I Will Never Again Open My Heart To My Evil Step Daughterwhere to begin.... this will most likely be very long. ..........
I first have to say I truely hate my stepdaughter. I met her when she was 14. she has lived with her bio Mother all her life and still does.
when I first met her I really did not like her, and I think it was more due to her Mother. for the things her mother did to my husband.
but I never showed her I didn't. I always talked with her did things for her. for a couple of months she was coming around and things seem to be going well. then out of no where she stopped coming around and calling. 3 months later out of no where she starts talking to me on the computer. then she started coming around again. then again as things seem to be going fine, poof, she is gone again. months goes by again, then I finally caught on, she was only coming around her birthday then again christmas. at this point I started to back away from her. she will tell us it's her moms fault. that she would give her a hard time about coming around us. would tell us storeis about how her family steals her money from her. (which i fell for, cause i would give her money) lies after lies from this child. I really never thought someone could lie as much as she has.
about a year has pasted no word from her. then all of a sudden she appears. yup, birthday time. this time when i walked in my door she was there, and the first thing i said to her is what do you want? she says my Dad.... I laughed, and said you have a funny way of showing it. she put on fake tears. i was falling for it. she continue to come around, and then she started talking about wanting a car...... my husband said do you think we could help her, sign for a car or something. I said no, but we can help her find a car that she can pay for. that day was the last day we seen her for a year.
mind you, I have done a lot for this girl. first I accepted her as one of my own. I treated her the same when it came to chrismas, birthdays or just in general. but I do have to say. I went above and beyond for this kid. her own father never spent a dime on her. it was always me. I went out of my way and had gotten her a job, that last 2 weeks. she always had some excuse as to why she couldn't come to work. and it wasn't because she couldn't get there, i went out of my way to pick her up and drop her off.
anyway, the storeis she would tell I always felt sorry for her. the way she said her Mom and stepfather would treat her. (but it turns out to be lies)
back to the story, after we told her we would help her find a car, she stopped coming around. I had found out that her mom's mother had given her a car. thats why she stopped coming around.
so time goes on, then again she decides to come back into our lifes. this time, she seems different. maybe a little more grown up. ehich she should cause now she is 20 years old. she ends up getting pregnant, and she tells her father and I that the guy told her to get an abortion or he is going to have her jumped. a friend of ours happened to know this kid/guy she was seeing and he tells us that the guy is nothing like she says. so my husband wants to meet this guy and ask his friend to bring him over. so me, I tell my stepdaughter thinking it's the right thing to do. so I tell her what her Dads wants and she said that is fine. she was ok with it.
the day that the guy comes over, she sends me a message telling me she is not coming over, she wants nothing to do with us and to have a good life. then I get a message from her mother asking me about a mental meeting we are trying to do on her daughter. had said that the guy is going to say anything to get us against her daughter. i ask her why she would even think that. but I didn't get a reply back from the mother or stepdaughter.
anyway, we met the guy, and honestly he is nothing like the stepdaughter said he was. he did admit that he ask her to get an abortion and he said this, the only reason is because she doesn't want to be with me, she treats me terrible. and that he did not want to try and raise his child for the good and try to keep the trash people from not talking badly about him to his own child. (that is her family, they love drama)
she told this guy that I had sex with her x boyfriend, that I did terrible things to her. I could not believe my ears. I was so ashamed of my stepdaughter to talk about me in such away to someone I did not know. after he left my husband and I said no more. can't do this any longer. I waited until the next day to say something to my stepdaughter. and from there it;s been a nightmare. death threats from ehr family. oweing me money and not repaying it. lies after lies. she went so low to send aim text messages to my husband and I, that I need to pack my **** up and take my dead sisters kid with me. ( yes my sister passed away that year, and left behind a 6 year little girl, who we have adopted)
my stepdaughter is a very sick evil toxic person. I still can't believe someone can be that evil. all the **** that she and her family did and said, I truely wanted to kill this girl. I would wake up some nights and that is all I could think of, is wanting this girl dead.
2 years agoes by, and I get a message from her, saying she wanted us to be in her childs life. ( another pregnancy, she did have an abortion wit hthe first one) so this child she has is 3 months old now. I talked to my husband about it and at first he was like no way. not going to put my family through that bs ever again. but we dicided (i know stupid is stupid does) that we would see the child. I told her up front that what she did before she can not do again. she has a child now, you can't do this to your own child. she tells me she wants to do the right thing and have her baby be apart of our lifes. I told her I did not trust her. and I told her it's all in her actions of what she does not what she tells us. so she said she is going to prove it to us and that I was right all along. and that i did nothing to her. and it was her, that she liked causing drama. but she is changing for the better. so with that, we allowed her to come over with the baby. that was in may of this year. things were going well so we thought. the last time we have seen her or the baby was oct 8th. not a word nothing as to why. I do have her baby's father on a site of mine and we have talked. and it's funny from what he has said about her and what I have told him about what she has done to her father and I, he does not want to be around her. says she is not a good person at all. he takes the baby 3 to 4 days a week over nights. says she can't handle it. so now, in order for my husband to see his grandchild, the baby's father brings him over. we got to see him the week before christmas. and said when ever we want to see him he will bring him over. he will send me messages to let me know how the baby is. the stepdaughter does not know anything about him bringing the baby over. he said once she comes to her senses, and starts coming over own her own again then he will tell her. but the think is my husband and i do not want her to ever come around again. I know for sure that if she ever treid to walk into my home I would choke her to death. but on the other side, I feel bad for the baby's father, cause when she does find out, she will probably try to keep the baby from him. and i have told him that, but he said that would never happen cause she knows I would win in court.
so this is some of my story, i know very long. thanks to the people who made it this far :)
now the question is, is it truely wrong for me to hate my stepdaughter?