My sister in law doesn't like me
Before you read this, I know the group name is "I Hate My Sister in Law" but I do not hate her at all, this is about how she hates me.
My sister in law hates me because I am a nice and happy person! She also doesn't like that I talk too much. I have known for a while that she hates me, but recently I found out how much she hates me. It is ridiculous to hate someone for smiling and talking too much. I don't do anything bad and I do lots of good things for people - Many people have told me that I am one of the nicest people that they ever met. This all started when I got engaged to her brother (she's older, so now I think it pissed her off that she did not get married first.) She's been mean to me for a few years now, and I am still super nice to her. I have done so much for her, it is unbelievable. The first huge fight that I had with my husband was because she was treating me like crap - he thought it was in my head at that time. Now he agrees with me and believes me - ever since then, he started paying attention to how she treats me. The sad thing is that I am the only person in her life that she treats this badly. I still wish for her to be happy and do not understand how she could wish so much hurt and sadness for me. I recently found out how much she hates me and it hurt me so bad that my stomach hurt for several days from the stress and then I got sick since my immune system was down from all of the stress. Several people have told me that she is jealous of me (for several reasons - getting married first and doing very well in my life.) Her parents know she hates me and have tried working with her to not hate me. She has improved in front of them, but now she is secretly mean to me (so that they do not know she is being mean to me anymore since I talked to her folks about the issue.) I have put up with so much - she literally ignored me like I was not even in the room (would not look at me) for almost a month, she excludes me from any gatherings that she can, she is nicer to strangers than to me, and to top it all off she is close friends with someone that had done horrible things to a child - who is awaiting trial for the death penalty. She literally hates me because I talk too much - since when is that a worse thing than what her friend did? The worst part, I still wish her health and happiness even though she probably wishes I would die or divorce her brother. I also still want her to like me and not hate me anymore. This website is a true blessing, I can finally vent with people going through the same thing.
For more background: I have never ever done anything mean to her and have not put her down like she does me and my family. I have done so many good things for her and I was so stupid because I thought she was actually starting to like me again - wrong, my husband was right to tell me to stop hanging out with her because she was only using me. I have also been trying to talk as little about myself as possible in front of her and have let her go on and on about herself - but I still notice that she gets mad if I bring up how my day was or how things have been in my life. She is rude and and most people think it is cute because "that's just her personality." Ugh, it's sad to know that being nice to somebody can make them hate you. What is wrong with this world?