Feeling Helpless to My Stepdaughter's Cruelty
I am feeling completely helpless to deal with my stepdaughter's cruelty toward me. Hopefully some of you can offer a few words of advise, or maybe just relate to my dilemma.
I don't have any children of my own, and I am newly married to a man who has two grown daugthers (ages 25 and 27). The 25-year-old is newly married herself, and there are no problems between she and I. However, the 27-year-old is a different story altogether.
She hates me.
She is single and didn't move out of her father's house until she was 26. She is completely helpless to do anything on her own and calls her father at least 3 times a day asking how to do things such as figure out her student loan statement, cook fish sticks, put anti-virus software on her computer, etc. She has very few friends, and doesn't date. My feeling is that she doesn't date because she is a cold and unapproachable *****.
She is jealous of me and resents my intrusion into her life. Before I came along, the sun rose and set on her, in her father's eyes. And while he still adores her and still pays plenty of attention to her, I guess it's not enough because she has decided to punish me for my very existence in this world.
She does this by completely ignoring me. She will not acknowledge my presence when we are in the same room together; she will not answer me when I speak to her; and she looks away if I look at her. I guess she has decided that if she ignores me, I will go away.
I've tried speaking with her father about this, but he just makes excuses for her. He says she's just "moody" and a bit "depressed".
Christmas Eve was a nightmare. She walked into the house, walked right past me without a single glance or a single word, and then sat on the couch and proceeded to read a book. When her sister and brother-in-law arrived, she put the book down and talked with them, but continued to ignore me.
She's sullen, moody, cold and ruins every famiily get together we have. I cannot say anything to her because it would really upset my husband.
Any suggestions on how to deal with this??