I Feel So Guilty.
I am the adult so I should not be acting this way, but I cannot STAND my step-daughter. My husband and I have been married for only six months. We eloped and I must admit that I really didnt know what I was getting into. He and his ex have split custody so she is with us a week at the time. It has taken me six months just to teach her simple table manners. She eats like a horse and eats more than my dh. She is 11 and weighs 120 lbs. No one says anything to her about her consumption of food. My mother-in-law lets her eat anything she wants and so does my dh. They also have terrible eating habits. She dresses like a hobo and wont wear anything nice that I buy her. She bosses my 6 year old around like he is a dog. My dh always makes excuses for her no matter how she behaves. I dread the week that she is coming and feel relief when she is gone. I try to plan events when she is not going to be with us because my nerves are always shot when she is around. She is extremely immature, even for 11. I feel guilty for feeling this way but she gets under my skin so bad. My son loved her at first but now he has grown tired of her bad manners and bossiness as well. I truly feel like it is coming between me and my dh because he always sticks up for her and I just feel like the mean step-mother always fussing about too much butter, too much mayo, too much juice, go comb your hair, clean up your mess. If I fix her food for her, she still gets more because she is starving. I have only been married for six months and I am growing more miserable by the day because all I can think about is how much I despise this kid. I feel like the problem lies within me, not her. HELP!!!!!!!! Her mother's last boyfriend didn't work out because he didnt like the daughter either, so I'm not just being picky.