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Let Me Live

i am so over my parents. them constantly taking away my rights and freedom and constantly ruining my life i just cant deal with it anymore.  i just want to live my life and not have to constantly have them on my back taking my phone and making it so i HAVE NO LIFE.  i just cannot wait till i can move out and live my own god dam life.

brr617 brr617 16-17 83 Responses Nov 21, 2008

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Unlike most of you here I don't hate my parents. I love them, but I sure as hell hate living with them. My parents are catholic and old fashioned. They swear they know everything about life but they don't, they haven't even let themselves live and experience yet bc of their mentality, all they know is what they see on the news, which ofc is bad so they shelter me and never let me out of the house. I'm 17 and never once in my life been to a party, I'm not one for parties so I don't really care, but I've asked for the hell of it and the answer is always no. I've never done any drugs, or drank, I've never had sex, hell I've never even had a boyfriend, I keep straight a's, yet they refuse to grant me with the least bit of freedom. I've been friends with my best friend for 11 years and I'm not even allowed to sleep over, what is that? They're like you don't know what could happen, you could be raped. They know her parents, prob as well as it know my best friend. What they say is ridiculous, I'm not even allowed to stay over at other family members house. I once got asked out and they told me that they have to meet the guy and go with me on every date, if I ever wanted to go to his house to meet his parents I'd have to take my mom, I'm 17, wth is that? I don't want them to meet a guy if I don't even know if I like him yet, needless to say nothings happening with that guy. My parents get mad bc I don't like to clean, I know how to clean and cook I'd just rather not to. When I told them that when I'm older I wasn't gonna be the one to clean, they told me my husband was gonna beat me up bc of it. That no man would stand me, that no man would want a woman who can clean, that I'm never going to get the career I want, that I'll never be in a position in which I can hire a housekeeper. What parents tell their child that their husband is gonna beat them up bc they don't like to clean? It's Fourth of July today, we were supposed to go to the beach but now we can't bc I got my period, I looked it up online and it said to use tampons and that you can use them if you're a virgin. I told my mom she got furious, and kept questioning me on whether or not I've had sex, she wouldn't let it go. She said that tampons are only for women who have sex, that I'll lose my virginity and no man will want to marry me bc of it. They bug me about my weight and make me feel insecure, all they do is offend me and focus on my bad but never the good. Out of my four other siblings I'm the one with the most promising future, yet my mom told me to my face that I am her worst child. Me, the one who will actually do something with her life. They never tell me they're proud of me or appraise me for the good I've done, they seem to only focus on the bad. I'll be 18 in 6 months, and next summer I'm going to a college that is 6 hours away, I just need to leave already. My parents say I'm going far away so that all I can do is have sex and do drugs, they are incapable of believing that I just want a good education and to not be surrounded by their negativity. All my friends have a good relationship with their parents and it makes me incredibly jealous bc I will never have that with them. Last night my dad said I was a maniac and that he didn't know what I was waiting for to get out of my house. I want nothing more than to leave, I feel sorry for my siblings who have to endure their stupidity and negativity. They are close minded and stubborn, they are the type of people who believe women stay home and clean and men work. They are the perfect example of what I do not want to do with my life. I am grateful for everything they've very done for me and I love them more than I should, but I would rather die than raise my kids the way they raised me.

Here's the sitch. I've had this problem with self harm for a while and I've been making an effort to stop lately. I've only had two relapses in 7 months. However one of those relapses was a few days ago and my mom just checked me. So I was supposed to go to this party tonight and my mother won't allow me to go. She says it's punishment for my relapse but I don't understand why they choose to punish me for my self harm instead of making an effort to talk to me or get me a shrink. I know what I did hurt her but that wasn't my intention. Why do you think she is punishing me and what is the best course of action for me to take?

This is so me oh my gosh. You were probably a teenager when you wrote this so I am assuming now you are are like 22ish. Plus you prob won't read this but hi I'm 16 and this is so relatable. My parents don't let me do anything and I even currently have my phone taken as I type this. They are so overprodective and I can't wait to move out. I can't stand them and their so-called parenting skills. They are literally crazy and I want nothing to do with them. I don't mean to sound like a snotty cliche teenager but these are the facts. Its freaking spring break and I'm not even allowed out of the damn house. Wow ok I am done. If you read all of this, thanks for listening to me vent.

**** I hate my parents
All they do is refuse to let me go out and then whenever I do ask to go to a party or whatever my dad takes me into the basement and used to beat me with a stick

I also hate my parents, they bought me a new laptop but then when I do bad stuffs they take it away -_- every f*cking time. some times I need my fvking laptop for my hw but I cant use it coz my parents have them. Fvck my life. ! my laptop is my only freedom, they are lucky because im not like other kids or teens dat smoke take drugs or go to parties and drunk all night, but me? Im just inside my room just to play or do browsing stuffs, but they take it away from me. They cant stop me from yelling at them because they stole my freedom. Like WTF? do you think I'll be happy? fvck it. I love my parents but I hate them from taking all my rights. FVCK ! btw Im already turning 16 and Im about to go to college but they treat me like a 5 yrs old. see? fvck my life.

You sound like a spoiled brat

and you sound like an ignorantasshole

HOW COULD YOU SAY THAT TO THAT POOR KID WHO JUST WANTS TO LIVE HIS/HER OWN LIFE?!? Brbkms is totally right; who the **** are you to judge?! You are a really horrible, selfish, stuck-up, smug, judgmental assclown who doesn't care about anyone but yourself! Plus, calling that poor kid a "spoiled brat" just because he/she is simply crying for help/just wants freedom is just OUTRAGEOUS!!! WHAT THE **** KIND OF POINT ARE YOU TRYING TO MAKE?!? I've just properly reported you, so STOP TROLLING AND GO SOMEWHERE ELSE!!!

WHAT THE HECK DUDE THIS IS MY LIFE STORY!!!!!! i am 16 too, i received a nice macbook for my birthday but I'm technically not even allowed to use it for pleasure reasons, only for school. and they even take it away when i need it for hw! then they get mad when i yell at them about it but they can't take anything more away from me so i really don't care. its so ******* annoying like what the hell I've never smoked or had sex or any of that **** but yet they treat like a damn prisoner. like what the hell did i do to deserve this! i have no sort of freedom and i basically live prison cell so i can relate 100%. whenever you feel down, just remember, at least you're not me.

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i hate my parents with a burning passion! I know anything about the outside world at all cuz im sheltered! i have to hide stuff from them just to keep in contact with family... I cant be myself around them... I have to pretend to be tht teenager that they want me to be... But thats not me! And they dont even support what i do at all! Not even my decissions or choices! I cant live at home at all anymore!

I hate my parents too, fair enough they grounded me at the end of last summer cause I got drunk at a Party and stuff but still 6 months is too long! But I didn't complain and I stayed in and missed all the party's and things for 6 months! After a month of freedom, I go into town with my friends and one of them
Gets hurt! I wasn't even there! Now apparently 'I can't chose friends' and 'I am putting my self in danger' so they grounded me again for another 6 Months! Are you joking! I didn't even do anything wrong and all my other friends who were actually there when he got hurt aren't grounded at all! I am wth!?! I hate them so much I want to leave home all the time! 12 months that's a f****** year of my life gone! I'm 15 in a week they need tiger over themselves FFS.

really are you ******* serious you are turning 15 and you are angry your dads grounded you for getting drunk at your ******* age. dude/gal you seriously have to start thinking better you deserved that one but the one of your friends yeah its a bad one from your parents but hell everyone does mistakes like the one you did with the alcohol. Im not saying you should be a saint hell no, make your mistakes learn about life but know that with every dumb turn you do there are consequences right now those consequences are the grounding and those things but later when you dont have your parents those consequences will not be a simple no going out to parties or no going out, NO bro/sis enjoy life but dont throw it to the garbage. we are all tooo young to be depressed but at the same time we are in the age that one big mistake can make your life change in a really bad way.

My parents bought me a laptop for a Christmas present, every so often they would have this tantrum and take my laptop away cause they feel like it! I done my hw helped clean things but they still do everything to take my freedom away. They never say Thank You instead they want more.

I know what your feeling,my parents treat me like a slave

OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG. my mom and uncle let me get my license, get a car, and insurance. The only problem is that they got me a STICK(manual). The only way I can drive is by learning, and they aren't teaching me. Now that I went threw all that ****, I'm not even able to drive.
Now all of the sudden, they don't want me to hang out with my friends because they think it's dangerous or whatever. I practically cry everyday because I have to reject my friends and they think that I hate them. I just wish I could find someone else with this problem, and like talk to them. UGHHHHH. It's not fair.

dude... we have the sane life... i also hate my parents.. they always take or they always get my happiness.. and they take my freedom... hate them

Parents can be VERY retarded. I'm 14. Trust me. My Mom's Dead, but, I live with my pops. Tru$t me.

I read some of your responses, i'm preety much just like most of you. I just look at it and I hope we remember all these things one day and be better parents. Better than them.

well.........!!!! i understand your problem....your parents is not good of doing all these..it is too much bad...& i wonder that how you are affording all this......leave your parents if they dont loves you.....you can create your own life...where there is no one who commands on you. only thinking....could not give you anything..go....step ahead.....and make your own life......ok let me tell you something about my life...i'm girl of 15........i want to leave my home cuzz....I dont want to stay there any more.I have soo many problems in my life. The Big problem iz related to my parents..... i dont like them...cuzz they dont alow me to go out with friends..even.....the nearest place to our house......... nor even alone.....my whole day is passed in my room.....i dont have freedom at all ....whenever me and my friends make plan .....of going somewhere.......i never get permitted by my parents.......they dont like that...i go out with friends.......they want me to stay at home.........can any one ...pass their whole life in home.Just i go 2 collage .at morning ,then nowhere.Even on weekend i cant go out ...so..in view of all these ..how can i satisfie with my life....i am facing all this for many years . but i think that now is the time to take some action.........i hv planned that i'll leave my house...& I'll create my own life....where there is no one...who commands on me....& i think it is possible...it is surely possible......but some times i think....that it will be more better ...if i have a girl partner with me .....so tell me....do you want to go with me........we can start afresh.....& i'm saying you...cuzz after leaving my home....i'll leave my country as well....& i'll shift in a safest country...of the world......but..... there i dont know anyone.......& also m going alone...so...dont you think.....that a girl feel safe when someone is with her.....& in other words........if a girl want safety she needs a company.....so now the decission is up to you....tell me if yes........

Same here, my dads a jerk he drunk all the time wastes of the little money we have on cigarietts and he complain about EVERYTHING I do and he never leaves me alone, he also calls me bad names..:(

dont hate your parents, hate their personality, background, understanding of religion, fanaticism and views of life..

I'm 16 male and my parents have refused me to go out at all!!! for parties. this is now gonna drive me back to cutting - easier than breaking my fists or destroying everythin' in the house

Parents/ dont even like there kids to be in a good position, patuality , ego ..!!!! no responsibilites taken for there kids...

I hate my parents too , my mums always judging me , calling me names and I'm tired of it I wish sometimes I cud just live in a hostel or something just to get me out of there, I have ran away from it several times I just don't know what to do anymore.

i hate my parents to they dnt let me do nothing i want kill them they dnt let me go nowhere i cant even walk to my grandmas who lives 3 blocks down and my dad thinks its funny he says no cause he could no because i did something wrong i want to cut his throat in his sleep

well.........!!!! i
understand your
problem....your parents
is not good of doing all
these..it is too much
bad...& i wonder that
how you are affording
all this......leave your
parents if they dont
loves you.....you can
create your own
life...where there is no
one who commands on
you. only
thinking....could not
give you
anything..go....step
ahead.....and make your
own life......ok let me
tell you something about
my life...i'm girl of
15........i want to leave
my home cuzz....I dont
want to stay there any
more.I have soo many
problems in my life. The
Big problem iz related to
my parents..... i dont
like them...cuzz they
dont alow me to go out
with
friends..even.....the
nearest place to our
house......... nor even
alone.....my whole day
is passed in my
room.....i dont have
freedom at
all ....whenever me and
my friends make
plan .....of going
somewhere.......i never
get permitted by my
parents.......they dont
like that...i go out with
friends.......they want
me to stay at
home.........can any
one ...pass their whole
life in home.Just i go 2
collage .at morning ,then
nowhere.Even on
weekend i cant go
out ...so..in view of all
these ..how can i satisfie
with my life....i am
facing all this for many
years . but i think that
now is the time to take
some action.........i hv
planned that i'll leave
my house...& I'll create
my own life....where
there is no one...who
commands on me....& i
think it is possible...it is
surely possible......but
some times i
think....that it will be
more better ...if i have a
girl partner with
me .....so tell me....do
you want to go with
me........we can start
afresh.....& i'm saying
you...cuzz after leaving
my home....i'll leave my
country as well....& i'll
shift in a safest
country...of the
world......but..... there i
dont know
anyone.......& also m
going alone...so...dont
you think.....that a girl
feel safe when someone
is with her.....& in other
words........if a girl want
safety she needs a
company.....so now the
decission is up to
you....tell me if
yes........

well.........!!!! i
understand your
problem....your parents
is not good of doing all
these..it is too much
bad...& i wonder that
how you are affording
all this......leave your
parents if they dont
loves you.....you can
create your own
life...where there is no
one who commands on
you. only
thinking....could not
give you
anything..go....step
ahead.....and make your
own life......ok let me
tell you something about
my life...i'm girl of
15........i want to leave
my home cuzz....I dont
want to stay there any
more.I have soo many
problems in my life. The
Big problem iz related to
my parents..... i dont
like them...cuzz they
dont alow me to go out
with
friends..even.....the
nearest place to our
house......... nor even
alone.....my whole day
is passed in my
room.....i dont have
freedom at
all ....whenever me and
my friends make
plan .....of going
somewhere.......i never
get permitted by my
parents.......they dont
like that...i go out with
friends.......they want
me to stay at
home.........can any
one ...pass their whole
life in home.Just i go 2
collage .at morning ,then
nowhere.Even on
weekend i cant go
out ...so..in view of all
these ..how can i satisfie
with my life....i am
facing all this for many
years . but i think that
now is the time to take
some action.........i hv
planned that i'll leave
my house...& I'll create
my own life....where
there is no one...who
commands on me....& i
think it is possible...it is
surely possible......but
some times i
think....that it will be
more better ...if i have a
girl partner with
me .....so tell me....do
you want to go with
me........we can start
afresh.....& i'm saying
you...cuzz after leaving
my home....i'll leave my
country as well....& i'll
shift in a safest
country...of the
world......but..... there i
dont know
anyone.......& also m
going alone...so...dont
you think.....that a girl
feel safe when someone
is with her.....& in other
words........if a girl want
safety she needs a
company.....so now the
decission is up to
you....tell me if
yes........

i hate my parents to they dnt let me do nothing i want kill them they dnt let me go nowhere i cant even walk to my grandmas who lives 3 blocks down and my dad thinks its funny he says no cause he could no because i did something wrong i want to cut his throat in his sleep

i hate my parents to they dnt let me do nothing i want kill them they dnt let me go nowhere i cant even walk to my grandmas who lives 3 blocks down and my dad thinks its funny he says no cause he could no because i did something wrong i want to cut his throat in his sleep

i hate my parents to they dnt let me do nothing i want kill them they dnt let me go nowhere i cant even walk to my grandmas who lives 3 blocks down and my dad thinks its funny he says no cause he could no because i did something wrong i want to cut his throat in his sleep

i hate my parents to they dnt let me do nothing i want kill them they dnt let me go nowhere i cant even walk to my grandmas who lives 3 blocks down and my dad thinks its funny he says no cause he could no because i did something wrong i want to cut his throat in his sleep

i hate my parents to they dnt let me do nothing i want kill them they dnt let me go nowhere i cant even walk to my grandmas who lives 3 blocks down and my dad thinks its funny he says no cause he could no because i did something wrong i want to cut his throat in his sleep

my mums a b*****! not only am i not allowed to go out with my friends, i cnt eve f****ing go to school on saturday for revision for my f****ing GCSE exam !!!!!!!!!!!! arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

i know exactly how you feel. its the same for me. and when i do something they over exaggereate and ground me for long times. i named my dad sissy on my phone and i dont have my phone or ipod for a month. and prom and my school orlando trip are coming up! im so scared for them not to let me go. my parents make me hate life and i truly wish they died the worst death possible. to all those people saying we dont know what we are saying and that we will understand our parents later on.... shut the **** up because you probably never went through what we are going through. im 13 i 8th grade and they still treat me like a child. c'mon im about o go to HIGHSCHOOL! i think i would be happier living in a foster home! ughhhhhhhhhh! i hate them

I knw what u mean ... I'm not allowed to watch movies on T.V .. i'm not allowed to sit n my room and write my diaries .. every few moments they're checking me ... I WANT TO LIVE! they interfere in every single thing in my life! ... I feel jealous of my friends who say "i love my parents"

All i want to do is go out with my friends its feels like i am in prisoin tbh all there care is about them selves i wish i werent cba with them taking what my slibing does on me that im going do its sucks i just hate life atm and there just make it woser

That's exactly how I feel, I have no privacy and no space either. They will not leave me alone they have to know who i am out with, and if they don't know them then thats to ******* bad for me. I swear to god I want to kill them sometimes, they **** me off so much cutting off my freedom and making my life a living hell. I have told them that on my 18th birthday they wont see me in the morning because I will already be gone, living my dreams and being free. They said thats fine with them and that untill i turn 18 i am a stupid little girl who knows nothing about life.