I Can't Handle Her Drunk
We've been engaged for just over a year now. I love her to death, but some things she does just make me wish there was a tangible reality check to show her how things are. I mostly chalk that up to issues that come along in every serious relationship. But tonight was too much. Long story short, her cousin came up from down south to visit for Christmas, so she used that as an excuse to celebrate and get drunk. Before long, our upstairs neighbor invited us up for more drinking, and next thing I knew there were 7 of us in her apartment drinking and shooting ****. My problem is that when she's drunk around other people, she just gets stupid. She dances with the girls and practically ignores me. Case in point, I decided to come back downstairs to our apartment. It took her 20 minutes to come down and see where I went, and when I told her I wasn't going back up there, she barely said a word and went back up to party. I can hear her distinct screaming from here. It just feels disrespectful when I'm obviously uncomfortable with the whole thing and she plays it off like it's nothing and continues to do it. I know what it's like to act young and stupid, but come the **** on. We're both in our mid-20s, and she's always after to me to get a job (I go to school full time and get a government paycheck for it while she has a career as a pharmacy technician). She's always talking about our fuure and how invested she is in it and how she's grown out of stupid things. But even so, this is how she acts. What gives?