Hey, Women, Please Give Honest Comments About This.

I am going to post this story again in hopes that I can get some honest comments and opinions from girls on this matter.

I am a white male in my early twenties and I will likely live a short a life, mostly because of my very undesirable body and within that, my small hands and arms, bad teeth, huge head, bad stretch marks, fat belly, and a small and crooked penis. Its is roughly 5in by 5in. (I rounded up) Besides this I am not horibly ugly but I am now getting fat at 190lbs now because I just don't care about taking care of my body for the sake of finding a partner who will not be satisfied anyway. I have only had sex with one girl and in my mind at the time, it was a very serious relationship. It was six years ago. It only lasted about nine months and its the only relationship I have ever been in. Its was a long distance relationship and I now strongly believe that she was cheating on me most of the time and she defiantly was at the end of it. When we were together she would sometimes say things like "it needs to at least go up to your belly button." or she might kind of laugh and point at the tag that was on my underwear that said "hang ten". I didn't get that at the time, but I do now. Its a long, painful story but in the end, the day after I broke up with her (after she was acting suspicious and I heard from people that she was cheating on me) she called me up with some other dude who was saying "hey I heard you have a baby ****" and she was whispering "baby ****" and telling me that her past f-buddy was much better in bed than I ever could be and so on. I should also point out that during this relationship she basically forced me to get engaged to her. I never treated her badly, not ever. She would never put any effort into sex especially if it was oral or anything where she had to do something, she would just f around holding it not really doing anything. Whenever I went down on her and a small handful of the times we had normal sex and she seemed to be enjoying it she would tell me that I'm "driving her crazy" and have me stop. I cannot forgive her to this day. I am not at all open to using any kind of toys or extenders or any of that ****. I, myself have strong sexual desires, but apparently from the research I've been doing using the real world and the internet I will never have a girl who wants to fulfill those desires because I am physically inadequate. So in these last six years I have had absolutely no 'more than platonic' contact with a girl. I don't want anything but a serious relationship, but I guess when it comes to what I want it doesn't matter because it seems that there is no one that I would consider "adequate" myself, who would have me. It seems as long as I exist in this physical body, I will never be happy and will always feel soul crushing pain/loneliness and feelings of hatred, envy and wrath. Girls probably think I'm rude because I hardly ever say hi to them or say anything to them but the only reason I don't is because I feel that it is pretty pointless because either it is impossible for me to ever be with them or they are already so tainted or I know that they have been with guys who I'm sure are bigger down there than me so I just don't try at all. I have nothing to offer them that they would actually want and consider it enough reason to stay with me. I also don't want to be just tolerable enough to stay with for awhile, I want to be a girl's everything and nothing less so they don't even consider other guys even in the slightest bit. I know that  that is supposedly unrealistic but I don't care, thats how I feel and I will not be lied to about that. This is the only way that I can express my feelings because I can't trust anyone enough to tell them what the main problem is because it is exactly the kind of thing that everybody, especially girls, just love to make fun of. And its not like a damn thing can be done to get rid of this problem. My existence is a contradiction to itself: what I need the most, I am the most ill-equipped for. I don't think that there is a one or anyone (for me) at all. I don't have enough personality or enough ANYTHING for any girl that I would like. I don't want to play up the 'motherly instinct' in a girl and I don't really want pity. What I realistically want now is a permanent rest from this, I want this to end. Also, no religion, it does not help.

So girls, is it wrong for me to feel this way? Just give it to me straight I need to know your opinions.

22-25, M
5 Responses Mar 28, 2009

I don't think you should feel this way, but I see how that girl would make you feel this way. Thank goodness you broke up with her, though. I promise you will find someone for you that respects you and will do anything to make you happy. And about your penis size, there are definitely girls who prefer it. My boyfriend is 6'3'', over 200 pounds, and barely 5'' hard and I think he's perfect! :)

Hmm... posted over a year ago... I'm a bit late here. Nah, it happens.<br />
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To me it sounded like that girl just wanted to pick on you, I guess it's some sort of humor. These kind of people can always find something to laugh at, so I don't think a size of one's **** is a real issue... at least it shouldn't be. Girl wants a gigolo, girl should go and look for a gigolo, plain and simple. <br />
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What you really seem to need is an egoboost. How to get that is another matter. It sounds got damn stupid, but people are attractive when they feel they are. Sorry to belittle your problem, but you don't sound that serious case to me. (No killing meh, you asked honesty!) Learning to socialize and interact 'correctly' takes time and is a nasty road, but some of us just don't have it in the blood.

Saying that you will never be able to give a girl what she wants is an exaggeration. I know men who are smaller and staisfied women perfectly, and many women don't care about it at all. Women can be really ****** cruel man, alot of them. I remember my first cruel girl, they're purposely hurtful, don't take it personally. After a while, you learn to not care as much about the mean hurtful things they say, and just leave them if they pull that crap. There are many women out there who are not like that, you just ahve to look for them, and be careful.

Even if you did round up...you fall into the statistically 'normal' size. I think this girl wanted to shift the problem of the relationship failing from her cheating to you. Turning the tables on you and using what she knew would get your goat. All men have 'size' issues. Just like a majority of women have weight issues. I think you don't give yourself enough credit!!!! Dont let someone who is cruel and didn't deserve your kindness to start with ruin you.

Understandable and agreed. She still used it as a tool. That's all I meant :) Thank you for your correction.

You're welcome :) thanks to you too

I agree with WynHaven! The size doesn't matter as long as you give it what you got! I have had both and actually the smaller guy did better! I am sorry that you had to have a bad first experience with a girl who had to play you like that! Give it time and I am sure you will find the right person!