OMG!!! I'm About to Go Insane!!!
I am so glad that I found this sight. I thought I was going crazy for the feelings that I was feeling towards my soon-to-be stepdaughter. Before you read, please do not judge me. I need advice and hopefully will be able to get some help on this issue. Here's my story.
My soon-to-be stepdaughter drives me crazy. I think it's partially her dad's fault, too. Well, I have a 6 year old son, Marlon, and my fiance's daughter is, Alisa, who is 7. My fiance and I have been together for over 3 years now. The first year was great with the kids. We all bonded effortlessly. We have Alisa every weekend and throughout the summer. When we do have her, she is a pain in my behind!! She whines and cries about EVERYTHING!!!! She calls adults fat to their face even though she is overweight herself. My fiance and I had talked to her numerous times about calling people names, but she still does it and my fiance does NOTHING to correct the problem. She lies so much and I have caught her in so many lies, too. Her dad puts her on this pettistool and does nothing to punish her when it's needed. He always tells me that he will talk to her, but never does. She gets away with EVERYTHING, BUT WHEN IT COMES TO MY SON, OOOOHHHHH NNNNOOOOOO, MY FIANCE IS ON HIS BUTT RIGHT AWAY. Anyway, Alisa is 95lbs. so far. She is constantly out of energy, so when we go out, she is always complaining and whinning because SHE is tired. She doesn't care that everyone else is enjoying themselves. My fiance always has to cut things short BECAUSE SHE DOESN'T LIKE IT OR SHE IS TIRED. My son just had a tonsillectomy and adnoidectomy. She cried for so long just because Marlon got to eat popsicles and she didn't. She is ALWAYS in competition with Marlon and with me. She always has to have Daddy's attention no matter what. I can't stand the crying, the whinning, the babyness anymore!!!! I hate to say it, but my skin crawls the very sight of her. My anger goes through the roof at the very sound of her voice. I don't want to be like this. I want to bond with her like she is my own daughter, but how do I get past all the anger that has been built for so long???? I honestly think that she is the reason I get out of the relationship.