my 1st house after retiring from the military. Mom never owned a house. I invite her and her husband down to see the house while it's being constructed. Rather than her expressing happiness and being proud of son purchasing his 1st home, she says that my cousin that lives in Atlanta has twice the size of house and is a better looking house. WoW! Thanks Mom.
HATE is a strong word to use. But when you tell me that you don't like my wife, don't visit my family, degrade me by comparing me to other family members, TELL me to tell my children that you love them but don't show it but visit your other grandchildren where you are affectionately known as "Nana"....How am I supposed to feel about you Ma?