Adult Stepdaughter Causes Arguments Between UsI moved in with my partner about six months ago and we have a baby together ...anyway to cut a long story short my partners daughter who is 22 was already living there for a while( she had moved out before becuase she was arguing with my partners ex and it caused a fight between him and his partner and this was partly the reason they broke up.
Recently his daughter caused a huge row by involving his other adult daughters who do not live with us and all have their own families etc by complaining to them about me being in the house and my child getting in the way with toys and bottles etc.they had a meeting with me which turned into an attack ...I was very upset and angry about some of the things said as i was told that this meeting was a chance to build bridges and hold out an olive branch ..and it ended up in being a slanging match about how i should not have got involved with their father and broke his last relationship up (which was over anyway and they hated each other) my partner was also completely unaware of what they were planning they basically attacked me to try to push me out of the house verbally ..after this they proceeded to try to cause more problems by inviting my partner and my baby out to dinner but make a point of not invting me..my partner was very suportive and picked them up about their behaviour at the time and just said we were all to try and get on and be civil with each other regardless what opinions we have of each other..
since then the daughter that lives in the house has continued to find fault ..complain etc and i hear about all the things she is saying though my partner..i suggested that i cook a meal for his family to settle them and keep them happy and he thought this was a great idea..i did and it went ok although his eldest made some inflammatary comments which i ignored about the cooking which was excellent and the rest of the family enjoyed it immensely. I still feel angry about what was said and his daughter is still complaining about whatever she can..but my partner has said he does not want me attacking his daughter..so i am not allowed to even speak to her about the issues even though she lives in the same house.
I am at the point which i have told my partner where i would be more at peace in my own home if i moved out ..i have about two months till i can financially afford to get my own place for me my partner and baby but i feel like this situation is tearing our relationship apart i dont want to have sex with my partner because of the stress and now he feels rejected.... not sure what the best thing to do is???!!!my partner says if i leave then it would be the end of the reltionship and that he will not move his daughter out either
I guess i just have to wait for a couple of months and then move us out me my partner and baby and tolerate her moaning in the meantime beacuse i am not alowed to adress her about anyhting otherwise my partner will be furious with me and say i am attacking his precious daughter