Time Does Not Heal All WoundsOver 32 years ago I had a child out of wedlock. I was 21 years old. Before I got pregnant I was a college student, and my parents were proud of me, my Dad had me on a pedestal pretty much. Then, when I got pregnant it was like a complete turn around. Naturally most parents are going to be angry, but my parents came out and told me they'd never care about me, or love me again. For the next 4 years they made my life torment, from physical abuse to namecalling. I even went to the welfare agencies and they refused to help me---they pretty much said I deserved the flack.I do not have any use or trust for social agencies to this day. So, I left my son behind, and the hate my family felt for me. Eventually I married, had another son who is now 24 and the light of my life, and he has a little son, too. I also have a shaky, but good relationship with the son I left behind who is now 32. However, my parents still will not speak to me after all these years, and my Father is still saying horrible things about me behind my back. He even told my husband that I am a stupid, crazy *****.My Father has even told people around these things, he still does. My father is a right-wing old-fashioned sort who thinks women should be virgins until marriage, but it's OK for guys to fool around with anybody. I have had friends who have said it seems my Dad regards me like a cheating spouse instead of a daughter.He even said if I had been a guy he would not have had the attitude toward me.
Like I said, you can understand parents being angry at a "wayward" daughter, but to continue this coldness and hatefulness for 32 years? Please tell me this is not normal!
Yeah, I hate my parents, at least i am still hurt and angry with them for this stupid attitude. I think they never really cared about me at all.
nightwisp1957 51-55 2 Responses 0 Oct 23, 2010