I Hate My Stepdaughter

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By: Juny2100

Written on January 25th, 2013

I met my wife when she was a single mother and her daughter was 2 years old i raised her like my own we had 2 kids together and I always treated her daughter like my own but 14 years after can't stand her daughter shes messing around with all thes boys being disrespectful I just want her out

By: Juny2100

Age: 31-35 , Male

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weeklyta

To want to put your her out is kinda unthinkable shes ur child but its time to do somthing about this it is not ur fault because she is a person who makes desisions too.now that a boy is involed its going to be a million times worst its time to be stricter be the bad guy she will thank u later in life show her what the word respect means because untill u show her ur seriouse she wont care what u say evrey teenager is diffrent some stay sane while other lose there minds.the hardest part is her boyfreind.and after u gain some respect back start the stage of rebuilding ur relationship find thing u both like to do togather.

Jan 29
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- Juny2100
  Don't get me wrong I couild see if the boy was even a little all right but this punk kid all he does is play with her head and only wants sexual acts the way I know it's because I checked her Facebook and it was disgusting what I read I stoped half way threw it and said I can't I waited for her mom to come home and told her look at what your daughter been up to she's a freak I have 2 other kids in the house whoe are younger I can't have that
  
  Jan 29
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- weeklyta
  Then there u go u have to get rid of the boy because he is feeling her head with crap how i dont know .try to tell her how her boy friend is suppose to treat her he should respect her.but i hope u dont call her names to her face because thats no good either.
  
  Jan 29
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- Juny2100
  We tried geting rid of that boy telling her do you see you know your self that he's no good he's cheating on you you found out so many times he don't care about you.she said that's not true he does care and that's the only person I care about in this life
  
  Jan 30
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- weeklyta
  Im not sure if u two talk alot but if u dont u should and if u do u cant talk to her as a father right now or she will only push u away more u have to be calm and understanding let her talk and dont cut her off just listen tell her u dont care what has happen in the past u are stating a new day and u love her and she can talk to u about what ever then after she is done u talk to her not at her talk to her as a friend cause she has to feel comfortable to talk about her feelings then slowly talk about her little sibilings and how they need to see a good role modle (excpecly if there girls) because they see u do and think its ok.it wont be easy but giving up wont help at all u have to keep trying but keep your cool even if it gets hard.shes at a hard place in life with peer pressure.and feels he parents dont know anything.but soon she will realize how horrible this dude is (hopefully its soon than later)and that the parents where right and when that happen be there for her dont say i told u so say.try hard to make a good relationship with her.she love u i know it and she cares even though she says she dosent.
  
  Jan 30
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justpitty

I don't know what state you live in, but it's about time you put a "foot to her ***" figuratively speaking. Scare tactics don't work much unless you can get everyone involved, there are plenty out there. Put your foot down! and make sure your back is (wife) is 100% behind you otherwise it wont work. Like you said it's hard to be a real parent these days without offending someone, get over it and past that. Do what you feel is right to get her the help she needs. and if all else fails let her fall flat on her face. I told me mom once that you can tell a kid what not to do, try and make them learn from your mistakes... but in the end sometimes they have to find out the hard way. I regret ever saying those words to her because it did come back to bite me in the butt. But i am grateful she did let me land flat on my ***.

Jan 27
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turnbacktheworm

I feel your pain. I have a good stepdaughterbut we fight all the time. She used to worship me from 2-7, but the troubles started slowly after that. Now at 14 we fight so much. She's intelligent, but manipulative. And I'm not saying that could have done some things better, but overall I've been a loving parent. Daughters often resent their fathers when they become teens, i just find it harder to forgive the disrespect, maybe because she isn't my bio. It's definitely a competition for her Mother's love and done deep down resentment that her bio father is a loser, who hasn't seen get for 10 years. Like you, I'm giving the love, respect, the house, money and food she eats. What do i get? I've tried all the strategies, now it's gonna breakup my marriage. Mum thinks she's a saint and I'm the adult. So i shills be able to accept the way she treats me. I deserve respect...don't i? I'll be the victim, no wife, and no longer living with my daughters.
I don't hate her, but resent her. Then I feel guilty about the resentment. Will she grow out of it?
Can it be fixed? So many on here complaining, seems like a common problem.

Jan 26
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- Juny2100
  don't feel guilty these teens now a days a'll they care about are themselves we do more for them then there bio father. and don't let it affect your marriage .these brats shouldn't have that power
  
  Jan 26
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lovingcarefully

i see this... and honestly , im disgusted. when you married her mother , you married her daughter. For better or for worse. You said you raised her like your own. Would you ever want your own kid "out." Listen , the best thing you can do is SUPPORT and LOVE YOUR DAUGHTER along with disciplining her. Cause once she doesnt respect you (she wont if she knows you want her gone) then things will get a hell of a lot worse.

Jan 25
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- Juny2100
  don't get me wrong you don't know the hole story last year she got pregnant she got an abortion she said the only person she cares about is some punk kid who's cheats on her and gave her stds and all she wants to do cause trouble for her mother and me
  
  Jan 25
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- lovingcarefully
  but shes your daughter. not biologically , but by marriage. Support her , love her , care for her , and respect her. Trust me , i know where you are coming from. I am hell on heels for my stepfather , but guess what? At the end of the day i love him and he loves me , and we have a great relationship. Its YOUR choice whether or not you guys do.
  
  Jan 25
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- Juny2100
  it's just to the point that I can't even look at her or even see her walk in around the house or here her voice
  
  Jan 25
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- lovingcarefully
  thats , your fault , not hers. look deep... realize what you are thinking. learn to love her. she is still that baby you met at 2. shes just going through a rough time. she will out grow it.
  
  Jan 25
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- Juny2100
  how is that my fault I only want the best for her I know she's a minor but Dam she has to respect her parents that's the problem now a days peopile are to scared to say how they feel because of sensitive people like you who
  think we should bend over backwards to these brats
  
  Jan 25
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