My Mother Had a Daughter

My story sounds similar to yours. You are so lucky that you have two beautiful kids. I am so afraid to have children incase i turn out like my mother, abusive, emotionally blackmailing and one who doesn't have a good relationship with their kids. I'd rather not risk this since i've had an awful relationship with my mother. Stay strong and move on, your mother is in your past you can be happy you've moved so far.

My mother is a verbally and emotionally abusive woman. I'm now 45 and still, I feel stressed and harassed after I talk to her or receive any text messages. I just blocked her phone no. on my cell phone so I don't have to receive any text messages or calls from her. I am having my landline's phone no. changed. The only thing I can do to keep my sanity and peace of mind is to avoid her.I used to think there was something wrong with me, but now I know there is something wrong with my mother, not me. As a mother myself, I wonder how she could do the things she did to me. I have two kids and we have a very good relationship. I don't know how a mother can be so abusive with her word and actions. I love my children very much and I would never dream of treating them the way I was treated. We, as children are often powerless to do something about it. The only sane thing to do is AVOID our abusive mothers and not let them continue making our lives miserable.

I'm curious.. what your daughters' relationship like with your mother? Does she act like a "normal" grandmother around them or does her abusiveness come out with them?

Your story of your mother is heartbreaking. I had the most wonderful mother and I cannot begin to imagine how awful that must have been for you. You are in my prayers. It seems like you are a great mother yourself, despite your own childhood. Your daughters are very lucky.

That's one amazing story. I hope you'll be happy :)

I meant 56?!

Wow you gave birth at 50?!

I understand you completly. My mother was a horrible person. Herion addict and she put me in the position to be molested for years by sick and disgusting child abuser she called clients. i was abused physcially by my mother actually lets say tortured and neglected but as a child I did everything she told me too in the hopes someday she would love me.

reading your story was is like reading my pass .

just like you i have to lovely and strong girls.

im so happy in life with my hubby who is my best friend my soull mate my love my heart so he is. and let me tell u why im so happy . cos i promist my self never to be like that evil woman i use to call mother to . i will never ever let her break my soul . she did it when i was a kid but not now never , and thats why im happppppppy . let go of her let go of the pass it will make you a better person and give you a clean soul - you are lovely and i love you xxx GOD BLESS YOU sweet lady may the good LORD shine his light on your girls always xxx

I loved your story - You are doing good. It seems a lot of marriages become unhappy - i don't know what the magic or continual happiness is other than diversity in efforts and feeding a positive attitude by getting emotional support from more sources than just your spouse -



You know it's paradoxical to me that me and my sister grew up with a single mom but we recollect a completely different experience. We had different dads and she and I are were as different as day and night.



My mom tried so hard to do everything she could to raise us well. She fell short in some areas because she was a college student , an apartment complex manager and a maid for some rich and famous people. But she was only trying to feed and house us - she wasn't a workaholic. She was loving and kind and thoughtful.



My sister claims my mom was an abuser and a tyrant - my mom was none of those things - my sister was a very selfish person until her later part of her life.



I always wonder if anyone else knows someone like this who seemed to live in a different reality ?

I completely relate to your story. Our mothers sound a bit similar. Being a mom myself, I love my two girls more than anything. I don't have the ability to feel anything else but that love, even when I get angry at them. Our mothers are just sick people who will never experience the beauty of love for your child. Too bad for them.

My mom was also physically and mentally abusive. I am not a mother but my sister is and I love my nieces and nephews. My mom would also hit us with a thick work belt and slap us in the face. I never felt love towards her and she never showed me much. She prided herself on us being terrified by her and one of her favorite things to do when our friends came over was degrade us and say how worthless and ungrateful we were. She lies and feeds on our tears. The more I cry the more she gets in my face and yells. I will b 29 years old nd I still have nightmares of my

Mom. I had another falling out with my mom on sat. And she begged me before to take over payments with my sister on her old house and now that I broke my lease for her she is kicking me out. I miss my dad.RIP

You are a wonderful mother, not like mine. The only reason she stopped abusing me physically is because I got old enough to take it. She still treats me like dirt though. I have tried to love her, but she makes it impossible. Her insults cause a pain in me that cripples my soul. Her words cut me where the scars never heal.

Please, keep loving your daughters with all your heart. Knowing that somewhere in this world children are loved, is a thought that helps me soldier on. No child should have to live the way you or I did.

oops I posted it twice, sorry :/

My mother is also a very mean, extremely irritating person, ETC. For example, she doesn't even care about me. When I get hurt and scream "Ouch!" she doesn't pay attention. Also when I try to do my homework she walks by me all the time for reasons that are excuses just to annoy me. Also, if I get mad at her and call her a bad word, she purposely annoys me back in any way she can besides saying something, DIRECTLY mean to me. She also sends me to my neighbor across the street, a retired psychologist, to make me be nicer to her. She's so stupid she doesn't understand that SHE is the bigger problem in my life. She's also not fit to be a mother. She gets our meals from her work, her job is a Preschool asistant. Why does she do that when she has a college degree in Engineering!?!?!? She's also plain stupid. She has no common sense!!! She's also conceited, and lies ALL the time! She wasn't abused or anything when she was a kid. What the Hell is her problem?

---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------I get almost all A's. I play soccer and the trombone. And I am a leader of a group of 7 boys in Polish Boy Scouts ( Harcerstwo ). I often cry, and sadly wonder why God had to give me this son of a ***** mother who just... is a complete moron with no life, and cares about no-one but herself.

---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------My sister is also turning into my mother. ( A conceited son of a ***** ). I don't want to explain, and don't have to... it's all above, pretty much.

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There is so many bad things about my mother, I can't even explain!!! Uh!!!

I tried waiting it out until I can leave forever ( Hell yes!!! ) It's too hard, she won't EVER change cuz' she's just a complete retard!!! I have 6 years ( I'm 12 ) till I graduate!!!

---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------What can I do, there must be something, to just plain ignore her or, I guess... somehow MAKE her have to change. The problem is... that whenever I try to tell my neighbor about what she does... I forget it all. I have no idea why, and I wish it didn't happen to me... but maybe... I have an idea! For my psychologist neighbor my mother has a journal she rights all the bad things I do in. If I wrote the bad things she did, that might help. But still... please give me an answer, not just nurturing. Please!



Thank you!

- A very sad twelve year old

My mother is also a very mean, extremely irritating person, ETC. For example, she doesn't even care about me. When I get hurt and scream "Ouch!" she doesn't pay attention. Also when I try to do my homework she walks by me all the time for reasons that are excuses just to annoy me. Also, if I get mad at her and call her a bad word, she purposely annoys me back in any way she can besides saying something, DIRECTLY mean to me. She also sends me to my neighbor across the street, a retired psychologist, to make me be nicer to her. She's so stupid she doesn't understand that SHE is the bigger problem in my life. She's also not fit to be a mother. She gets our meals from her work, her job is a Preschool asistant. Why does she do that when she has a college degree in Engineering!?!?!? She's also plain stupid. She has no common sense!!! She's also conceited, and lies ALL the time! She wasn't abused or anything when she was a kid. What the Hell is her problem?

---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------I get almost all A's. I play soccer and the trombone. And I am a leader of a group of 7 boys in Polish Boy Scouts ( Harcerstwo ). I often cry, and sadly wonder why God had to give me this son of a ***** mother who just... is a complete moron with no life, and cares about no-one but herself.

---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------My sister is also turning into my mother. ( A conceited son of a ***** ). I don't want to explain, and don't have to... it's all above, pretty much.

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There is so many bad things about my mother, I can't even explain!!! Uh!!!

I tried waiting it out until I can leave forever ( Hell yes!!! ) It's too hard, she won't EVER change cuz' she's just a complete retard!!! I have 6 years ( I'm 12 ) till I graduate!!!

---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------What can I do, there must be something, to just plain ignore her or, I guess... somehow MAKE her have to change. The problem is... that whenever I try to tell my neighbor about what she does... I forget it all. I have no idea why, and I wish it didn't happen to me... but maybe... I have an idea! For my psychologist neighbor my mother has a journal she rights all the bad things I do in. If I wrote the bad things she did, that might help. But still... please give me an answer, not just nurturing. Please!



Thank you!

- A very sad twelve year old

thank you for having the courage to share your story with us. i know how hard that is.

This song by called Legacy by Kutless helps remind me that although I didn't hold the pen writing my story for many years. I have now hold the pen and can write my story however I want. I have the power to change the legacy that has been left for me to continue. I decide the end and what legacy I will leave for my future generations to continue. I choose to change the legacy left to me and leave one to my children that will not need to be changed.





Oh the memories

Of all the things that shouldn’t be

They take you away from all you should be

Don’t let it go by as if you agree



Chorus

Nightmares of the past will fade away

The future of your name is what will stay

Never try to blame the past for everything you say

You have the power you need to change your legacy



Do you really want to be just like

The very ones you blame who take you away

From all you should be

Don’t just stand by as if you agree

Think of the future and when you are gone

How will you be remembered then

For all time you can be the one who changed the name

this is exactly how my mother treats me, how can a mother be so wicked?

It's interesting u say afta u say ur in ur 2nd marriage that u r still not happy... maybe its because u r relying on marriage to make u happy. Being single or married or divorced it NOT a happiness status, it is a relationship status. Your relationship with yourself is what will make you happy and yes your mother has probably had a big role in damaging your relationship with yourself but YOU can work on it and love yourself, there is no use in listening to a person as ugly as your mother listen to your true self the self that will always love u

hey i'm samantha , but everybody calls me sam. my parents are nice they buy me things and are fun sometimes but they don't believe in me. sometimes when my mum is angry she says things like ( you worthless, go to your room i don't want to see your face , or you're a loser and you'll never amount to something if you keep doing this ) stuff like that. on the inside i'm suffocating . I'm dying . its almost like im drowning in depression and tears and i have already entered the dark side where i've lost all hope in everybody including myself. my bother is possibly the only one in my house who makes me feel wanted. he makes me believe in my self and that i can be anything i wanna be . if it weren't for my brother i think i would've been dead from my countless tries of committing suicide . thanks to you i feel like theres hope i mean i know my family loves me and all but , they forget to show it oh and did i mention the constant yelling and arguing and bickering in my house its like theres always a new problem and im tired i need someone to talk to .

I wish you were my mom!! Haha

My mother never abused me, but she was emotionalyl dead and never gave me hugs or kisses or 'love you's' or anything.

You're a good mom.

My mother is just like yours. I read your story and I just can't help but to cry. My mother neglect me sooo much it hurst to today. I am happily married with 2 kids that I love and I ask myself why? why can a mother do this one job that GOD put in her hands, to love her child!!! why can they do it? if they knew the damage, never mind , they know. why they keep on abusing their daughters? is not fair.



I was emotionally batter by my mother that til this day I trust nobody, at least female but me. My mother slept with my fiance when I was 21 years old, she told me that it was one of my best friends, but it turned out to be her. she acted as if it was nothing wrong I just lost it and joined the military. After that she never visit me contacted me it was MY job to make things better, by visiting her pretending nothing happened.

Then I found a better man got married, she never came to my wedding never helped me when I got my first baby, or second. waitted 5 years to see her grand son. and some family menbers (her side) tell me to forget and forgive. well I have honestly forgave, but don't want her in my life. she is toxic waste to me. People want me to call her on mothers day - I don't think I can-

Yes my mum too is selfish. She even tell others that i am ugly... talk bad about me to others. She has a habit stealing my things. She is inhumane. Whatever that comes out from her mouth is all about wealth and beauty. But i am lucky that i have a have a good mother in law who is totally opposite my own mum. Though my mother in law loves her children more than anything else but she is not mean to others. Nowadays i never give a damn of my mum well being. I dont bother to call her any more because she never talk anything positive. I feel bad for behaving like this to my mum but I really can't stand it coz if I talk to her it would make me hate her more...

Your story hits so close to home for me, thank you for sharing. I know exactly how you feel. The pain never, ever, ever goes away. My Mother has made my life a living hell. Why? Because she's selfish, cold, bitter and soulless. You're fat, ugly, a liar, sneaky, a martyr....all of these I carry with me. You have given me the courage to post my own story....now where to begin???

@lilgirlwithsomuchpain6438



well assuming you are 10 it is just too sad.

you are already joining adult forums to discuss

problems when you should be jumping hoops!



that is the problem with child abuse.

you begin to do adult things by the time you are crawling.



much sympathy and god be with yah.

sure

I know how u feel. Im a teen and my abuses me most of the time. I do have sisters and they help me but it still sucks

My mum has hated me since i was little, she got divorced from my dad when i was about 6 and my dad raised me until he also got sick and i had to take care of myself from age 11. Life was really tough but i struggled sometimes sleeping on the street because i had nowhere to go when my mum had a hotel that she run. I decided to go see her one day and she actually kicked me out at 12 midnight when she got home and was informed i was there. When i had my first daughter she refused to come see me , my dad helped me with the baby when my daughters dad asked to meet my mum she refused to meet him she actually said she did not have a daughter.She has always loved my brother. Once she realised i had become succesfull and financially okay she started getting closer to me, but i never trusted her. Its soo strange my 6 year old daughter would never warm up to my mum but would gladly warm up to my dad.Mum has always and is always praying that my business will go down and my brother should do better than me. This has ruined the relationship between myself and my brother . i dont want him near me because i am always scared my mum might even convince him to poison me. I hate this woman soooo bad i dont think i will ever forgive her.I have low self esteem now, cant talk in public all because of how she treated me when i was little.

PLease SOMEONE SAVE ME FROM MY MOM