Getting Rid of Yur Stepdaughter

I wanted to share my story because like all of you I hate my stepdaughter! However, I took action and got rid of her, from my life at least. I live with my fiance who had is 8 year old daughter every weekend when we first started dating. A year and a half later he sees her 3 to 4 hours every other weekend at his parents house. She is not allowed at our house because I don't want her too. I moved us further away from his parents so it takes him longer to drive, and I got rid of her room in our 3 bedroom home. She's an idiot, she'll be 9 this year and she can not even read and she's getting held back. I think it's histerical and to think I actually tried to help her in the beginning. None of her family cares enough to help her with schooling, but that is not the point. I wanted to give little details on how I did what I did so if it will work for any of you, you can use it! First I claimed we needed alone time, which got the visitation to every other week. Then he started working on weekends and I told him I am not his babysitter and I am not her mother so he has can not bring her to the house. Then one time when she was at our house (last year) she didn't listen to what I told her to do so I tore into her dad, he refused to talk to her about it so I told him that she is no longer allowed at our home. She hasn't been here in over 6 months! Since then I got rid of her bed and put a guest bed in the room, and I have been progressively throwing away her toys. Since we just moved into our new home they are still packed up so no one ever knows the difference. We moved another 30 to 45 minutes away from his parents house so by the time he gets off work on fridays he has no time to see her, and then he works saturday and then i let him go to sleep and don't wake him up so he dosen't go up there saturday until like 6. Then Sundays after work all he has time to do is go get her and take her home, which I join in on. I want to make sure she associates me with leaving and no seeing her dad. And sometimes I even fight with him when he goes to see her so he assoicates seeing her with us having problems, and sometimes he dosen't even go! Ladies trust me there are a million things you can do to move your stepdaughter further out of your life. Plan vacations on special events, demand that every other holiday you spend with your family (I did that one too, he hasn't had her in 2 christmas's!). Accidently have made plans with friends on her weekends, and tell your husband way before so he dosen't think to count the weeks and goes ahead and agrees! I love our life now that she's out of our lives, our relationship is so much better! Good luck!

cellens11 cellens11
199 Responses Jul 25, 2009

I wish it would be easy to get rid of his brats but its not.. He always put them on a pedestal like they are untouchable. It's like my child is illegitimate because we are not married but his kids he had them while he was married so they deserve all his love affection and money. He barely gives me rent money, i have to pay for food, hydro, cable, internet, most of the rent if not all of it. Outings, outings with his kids, i pay for his clothes, i give him gas money!! For christ sake it's like i'm his mother!!! And he's so in love with them they could get away with murder. I want him and his girls out. I am sick and tired of being the laughing stock. I have to care for me and my daughter and not worry that my blood pressure will go through the roof... Now that they are on a trip i wish they will get lost and never return so i can move on with my life and him with his...cuz no matter what happen im done with this guy. He's a leech and he's clairly getting his way with me. I have to pay if we go out with HIS KIDS... I have to pay for the groceries when they come over. And they are mean and disrectful and messy and dirty. I try being nice to them and they are still rude, i bought them toys they never said thanks. I never did anything to them. If i did i would not make my case here. But im so over being nice. I want out!!

you only see your side of this but what about that child i am a 14 year old bipolar girl so i am up and down i got a step mum who does not understand me my Dad used to spend lots of time with me until he met her she pushed me out of there life i never yelled at her or got angry at her the only reason she doesn't like me is because i am slower than the other children my age you don't understand what its like to be in this situation i step so lightly to make her happy but she just didn't understand my illness i am getting better now although i can't prove that to them because she won't let me go there my Dad was taken over by this psychotic b*tch and i would never ever do this if i were to become a step mom you all don't realise you are all horrible people GOODBYE

You're a terrible human being.

Omg I ******* love you 😍

My stepdaughter is 27. She is a totally disrespectful human, to her father and I. She just graduated nursing school (at her fathers expense), but failed the NCLEX twice. She's obviously an idiot. My husband also pays her house payment (and she is married), but he told her he would help until she graduated. She's a user and a loser. And sooooo jealous. I have two daughters, but they are 17 and 19 and do not live with us. She hates all of us. I have bent over backwards to do things for her, including her in events, gift giving, etc. This selfish ***** did not even attend our wedding!!!

Yea. She's walking on thin ice. I've been nice. Now I'm over it. I'm about to show my *** with her, so I may end up in a divorce myself. And I'm not talking about not taking care of a 6-8 year old child. I'm talking about this grown ***, married woman, using her dad, disrespecting both of us. #icant

This is vile!! I know its an old post but you are a really horrible human being!! How can you live with yourself???

OMG..I think I just saw your twin in a movie 🤗 (Cinderella the mean stepmother)

Hello co-stepmonsters! Like all of you, I despise my stepdaughter too. However, I never met her because she lives far away (LUCKILY) BM and SD were supposed to live here but I cursed them(In my mind) that they will go back home and they magically did after trying to live here for 2 weeks!!! So, since then my husband goes and sees her every 4 months! because I asked DH to cut his trips to her. Before he sees her every 70 days. But I don't want a husband who always leaves! I just loved him not his baggage!

My stepdaughter is a complete spoiled brat. She gets away with EVERYTHING! She tells horrible lies and gets away with it. She peed on my brand new carpet leading into the bathroom, admits she did it on purpose. ( she is 6. Fully potty trained). She will poop her pants anytime we go to my family get togethers. She will make herself puke all over my kitchen, table. Etc. So I have to clean it up when her father isn't home. She goes back and tells her mother we don't feed her etc. And to top it all off.... When we found out I was pregnant...we bleached our second bathroom to get it clean for our preemie (born 8 weeks early, low immunity) we informed her not to go in there because it was cleaned and the baby could get really sick from germs etc. I come home from work and the child had pooped and smeared if everything in the bathroom. On the shower curtain, tub, door, walls, floors.... She has a mental problem and the worst thing...her father didn't believe me. I had to send him pictures!!! Ridiculous. I am lost now. I don't know what to do. I really hate her.

I absolutely Hate this child that he has living with us!! She has brings nothing but pure DRAMA every time she comes here...and now she lives here...and Drama has begun!!! I am seriously thinking of leaving this man because I cannot stand the sight of her and I have told him this several times!!!
He always puts it back on me..saying "you don't like anyone!!! "You don't like my friends, my family and my daughter" response to him is maybe we don't need to be together!!! I hate my life!!! My son locks himself in his room to avoid's really bad!!! I am so depressed...I hate my life!!!

Hi Nikki I had a very similar problem. My daughter and his are 10 years apart. Mine lived with us from the start then he said his had to come stay with us because it was unfair. Well she had no respect towards me nor did she listen to me. I told him she had a problem and eventually i took her to see a therapist well the therapist reported back that she did indeed had a problem she was pure evil and a manipulator. I then decided that either she goes or i leave. A friend of mine gave me this advice. Don't every let them think they have won. Turn the tables around. I let my husband start doing all the running around for her, checking her homework, dealing with the school and his in laws and he had to pay all her financial needs out of his budget and i would do the same for my child. I also made sure that i was never home on weekends my daughter and i left early and he had to deal with her. Well it worked he soon got tired of everything. Sent her packing to the in laws. I thought everything was over but then she insisted come to visit every weekend. I made sure we had plans or i faked illness. I made sure there was nothing nice to eat or to do at home on weekends when she came and let me just say that it worked. if she does come it's like every 6 weeks for an evening and then i make him take her back early the next morning. It is now come to him going to see her for a few hours at the in laws place. So good luck and hang in there don't let a child take away the person you love.

Wow this sores sound exactly what I am going through!! Actually I have stopped taking her shopping, doing her homework, and having anything to do with her at all. The problem is that my spouse doesn't care about what I am going through, he's not going to send her back to her mother ....her mother is the reason for all of this too!! So there is nothing that can be done. I even asked him about them moving out and is living separately..he's not going for that either.

So sad because some days he gets off @ 5p and others at 9p or later...

She is such a mental **** should hear her voice when she comes home, it escalates and she starts doing things that she knows would aggravate me!!! You're lucky, you have a solution I don't...this **** is for the birds...I never seen a child act like this before in my life... My father would NOT allow me to act like this..but my husband is a softy for her and does not stand up for me regarding her, he even says during our arguments "You don't like my daughter" ****** me the **** off because I have never not likes his daughter...she turned into the devil on me!!! It also ****** me off when people read these postings and sit back and point the finger at up like we have the's pure bullshit! These children turn or are taught by their other parent to act this way towards us...I am so done with this weird situation!!!!!

Same here.....our 8 year old son is terrified of his half sister......She is a demon from hell

Holy smoke...whoever you are... I love you! It feels so liberating reading other people's level of hate! I've got into such a state of 'hate'...that I really don't know how I can mend the relationship...and to be honest, I don't know if I can be bothered! Horrible little brat that is so rude and argues with everyone and then doesn't talk to me for days. I can't wait till she leaves after weekends and chant in my head "Dong, dong, the witch is gone!" I hope one day that I can get rid of her, but her mother lives in the same village!! Think we need to follow your advise and move away

Feel exactly the same as you. The amount of hate I feel towards her is not normal. She's maniputive and money orientated.

While I don't go to all these means to rid of my step daughter. I relate to the feelings of when she is around. I have to deal with her doing all the things I ask her not to do with my 2 young ones, which puts them at risk to which their father can't see. Because HIS daughter does these things, there is nothing wrong and it feels he doesn't care at all about our youngest. Because she would NEVER do anything to hurt them. She is diabolical and is always telling them since they were 2 years (now only 3) the sickest stories. They are going to go in a plane and crash and die. She plays music for them not only inappropriate for her age but very much so for them. She does things with them with the facade of playing even though it is extremely dangerous things I've forbid her from. As soon as I am out of the house, the both of them just do anything and everything I've asked them NOT to do for the SAFETY of my kids for God sakes. Nope, still doesn't sink in his thick head. Her mother is psycho so I've made it very clear I will never have her alone without him and neither will our nanny. The mother has made up stories about him and suggested she will get him deported weeks after I had our babies. She has tried to push her way into my house to see my kids because I refuse to have them exposed to her. I had to get a restraining order against her. And he can't understand why it's not ok to leave his daughter alone with our kids and their care giver. I just can't deal with it any more. He refuses to tell her simple things. I.e. I rarely get a good sleep due to the young ones. So the last thing I need is extra interruption to my sleep because of him or her. So when I've gotten my two to bed and climb in myself, I ask that whatever they need upstairs, to please get it to avoid the up and down, slam door, up and down, slam door which wakes me each time obviously. Nope. Can't tell her that. She can do what she wants. Even though my sleep will better help me care for the younger two. God forbid we tell this child she can't run the house after hours when she should have long been in bed too. It's just too much. As soon as I'm at work on a holiday and the young ones are with the care giver, he has her now that's it summer and goes right against my wishes and leaves her at home alone with the kids and nanny. Just blatant disrespect. I just can't do it any more and I don't think counselling can help. How is it someone always gets hurt accidentally when she is here? How do you NOT see a 3 year old while she is laying on her stomach coluring and step on her back. This child is also nearly 13 and a BIG girl and my one 3 year old is only 27 lbs. She could have broken her back. I just don't know what to do.

She is obviously doing those malicious acts intentionally. You can see it, he however, has blinders on. Explore other options for her while you are not in the home. There has to be somewhere else she can go for those hours. What a psychotic little thing and it will only get worse, believe me. It is your responsibility to protect your young, Stand your ground.Wishing you & yours the very best {{big hug}}'re not alone

god you're a *****

Why would one want to be a parent if you spend more time on a forum complaining about being a parent than actually being one? You, and anyone who agrees with you is not a role model if all you model is hatred and inappropriate behavior. Apparently this is all you have to offer to your spouse's child--which is rather pathetic.
How adult can you be if you go into a situation knowing that you are going to be a step parent and then choose to manipulate things so that the child suffers from losing a relationship with her father?
Unfortunately it appears that you are rather selfish--if you didn't want to be a parent it's pretty simple--you didn't have to be. You could have married someone else, or better yet you could have stayed single and gone to school to have earned an education. Clearly, as indicated by your posts above not only do you lack education and intelligence--but you behave worse than a child in grade school.
Your step daughter is lucky if she doesn't have to be exposed to you--you sound quite toxic.
Next time before you get married consider what is best for everyone--not just what you want for yourself.

I totally disagree with you.

You have no clue how evil and conniving stepchildren can be..

Angels when papa is around and a Demon while he's away

Their soul purpose is to cause chaos!!!

You clearly do not understand at all!! I have one just like I explained!!!

I am 23 and in this situation. There is no excuse, you are just *****.

Nope you need a stepdaughter like this first ....then come back and talk on this forum

You definitely picked the right username...

Don't you dare read my posting and TRY TO SIT HIGH ON YOUR THRONE And look down at my ad and JUDGE ME!!! You have no clue what me or many of these people that DO POST ON THIS SITE are going through or have went through...

I posted on this site because i needed an outlet, I needed to vent, you seriously are not smart enough to even comprehend the day to day frustrations of dealing with a child or children that are experts at mind know the movie the evil step child?? Well there are children that are REALLY like THAT!!! I bet that you are one of those step children that played mind games with your parents and got away with certainly seem that way!!


Believe me while you sit there on that toilet reading my posting...YOUR **** SMELLS TOO ...and THAT'S "SERIOUSLY JACKED UP" that you THINK otherwise!

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You are one sick kitten lady. Could the problem with our society today be that there are so many women in it that are similar in all of your social lackings? You are morally BANKRUPT and at a fundamental deficit- not to mention lacking any kind of meaningful or decent education(this is grossly evident by the grammar used in your 'story'). How dare you make fun of an 8 year old that is illiterate when you obviously have skills only slightly above her in your writing form! Thank God this poor child wasn't forced to be in your company- THAT and that alone is thee ONLY redeeming quality in your sick little 'rant/brag session'. As far as your husband goes- well I guess that is also a blessing for that child too. He obviously doesn't give a **** about the entire situation(if what you are saying has any credibility) and it's better the child doesn't grow up in the type of environment y'all created and live in. People like you should be banned from breeding due to the type of 'stupid' you're afflicted with!

I don't believe her story. No father in his right mind would tolerate his wife treating his kid that way. My step kids can be a pain in the ***, but so can my bio kids. I would never dream of destroying my husband's relationship with any of his kids. That's lame.

I am 23 and in this situation. There is never any excuse to treat a child this way. You're just *****.

Your are a Grade A piece of ****!! I can't believe you would ruin your husbands time/life with his daughter for your own selfish gain!! I hope to God he realizes what you did and leaves worthless ***!! That is so childish to just push her away like that, you realize that all you women in here are just trying to compete with his daughter for love!! As the father of a 7yr old daughter and having problems myself with my wife of almost 2yrs, i can tell you that there are times where the gloves come out but to just manipulate your husband like that is extremely elementary!! I guarantee you that most of you met your husbands daughters before you said yes, so there's no excuse for any of this! Life takes work, love takes work, and most of all family takes work!!!! Don't be so quick to take that selfish route because i have a feeling you all will regret it

You wouldn't break up your own family cuz your daughter has problems so don't break up his family!!!

I beg to differ!!!!

I met my SD before we met "Briefly" and she was a drama queen then and has gotten worse now!!

I stood up and fought for her to come live with us because the New York school system is nowhere near the school systems here in Dallas Texas!!

So she comes to live with us and has caused so much DRAMA in my home it's ridiculous!

He mother never spent time with her , always dropping her off to a friends home so that she could hang out and party...this 12 yr old is on a Kintergarden reading level of that...and speaks like a pre schooler, but fights and causes chaos in my home!!! Breaks stuff, punches holes in my wall, the list goes on and on ..slams cabinets (one of them is hanging as we speak)...just DRAMA!!!

My husband goes to work and think I should correct this but when I do, he steps in and says u don't like her...I am the one that fought to bring her to a more family like environment, I am the one who tells him to spend time with her, I am the one that makes sure she has NICE things to wear...I was her advocate who stood strong when she first started attending school here (and being that she can't read at all) the kids laughed at her and made fun of her, the Teachers seemed to not put any effort into helping her get placed into the special education program..BUT I MADE SURE THEY DID EVERYTHIBG THEY WERE SUPPOSED TO DO, only to repeatedly be spit in the face, have my home vandalized by this child who was never taught NOTHING!!!

She causes division in my home... My son stays clear of her!!! He stays locked in his room everyday!

It's a mess

So what I have to say to you is, maybe this woman who posted this post didn't tell u everything! I don't think she is staying clear of that child for nothing!!!


There are children that are just plain evil!!! And taught to cause chaos...

This post is absolutely brilliant! Good for you for figuring out a way to rig yourself of such a burden. (Cue the applause)
I feel like a horrible person often wondering “How the hell did I become the evil step-mother?” I CANNOT STAND my SO’s daughter. I honestly care very much about his son and have a child of my own – all of them are under the age of 10 by the way. At first I tried to get close to the little girl but her bratty ways have completely turned me off to trying further. She’s been raised to where everyone feels bad for her cause her parents divorced – AND? Just because they divorced it does not mean that everyone has to make a big deal out of all her “cute” gestures and noises. (which are no longer cute after the age of 3 for any child). This kid is totally devoid of social skills and I would prefer for her to be shipped off to her mother, but then I reconsider because it would take a heavy toll on my SO’s income. My family and friends have also met both of these kids and have a really hard time warming up to this girl but go bonkers of over the little boy – he’s just easier to love. Also, she has this family defense mechanism where she’s always telling on my kid but never her brother, which makes me further dislike her. Like, seriously, she just smacked your brother to defend you and you’re crying, but you tell on my daughter for defending you and not your brother? We don’t condone any of them hitting each other but this is an example of thing she does that irritate me. Or tell my child something mean in a low voice to where she thinks no one can hear her then give a blank stare when you ask her about it, because my kid just read her her rights loud enough for us to hear. The way she walks, talks like a baby or totally exaggerated to the point where she sounds like a grown man, the way she’s a picky eater and the way she tells her brother not to call me mom (even though I’m the one that is with them all week) really make me hate her guts. I’ve gotten to the point where I tell my child and SO’s son that they’re my favorite in front of her so that she knows that dislike is mutual. The only think I am afraid of is losing my SO because he is amazing but I can’t force myself to stomach this child, especially when everyone acts as though she’s golden. I have voiced my opinion of her to him so hopefully he’ll ship this ugly Golum looking pest off sometime in the next couple of years or maybe she’ll develop a likeable personality (doubt it), cuase I don’t see me being step mom to this kid forever.

I totally get everything you've said. In exactly same situation. I hate my stepdaughter. She's devious and manipulates her dad so obviously. She's obsessed with screwing him for money. We have two children of our own who go without so she can have everything she wants. I hate her with a passion.

I agree!!! BRILLIANT!

holy hell, thank you.

I too hate my stepdaughter! She's 18 and acts like the whole world owes her something. She constantly sleeps around so she's not at the house much, until she breaks up with a boy, but then she's very clingy to her dad, which makes me crazy! She has no respect for anyone and treats everyone in her life like crap; even her dad who is a kind, loving man, but he'd rather put up with it than confront her, and that causes issues with us. My children also live in the home and they don't like her either. She is without a doubt the most disrespectful, rude and bitchy person I have ever known! He keeps making excuses for her, although I told him after I first met her that I didn't like her attitude; she even called him an ******* when we were shopping! I would've back handed her right then and there!!!!!!! She obviously has never had any discipline before and now WE have to pay the price for it. Her latest antic is that she took my extra set of sheets without asking, and put tem on her bed! I took them back when I found out, and now he's mad at ME????? I love this man but don't know if I can deal with her any longer. Any suggestions???

Wow your 18 yr old sounds like my 12 yr old SD


And I am considering leaving..this demon will not stress me and I am sick of him kissing her *** and he's never here to experience the drama I go through!!!

I LOVE this posts. Thanks a lot to ALL, to Cellens and the ones who answered, even those who has no respect (must be a stepmonster). Anyway, I met my wife at the end of the 80s in the middle east, we went back to our countries and she had a baby girl with someone who died later. I found her 20 years later, her stepmonster was 12 y.o. in that time. I need twenty pages to write about this little girl actions and i wont, i dont even want to write about all the nonsense, just one to define her, she can screamed to me F..YOU and i wont answer her back. she s now 18 y.o. and a bigger pain in the *** to whoever she meet. My relationship with my wife is the best relation i have ever had, I love her and i know she loves me back but this girl makes our life miserable, and the more I think, the more i want to go away because i dont want to see again in my life this girl. There is only one life, why i have to be unhappy? I rather loose the love of my life than live with a stepmonster. And we love kids, we are running a school and all kids love the way i am with them but this girl is too much to handle.

I know exactly how it is. My wife has a 13 year old almost 14 year old brat that acts the same way. I don't know what to do. that's why I have a bottle of whiskey with me.

Lol... Maybe I need to get one too!!

I love my spouse but not enough to continuously go through hell because of her!!! I am considering divorce

Yeah sounds very familiar!! I read this Stepmomsters diary and she wrote about how the day her mom cheated on her dad, how it killed her.

I read it as best I could becauE this child is 12 yrs old and extremely illiterate!!! The words she used were words that only a pre schooler would use

Her mom and dad need to be beaten and put in jail for how illiterate this child is

And she takes it all out on me?? I do dispose this child!!!

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im just happy my husband and I had a child of our own. After we did he was less obsessed with my stepdaughter. And now when he acts less interested her mother is crazy jealous over our new bundle of joy!

My wife and I have been trying to have a child of our own. but its hasn't worked out and now she is discouraged. I was really hoping for the out come that you have but its been unsuccessful. God bless you and good luck

That's why I want to have a baby with my husband too! He will be less interested with my stepdaughter! she's living far away I'm lucky.

Please ensure that your issues with your stepchild are resolve before doing that. Trust me i did the same thing you are thinking of doing and still he choose his girls over mine. Makes me wonder if their mom didn't cast a spell on him for him to be this blind regarding their ways.... Now Im gonna be a single mom to a three month old baby due to his damn brats..

I am glad you where able to move her out, however, I am dealing with a grown 27 year old married with a child who still lives with us our whole 2 year marriage. I don't like her and never will. At first, I did until she tried to act like she wanted to fight me and then all bets was off. She miserable, and if her father would of made her be a wife to her husband maybe she would still be married, if she wasn't so busy trying to make my husband think he didn't need a wife like he made her think she didn't need her husband things wouldn't be like this.


I understand how some may find your candidness abrupt, uncaring, and disrespectful. Sadly I understand what you are going through. My husbands ex, his daughter -totally run our lives. She has been brought up with attachment parenting, breastfed til she was five, and is downright mean to me. I love my husband dearly but if I had to do it all over again would never. The father/daughter relationship will beat the husband/wife relationship every time, leaving me feeling hurt, regretful, inadequate, and deflated.

*SENDING HUGS TO U*. I am in the same boat believe me and yes it does hurt!!! I am actually considering divorce!!! My life will never be stressed out for someone that should've been aborted!!! Sorry and I know I shouldn't say it but it's the truth!!! She came in their lives for all the wrong reasons...he needed his Greencard so that's how this DRAMA QUEEN CAME INTO's ugly but it's reality! Poor child can't read an elementary book...can't write, can't do anything 12 yes old and

Wow! Awesome job! I am not able to do anything from the above. That brat is living with us 24/7 . Guess what is the only reason me and my husband are arguing about? That's right - my stepdaughter.
She has a learning disability so either pretends or she is really stupid.
I've made a decision to leave his *** because this marriage had brought out the worst of me. Can't wait to create my own family where kids love and respect me- their mommy :)

I know exactly how you feel. Our relationship will soon end as well. The difference is she is a married 27 soon to be 28 year old who don't know her place, and would rather be sleeping with her dad than being his daughter.
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My HERO!!! I am strongly considering leaving his *** too!! And this SD CANT READ OR WRITE either!! Oh gosh the DRAMA SHE CAUSES IN MY NEW BEAUTIFUL HOME!!! You would not believe!!! My home is so divided and I care not to live like this...

Sadly, the lady that he dated before me went through the same ****!!! And I told him this morning that he will continue to have people leave him because she is pure EVIL!!!

Good for you and good luck!!!

You're the kind of step-mother that make those evil step-mom stereotypes. You aren't allowing your husband to see his daughter! It looks like you just want to keep him all to yourself and your children, and keep the poor youngster from her father.

You're a cruel, selfish woman.

I hope u have an evil SD too so u can edit what u wrote!

Sounds mean but I agree totally. People wouldn't really understand until they're in our position. Sometimes I feel like I should go to work Sunday to Sunday just so I wouldn't have to deal with her. Her mother is neglecting her and her father is allowing it but I'm sorry I AM NOT HER MOTHER, I have my own child who give me no trouble whatsoever and I shouldn't have to deal with another's problem. Her mother's negligence towards her is not my problem and it should not fall on my shoulders to compensate. That's just not fair to me.

Applause to you. I have gone through hell with SD and also was recently successful in removing her from our life. My husband asked me to take down her pictures, he is completely done. Thank god!!! It only took 6 years of misery and verge of divorce many times. Now we can move on with OUR family and OUR two children. The drama is finally over. Ps until you have been in these horrible shoes, don't judge!!!! You would never understand what we go through.

thank you and well said.
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Good for you!!! And perfectly written!! People have no clue what it feels like to have so much UN NECESSARY DRAMA in their lives!!! I am considering divorce now

How did you do that?? I want my husband to get rid of my SD, too!!!

Congratulations at least someone out there had the balls to stand their ground against these unwanted leaches who do they think they are trying to barge into your new life I really can't stand these god awful brats that think the world owes them something because their parents aren't together boo hoo daddy's got a girlfriend so that gives me a right to be a disrespectful little ***** I don't think so! They should all get a grip and stay with their useless mothers who weren't good enough to hold on to a man big applause to you lady!!

Love it!


holy ******* ****!!! that 9 year old girl deserves way better than you and her "dad". your husband has zero balls and just like someone else said, god will get you. i seriously hope that girl grows up not knowing either one of you. and i hope that your ovaries and uterus and **** all get cancer and rot off your disgusting body. you are a ****. no wonder the girl doesnt listen to you, she can tell that you hate her. and to start fights with your husband to brainwash him is terrifying. it shows how selfish you are. you dont give a **** about him. all you care about is yourself. well let me tell you something you little ****. you better watch out cause that 9 year old girl is going to grow up to be a 21 year old like me and **** man, i do horriffic things to my step mother. i put sugar, salt and oil in her gas tank i put bleach in her contact lense solution, i put bleach in all of her potted plants, i spit lougies into her shoes, i wipe my **** with her housecoat sleve so it gets on her hands and face. and on my last day here im going to ******* snip all of the wires under the hood of her truck. i ******* hate my step mother but unlike your stupid, ***** whiped ***** husband my daddy loves me and doesnt let his **** get away with a lot of ****. that little girl will make your life miserable. karma will kick you in the teeth. and im going to pray to god to ask him for revenge for that poor girl. i hope you rot in hell you peice of ****. its people like you that are ruining this world. go die

Get a grip you have obviously never been in this situation retard!

Are you mad bro?

This... right the reason why step kids should rot in hell.

You are the perfect example of "SD". Thank you for enlightening everyone. I now know more so than ever that not bothering with my SD is the "Best" decision I've made thus far. Btw, that karma you speak of, is a two way street. I hope you find yourself in the same and/or similar situation. @fuckyoucunt1

I hope u get 4 evil STEP CHILDREN to drive u mad!!!

Then u better come back and re edit that crap u wrote!! I bet YOU ARE/WERE AN EVIL STEP

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I understand you perfectly. My step daughter and her son are living with us and now I want her out of my life!!. I emigrated her, I paid for it (because my husband hasn't had a good job) we wanted so badly have her with him. When finally she was able to come to USA she moved in with us. I started to notice her behavior, she is lazy, dirty, sleeps a lot, she thinks she knows everything, she always is right, and so on; I told my husband that she needed to accept the "rules" of my house if she wanted to live with us. At the beginning she agreed to the rules but after and slowly she was doing wherever she wanted. Until I got pregnant of our first baby, I was getting mad every single day because of her and her behavior. My husband told her to go back to her home, with her mom; she always was saying she would move back there. Then, one year later, she told my husband she was pregnant and that the boyfriend told her to go back to her mom's house. I said poor thing, ok, may be now that she is pregnant she is gonna change her attitude. We bring her back. But now she is even worse. She is been living with us for a year and my life is ugly like a hell. She doesn't work. She doesn't help with the chores at home. She has her bedroom dirty. She says she is tired of me and my rules. She is rude to me, she answers rudely, makes faces to me when I tell something to her. And the worse thing is that she doesn't take care of her baby. When he was like 1 month old she was giving him water instead of milk; she said that the water will helped his stomach. He cried a lot pretty much whole day because he was hungry, she would feed him only for 5 min. She would be at the computer in Facebook and the baby in her lap. She had the baby sleeping with her in single bed having a bassinet for the baby. She would feed him while she was sleeping. When he was sleeping she would put the blanket on his face. I have found the baby clothes with pop all over, which means she wasn't changing the diaper frequently. Now she has daycare (she applied for it). The baby is been taken care better, he doesn't cry that much. But in the weekends she needs to feed him, and because she is to lazy to prepare the food for him (we have the baby bullet to make things easier) she feeds him only with milk and even worse she gives him breast milk to avoid wash the baby bottles. Few days ago, the baby fell off the bed, she left him on the bed and she went to the kitchen, it was an night; we only heard the sound when the baby fell and he crying. The baby has some orthopedic issues and the Dr. recommended a brace for his legs and to use it every night, which she doesn't do. My baby and hers go to the same daycare. At the daycare the lady told me that I was been abusive with my stepdaughter, because she was saying that she was cleaning the house, making meals for me, doing laundry and everything at the house, that it was not okay which made me angry, obviously she is not doing anything at all. Sometimes I just want to grab my baby and run out of the house. I'm at the point where seeing her face bothers me. I feel sorry for the baby, that's the only reason for me no to kick her out, but I'm about to because I can't handle this situation anymore. My husband talks to her but she doesn't care. She wont listen. Obviously my relationship with my husband is deteriorating. I'm not longer happy.

I hate my stepdaughter too. But for good reasons. You are just a gigantic *****.

You people are fucken sick. The ***** that posted this should be arrested! God will make you pay sweetie. What you do done to her another will do to you or your kids.

All of you resenting stepmothers are very wrong. I am a step kid to 2 people who love me very much I imagine that if your child was sick in the head like that, you would call a doctor. Wouldn't you? Be the bigger person and make the appointment yourself, if you really love this person you would love his/her kid as well. My stepmother plans my trips to go to and from my mom and dad and she actually wants me to go over there a lot. I actually am very lucky for my step parents, my stepfather is a jeweler and he makes me jewelry from time to time and he also drives a limousine late at night to pay for my tuition and he don't give a sh*t cause he loves me and wants the best for me. Same with my stepmother, I have my own room and she went shopping with me for my Christmas presents and we spent just about $500 on just me bc I also wanted a hello kitty sowing machine. I am very grateful for that shopping spree and that was just presents from her, not my dad. My dad gave me a $100 bill. For those women who want no stepchildren, just leave the man and consider a single man who will have time for you and have time to start a family. As many women said here that ex's of your husband couldn't keep the family together, we'll try it yourself and see how 'easy' it is to you.

I'm sorry peacemaker, your stepparents are paying for your tuition and according to your profile you are between 41-45 years old??? I should jolly well think you have your own room if you are of that age. Are you really who you say you are, or are just here to cause a little trouble, and if you life is so wonderful why are you on an internet thread discussing issues with stepdaughters?? Believe me if I had been allowed to, I would have dragged my partner's horrible Daughter to the nearest psychiatrist, but as we were not married I had no parental rights over her, plus the fact that her Father thinks she is perfect, which seems to be a common problem with single Fathers to Daughters, something I have done much research on. All I can say is that I have been the victim here, I used to take her to school, pick her up, pick her up from her Mum's for her weekend visits, I have done it all including spending my own money on her and believe me it got me nowhere. I never used to resent my Stepdaughter but she unfortunately resents me simply for being with her Father. Sorry I am still laughing at the thoughts of a 40 something woman on her Hello Kitty sewing machine. Cover your tracks a little better before thinking you are clever.

she's probably just a step kid trolling this forum

You have no idea what love is. You sound stupid!

well said and thank you.
Please reply with authenticity, support, and respect

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After reading these posts I can see where you are all coming from. I am just about to walk away from the man who was the love of my life, I just cannot take his one sided behaviour any more. My stepdaughter was 6 when I met her and already showing sociopathic traits, which I observed and kept quiet about. Twice I caught her throwing my beautiful elderly saggy 8 year old rabbit to the floor and kicking him. A year later when our cat gave birth to 6 dead kittens both myself and her Dad cried. She never shed a tear, just kept wanting to go and gawp at their dead bodies. I also caught her locking my puppy in a bedside cabinet. When her Dad was out of work I paid for EVERYTHING for a whole year, including his maintenance to his fruitloop of an ex partner. I also bought shoes for his Daughter as I was sick of seeing hard skin on her feet through ill fitting shoes. There is really too much to tell it would take me ages,but lets just say that I know she has some sort of problem and is now 11 years old, nearly as tall as me, and quite frankly she gives me the creeps. Ive caught her analysing me when she thinks I cannot see her, she steals from me (sentimental things that cannot be replaced). I wrote her Dad a heartfelt letter last week, and when some more of my jewellery went missing I went into her room to look for it. I found a small picture of her Mother and tucked behind it in the frame was a piece of paper folded up into tiny squares, and when I opened it, it was a copy of the letter I had written to her Dad, she had copied it out word for word then stuffed it behind the photo of her Mum. I am at the point now where I am not going to wait around until she either pushes me down the stairs or stabs me in the back, literally. Ive googled "mini wife", she fits the bill, she fits the bill for sociopathic, phycopathic and other disorders but her Dad thinks she is his little princess and can do no wrong. I have now decided to cut my losses and leave them to it. I would never harm her but I seriously hope that she does the same thing again to his next girlfriend, as he seems to think that sacrificing the love of his life is worth it to keep cossetting this horrible child. We were supposed to be getting married, then she upped the ante with her behaviour. I would imagine she will be grinning like a cheshire cat when I leave, but he is terribly afraid of being alone and the minute he brings next girlfriend into the equation, the merry go round of **** will start all over again, and by this time I will be long gone, maybe then and only then will be realise that the true love of his life was trying to warn him and tell him the truth. His loss, not mine.

Thankyou Melinashi for that reply. It makes me really sad that my relationship is at an end, but relieved in a way as if I had married this man I would have had to tolerate his offspring for the rest of my life, and I truly believe that she would never stop. Her Mither still behaves in a disgusting manner as does her Grandmother, to be truthful the whole family are abnormal. I challenged him about the letter that I found and he denied it was her writing, destroyed it, then claimed that someone must be breaking into the house and stealing my beloved items, then planting letters in his Daughter's room for me to find!! I mean, have you ever heard such a load of old guff in all your life?? As he has a habit of destroying the evidence, I have now taken to photographing the letters (several so far) on my smartphone so I have at leasy got something I can print off later if I need to. I am still living in the house as I cannot afford to do otherwise and I am now thinking of getting a covert camera to catch her in the act, and then, and only then will he believe what's been going on. I truly believe though that even presented with undoubtable evidence, once he is backed into a corner he will simply tell me to leave, rather than admit that his Daughter is evil. She talks to him like ****, like she is on the same wavelength and certainly behaves like his girlfriend, not like a Daughter and quite frankly I am glad I never married him because he is looking ever more spineless the more I know him. Trouble is I know I am still in love with him and always will be unless I get out of this madness.

You should be committed. Leave the relationship you loser. You don't scar a kid who's clearly going through something.

I've recently done the same. It was hard, it never got as far along as your experiences, but it wouldhave done.
Please be assured that you have done the right thing.
I have now met a wonderful man, also had children but it's a totally different world.
Please be strong.
He will NEVER truly hear the truth, I tried and tried to the point of being really cruel to my ex but he had no remorse, he knew exactly what was going on but didn't care.
Only when the same child turns on the parent will they realise but they still won't care!!

I have an 18 year old stepdaughter and I met her when she was 15. I know you are a b+i+t+c+h. A 9 year old kid, come on already, you are not only selfish but you are also insecure about not only your relationship but your own identity. That's sad. You are the one who needs to be dropped sweetie. You are pathetic and have no reguard for any other human being! You are selfish and you don't deserve what you have and he will figure you out eventually and drop you for the b+i+t+c+h you are. Grow the **** up already for real, *******!

My marriage has fell apart because my spouse of full time rights back to his kid, every thing revolves around her, all we do is fight because he wont discipline her, he ignores the baby... I think since he see's his self as christian he needs to re-read his bible and see that the marriage comes first and Abraham sent away his child and the mother and the same needs done here. WHat does he do? buys stuff he doesn't take care of the physical constant demands he isn't the one getting held back on a career because he wont take the ex for child support so mountian heart will accept his child but will mine! I suffer from her, HE DOESN'T, because he has no responsibility I have it all! My child suffers from having a neglectful father because of it! I think if he is going to let that woman see her that woman needs to take the responsibility and be a mother not a friend! I want to help the mother get back her rights back so at least one of the natural parents will be taking care of her! because neither one really does anything! I can't do nothing for myself or my daughter because I'm stuck taking care of his kid while he is at work, and with him constantly telling me how much he doesn't love me I want to get my career in place so I know we will have something to go to when a divorce happens and I wont feel so bad for his kid for not having anyone decent taking care of her. Just thrown in and out of baby setters, daycares, schools, and god knows what. He doesn't have time to be a father why should I waste my time taking care of his baggage while I have my own child to take care of! God knows the little pill head isn't gonna pay child support that is the only reason he took the other kid he didn't want to pay his ex any money because he is a dickless pos!

Or teach you kids the sight of evil. So they can report it to the police

Most intellectual comment and suggestion thus far!

You have issues lady! Please seek help of a counselor before you continue this behavior or worse yet before you teach this behavior and bad choices that stem from it to others. This planet doesn't need anymore help from people like yourself.

Thank you I'm so outraged about this *** hole telling people this! Honest people actually looking for a way to connect with a stepparent is a real blog that we all need to start.

This is the exact reason why children do not trust their bioparents' new lovers/spouses. This is the reason they are horrible to them. Seriously, this is exactly the thing they fear, a stepparent who wants to take their bioparent away and willfully tries to destroy the parent-child bond they share.
I don't like children, in general. I won't ever have children of my own, and I would never marry someone who has children under 18 that he/she has contact with. So, I understand where you are coming from. They can be a pain, and after a while frustration will probably get so bad that you just want them out of your life and miserable for the rest of their days. But really, it makes you a pretty horrid human being. It's quite petty and childish to act like that.

You should be arrested. I'm going to report you and I hope I can save your step child

I feel the same you are a blessing I can't stand my wife's devil's seed she's horrible she got pregnant when she was liked 15 we made her have an abortion and come to find out this little fun swollower has been having sex sinse she was like 12 oh I hate this *****

You can have your skid mark sent to placement actually if that was my state what she is doing is illegal! If she runs away ever... i expect she will there you go call the police have her sent to the hospital's psych ward over and over for running away, underage sex, and delinquency after 3 times you can have her sent to a long term treatment facility. I think little hoes need it she is probably doing drugs, and could be into self harming too since she has no respect for her body... having an abortion could be an attempt to have harm inflicted on her self... hell it doesn't have to be true even just get her somewhere that will treat her that behavior is worth treatment enough! (though our world is used to it so... you're gonna have to say what you can to get the police to take her) Having an abortion at 15! she needs to see a doc anyways that leaves emotional scars as it is! I can already tell you a **** seeking 12 year old probably has a borderline personality... divorce can cause that issue with all the pointless taking a kid back and forth between parents. (that crap isn't for the kid, is rarely good for the kid, and i believe it is only for the parent)

This is about the original post not some ******** opinion about a stepdaughter!
Come on already. What do you do for a living??? I do much more than you and no your way is not the way to help someone. If you aren't a professional or have your own experience about the situation then don't comment!

You aren't a psychologist, or behavior therapist, or school counselor so don't give out medical advice, ok?

Obviously she needs help, she's in a bad place! People like you disgust me, what have you done to be proactive in her life? What about your wifes feelings? Don't care? Looks like. Children aren't a devil's seed ***. They are a blessing and you take that on when you marry and take on step children, get a life and be proactive and help this girl! You won't be married long if you push this aside. May be divorced already! Maybe you are trash that doesn't care at all, sounds like it.

Maybe check your ***** she did a ****** up job raising her. She was obviously abused sexual to exhibit this behavior. Your probably the culprit

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And I say this to ALL bio moms who have a problem with step moms...

Stop having kids by men who don't stick around or that you can't keep!


If YOU kept your family together step mothers would be non-existent!

Also, sometimes it's not the "bio" mothers fault. Sometimes men just get can't force someone to be with you know matter how 'perfect' you are. Everyone one who's educated knows that.

Lol yeah I'd bet your man would get bored with you lol I hope you don't have kids because if so, they will totally have a stepmom.. Totally.


Your the most disgusting piece of human feces on this planet. You psychotic-sosiopathic disgrace of of a human being. I am normally not one to condone what I'm saying to you, but **** you, you worthless pill of filth. I hope he leaves you for a beautiful and wonderful woman so he can finally see the the difference between a beautful soul and a rotten pile of maggot soul. You digust me. If you were infront of me I'd spit on you.

Why do white ppl always wanna spit on someone. I seen this lady get her *** KICKED this past summer over the same thing... You white ppl gon learn one day. Smh

Because it's an utter disrespect to a person. I can understand why "someone" of your stature wouldn't understand. Don't worry, it's expected.

Lol How is it that I know you're fat??? Lol I know you'd never admit I'm right and will swear u look soooo good but I can totally tell you're fat just in your language. Kill yourself cow!

Elina1989 ur my hero! I wish step children under 18 could be aborted! Just put down like dogs!

Karen-the message I wrote above you applies as well. Worthless waste of a life...

You are an as swipe, you skidmark

I've never felt so disgusted in my entire life. Is this what that woman my used-to-be dad was with, did?
You... You need to stop being so sick and realize what you are doing. Have you no feelings? Where is your heart? You teach children, yeah? You love children, yes? Then why are you pushing this little girl away from her father? You have no idea what you are doing to her.
That man your with told you to come here so we, everyone on this site, can talk some sense into you. You need help.
And something I know nothing about? I know a whole lot of something's about this. You make me sick.
I've never been a hateful person, but ma'am, I will laugh when someone has finally killed you, then I want to stand over your grave and laugh as your corpse rots, then I will want to laugh again as the devil puts you through a torturous hell, and hopefully, you will regret every single second you didn't love on that little girl.
You are why every girl hates their stepmothers.

well sometimes it is because they are spoiled brats and don't realize their drugs shouldn't be around a new born for example... or they are pissed that the one person who disciplines is the step parent. I love my step parent, my step is my real parent. My step also beat my *** when I deserved it! So don't put the same shoe on all feet.... I liked the two steps and my bio father much more then my bio mother I hate her to this day, but only admit to that anonymously. I get alone with her better now she has been a great grandmother since karma has ate her *** off over the years. but yea it is messed up she can't wait it out for visits I just read that part... i thought she was another mom being used as the damn maid and baby setter wanting to Baby mama to own some of her responsibility. Because you have to think of this women are seen as the care taker... when men gain full rights the wife gets all the kids full time not the husband... so if you need something like mountain heart which is contracted throw the dhhr and can't get your lazy pos husband to help you you get screwed out of your life! out of your careers your classes because you can't just dropped the kid that isn't yours off at your trusted friend's house and say please watch her for two hours... you can with your own but a spouse who wants to use his kid as a weapon to keep you attached to the house wont have it!

Bravo. He'll leave her in the mud to be with his baby. And that piece of crap will get run over by the karma train.

I have a 4 year old step daughter and I hate her guts! Her bio mother has a suspended licence and is on probation for continously driving drunk. Ohh how often I pray shr drive drunk with that lil brat in the car and they both fly off a cliff!

Miracles happen!

Careful what you wish for, hoe. God works in mysterious ways. Be careful driving.......

Listening to this website is hurtful. What do you hate about the little girl. Some children are wicked and some are good. What is it about the 4 year old you hate?

Lmao!!! 😂😂😂 love it!

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I'm 19 years old and have dealt with a nasty ***, mean *** stepmother since I was six years old! She had my whole family including my own FATHER turn on me, and as a result on my 18yh birthday I was kicked out of my house. My best friend to me and and even her mother hated my stepmoms guts. My other friends parents thought she was a ***** too, even a few of her own cousins did. I've been trying to tell my father for years this woman is no good but he never listened! Now, after cheating on him before and still cheating on him NOW he finally sees what I've been trying to tell him! She tricked him into moving to another state alone for his job and now she's at home having an affair and taking his all of his money! She's never worked a day in her life accept stupid hotel receptionist jobs and used all his money to go to college and she still won't get a career! She has rubies my life! I hope ignorant as ******* like you as well as my stepmother (soon to be ex stepmother) BURN IN HELL you piece of ****! I wish I knew you so I could BEAT YOUR ******* *** STUPID ****. GO LAY IN TRAFFIC LAZY *** HOE. You're clearly a dumb *****.

I agree, I hope all these co-dependent dirty woman go to hell. I have never been so infiuriated over the internet. If the 'step mothers' want a family. Go ******* find your own not cling to one that is already started!! Stupid ******!

you're use of profanity makes you seem like a dumb b*****. Just because you had a bad experience doesn't make them all... you ever thought that your trying to pin parent against parent caused anything? you don't think anything happened at all that made her feel like wall paper and build resentment hence leading to her cheating on your father? Women don't just spend years with a man to just cheat someday... that is a cause and effect situation where she needed to feel appreciated and we do seek appreciation for taking care of skids... do you know how many women get that appreciation? hardly any... nothing they can do is ever good enough for a mans precious. Yes some women wrongfully take it out on the kids... some times it was just over due and the skid mark deserved WORSE! He obviously did nothing to pull the family together to make you respect your step mother and realize she was there to stay with you trying to convince him she is the devil. You should also know people talk especially family the number of people who hate her has no true value unless you can manage finding some recorded evidence of her actually doing something. You were 18 boowhoo my BIOLOGICAL mother did the same! Was it helpful no... do it make me get my life started any quicker like she thought this action would no actually it held me back from going to college MUCH longer then I anticipated... I just started going last year finally and surely not to the one I wanted to go to. What she did lead up to my marriage and pregnancy though. You can't be a little basement baby your whole life. They moved she didn't take him from you and more then likely for the career you bash her on not getting.. maybe he wasn't supportive? Grow up... you no what's worse... I'm only 2 years older then you. I started college at 19 yes, it was a late start for me since I graduated early in 2010.

Perhaps this woman is a bit jealous of the stepdaughter, however, it is her instinct to protect her relationship and her future family. How many of you who are making comments actually have stepdaughters. Let me tell you, not just my personal experiences, my only one friend(yes, only one, because the rest will never choose to date a man with kids) told me that her stepkid was trying to hurt her own son due to jealousy. She had no choice but to move her family to another country to avoid this screwed up stepkid. I am in the similar situation too, the stepbrats are so jealous of my daughter that they tried to feed her with plastic balls! I will NOT TOLERATE anyone that is willing to destroy my family, or is a thread to my daughter's life.

You worthless woman..if you want you own 'protected' family YOU SHOULD HAVE GOT YOUR OWN!!!!! NOT ONE THAT WAS ALREADY STARTED. YOU DUMB *****!

I actually think all both of your comments are stupid. If you bio mothers would stop having kids with men who dnt stick around there wouldnt be step moms. Keep your legs closed if u cant keep ur family together!

And step moms, discipline these kids and if u cant leave him and his problem child alone.

I actually agree with that, But that sad fact is most can't and these poor children are left with these immoral pieces of garbage. It saddens my heart to hear that there are women out there like this..

Your sick a very sick woman i hope god raises all hell on you.

I hope you will end up with some stepbrats, and they will, just like the majority of the stepbrats, will wish you dead or sick every single minute of their lives! Enjoy it, you are a saint!

I'm just going to comment every comment you made, you filthy bag of dust! Go Ahead mark me as flagged *****!

BTW, i'd really like to urge all of you who dislike or hate your stepbrats to take some serious actions. because, long term resentment is going to damage your health, mentally and physically, imaging all the medical bills you have to pay due to these brats. Secondly, You have done absolutely nothing wrong. Such step relationships are not natural! They are against our true nature. Tell yourself everyday that 'I AM A LOVING INTELLIGENT GREAT PERSON, I HAVE ALL THE RIGHTS IN THE WORLD TO HATE HER/THEM, BECAUSE I DID NOT CAUSE THEIR PARENTS' SEPARATION, I ONLY MARRIED TO MY HUSBAND, HIS ROLE IS TO BE A HUSBAND TO ME IN THIS MARRIAGE, A FATHER TO OUR KID/KIDS TOGETHER'. You truly have nothing to do with these brats, empower yourself everyday, hang out with positive people to increase self-esteem, slowly, they will be getting out of your life, although it won't happen over night. Trust me, the more powerful you are, the further they will stay away from you.

Aww, sad insecure woman who needs to talk herself up in the mirror because of how much she hates herself!

You can't judge someone unless you've walked in their shoes. I know how you feel.

so true. Funny that people actually think im stupid for getting into these ****** situations. In Asia, they usually say that 'if you are not blind, deaf, disable, or too ugly, too stupid, do not marry a man with kids if you do not have kids yourself.' Stepbrats are soul destroying, rude, entitled, treating people like dirt.

You are getting feelings of joy by destroying the relationship between a father and his child. Wow. You are truly a sorry excuse for a human being. Do us a favor hun, find the nearest bridge and jump off of it!!

do you have stepbrats? if not, be quiet, saying things like this to someone innocent will give you bad karma.

Honey, I almost guarantee your not innocent..I know women like you I bet your all kind a sweet to your husbands kids when he's around, then when he's not...

Plus, I think you already get bad karma for calling his children 'step-brats'...

"She's an idiot, she'll be 9 this year and she can not even read and she's getting held back. I think it's histerical and to think I actually tried to help her in the beginning."

This woman believes that a child struggling in school is "histerical". Whether she likes her step daughter or not, one would expect that she would at least feel sorry for the child (obvious lack of empathy). Instead, she finds it entertaining. WTF?

"Since then I got rid of her bed and put a guest bed in the room, and I have been progressively throwing away her toys."

She sounds like such a loving mother, don't you think?

"I want to make sure she associates me with leaving and no seeing her dad. And sometimes I even fight with him when he goes to see her so he assoicates seeing her with us having problems, and sometimes he dosen't even go!"

She is a manipulative ***** who is slowly destroying her fiance's (a man she claims to love) relationship with his own child!

***Now I can understand children being extremely difficult to the point were it puts strain on a marriage, but throughout this whole post, she has said NOT ONE thing that justifies treating her stepchild this way.***

If you seriously believe this person is innocent, you are a damn fool. Something is clearly wrong with this woman if she is experiencing pleasure from someone else's pain, especially if it is that of a child. This woman is a sociopath and needs to be exposed as the monster she is!

Again, did you answer my question? DO you have any stepbrats? If not, you are NOT in a position to make any comments. Just like you are trying to tell people to shut the **** up and be happy if they have some sort of disability or illness. You are pathetic! Step relationship is not natural. You have no idea how much stress and resentment these brats will cause you, i have seen a woman in the hospital with breast cancer due to the stress of dealing with live in stepbrats...and these stepbrats had not even visited her, NOT ONCE!!!!! It made me so damn angry!

I'm sorry but I really don't understand how you could ever try to justify this kind of thing. I can understand that she may not want the child around her, but she is TRYING to push her husband out of his daughter's life, and that is just wrong no matter how you look at it. Sorry.

Have you ever considered being kind to these children! Even if they push your buttons?! Maybe if you stop being such a degenerate and treat those kids right then maybe your life would be smoother. Ugh..I just keep feeling the need to call you a stupid *****

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How did you manage to do it!
My husband has his fugly kid every other weekendwhich is far too often for me!!
However everytime I make a coment about her or moan that we have no us time he get defensive and tell me that if i dont like his hid our marriage will have to end.
I'm a catholic and I do not do divorces, I love my husband but there is not a day I wish that Kid (by his ex muslim wife) disappeared for good.
Everything that is her is precious, I feel like an intruder in my own house ( bearing in mind I pay for most of stuff coz he spends all his money on that little ****)
I get more bitter everyday, I'm full of resentment towards that kid and her mother.
How can I solve it not to lose my hubby but to get rid of HER!

You have every right to resent her. Trust your own instinct and nature, you are a great human being, you should not be forced to accept her if you do not want to. She is invading your house. Hate her if you want, it is just nature, it's human. Love and light to you.

I find it quite amusing that a person who encourages hate toward children signs their posts with "Love and light".

Love and light to IBM24...why don't you direct that to those children instead of some idiot like you on the internet. Stupid *****

Have you ever tried to bond with her? Probably not since your probably just a pathetic dirtball like Elina1989 down there...Stupid *****

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Because she's uneducated? Really? You're a monster

If I was your husband, I'd run for the hills and keep on running. No doubt you'd track him down on your broomstick.

He probably is clueless.

wow, while you're patting yourself on the back, I'd like to kick your a.

What a pathetic bunch you and you're husband. You have a mentally handicapped child and your solution is to make her life hell. Good on you.

in the end, she's better off without you around anyways. I bet you're wonderful husband is stiffing the mother on child support too.


Agreed. I'd stand next to you an kick her stupid a.

Wow i dont see my step children because of the agro the ex and they caused which has been hurtful and difficult at times. I think you are right to not have to have them in your life just because you are married to their dad, but you can be honest and not so devious for the sake of his feelings where he will be caught in the middle. i cant say i particularly like their personalities, but i dont hate them and wow how can anyone hate an 8 year old child???

Wow i dont see my step children because of the agro the ex and they caused which has been hurtful and difficult at times. I think you are right to not have to have them in your life just because you are married to their dad, but you can be honest and not so devious for the sake of his feelings where he will be caught in the middle. i cant say i particularly like their personalities, but i dont hate them and wow how can anyone hate an 8 year old child???

I fail to see how you women can even call yourselves human. I have two stepdaughters that I've raised since they were 5 and 7 (now 12 and 15) and NO, it isn't always easy. But how could you knowingly manipulate your husband into ABANDONING his children?!? The best thing that could possibly happen is for you to get divorced and your ex husbands marry women JUST LIKE YOU. You won't be high-fiving each other so much when it's YOUR children that your chicken$h!t husbands are destroying. I'm ashamed that you even have children of your own, please sterilize yourselves so your complete lack of humanity dies with you. You women should be ashamed of yourselves for the joy that RUINING A CHILD'S LIFE brings you. Your husbands are also complete dumba$$es for allowing you to do this to their children. How can you be proud of being married to someone so weak both in mind and will? Wow..just wow.

I am the adult version of the abandoned step daughter all of you selfish disturbed women are trying to abandon. My "father" was a result of a lie he create to cover up the fact that he was cheated on, a fact his "wife" "failed" to see (along with the fact that she was a part of the Jerry Springer fiasco because that's who she is too). I was treated like a third class citizen until I was 16 when, after countless setups and being made the scapegoat of what I thought was my family, I was abandoned in the ghetto. I was promptly found by a sociopathic 19 year old who offered me a place to say in another state. He wouldn't let me go home after that so I spent SIX YEARS BEING SEXUALLY ABUSED, MISSED THE REST OF HIGHSCHOOL AND HAD HIS BABY! He moved me to a different sate every year. It has been over a decade since I ran from him and started over. My "stepmother" still does these tactics with me. The sad part is that I still love her like a mother. How sick is that. i WILL NEVER BE WHOLE AGAIN! NEVER! SHE TOOK MY LIFE FROM ME! I HOPE YOU ALL END UP IN HELL FOR WHAT YOU ARE! FIVE YEAR OLDS?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! JESUS CHRIST DUDE! I HOPE YOU DIE!

Wow your my hero I love you... I did similar things to my husband to get rid of his 2 bratty girls... Even moved us into state... Was all going to plan until his ex kicked there 14 year old girl out... Now she lives with us... Total night mare. Her mother won't have her back & there is no where else for her to go... He works away & I work a lot of nights so when he is home I get him to come places with me & she always says no I will stay home... I wish the mother would have her back. It's bloody hard work.

I have two evil stepchildren. They are in their 30s now. They were 9 and 11 when I first met them. I always welcomed them and showered them with love and attention. They took every opportunity to mock and ridicule me. The stepson battered me on one occasion and sexually assaulted me when he was 19. The stepdaughter is very two faced. She pretends to be friendly around me. After she leaves I always hear through the grapevine her nasty comments about us. When I think back on all the years I tried to get them to like me I am only filled with regret. I shouldn't have bothered. It was not worth it. Now that they are adults I tell my husband if he wants to see them, he can go to their place or meet them out somewhere. I don't want them here. His son is a threat to me and his daughter can go gossip about someone else. I'm done. Not playing the game anymore. Their loss.

You sound like a kind and warm person. I hope this is a lesson that many of us will learn, it is that stepkids will always have loyalties towards their natural parents, which means, if their mother hates us, they will naturally hate us. No amount of patience and love towards them will change that. I hope your own kids will not make the same mistake.

Wow congrats for potentially screwing up an innocent persons life. Your husband is complete loser for allowing any of your manipulation to take place. Remember the story of Cinderella and snow white? Well you are just as ugly as those witches and you will suffer the same terrible ending as they did, in life you can not get away with BS like that, it will come back around honey. Though you hate your year old step daughter I wager that your selfishness and maturity level equates to that of a 3 year old, so she still one ups you sweet heart.

amen to THAT!

The scary part is that there re so many women trying to JUSTIFY this woman's actions. Wow.

You are a total, B

Three words You Go Girl. We married the fathers not the jacked up kids!!!!!

I am in a similar situation - however my husband is actually raising an 11 year girl who was a product of an affair his ex-wife had while they were still married. The child is also bi-racial (a beautiful girl) but she does not know she's biracial - because my husband nor the ex-wife has been honest with her about her identity. She believes my husband is her biological father. Dysfunctional - I know. I have 2 boys 5 and 11 from my first marriage. My husband has no problem with disciplining my kids at the drop of a hat - but excuses everything his "daughter" does. She's a hyperactive, manipulative, antagonistic, self centered little jack wagon. He sees none of this. I am frustrated withal of it - including being an unwitting participant in keeping of his charade that he is her bio-Dad. If I never saw her again - I wouldn't care and dread when she is at our home. I feel really guilty about my feelings.

I am the adult version of the abandoned step daughter all of you selfish disturbed women are trying to abandon. My "father" was a result of a lie he create to cover up the fact that he was cheated on, a fact his "wife" "failed" to see (along with the fact that she was a part of the Jerry Springer fiasco because that's who she is too). I was treated like a third class citizen until I was 16 when, after countless setups and being made the scapegoat of what I thought was my family, I was abandoned in the ghetto. I was promptly found by a sociopathic 19 year old who offered me a place to say in another state. He wouldn't let me go home after that so I spent SIX YEARS BEING SEXUALLY ABUSED, MISSED THE REST OF HIGHSCHOOL AND HAD HIS BABY! He moved me to a different sate every year. It has been over a decade since I ran from him and started over. My "stepmother" still does these tactics with me. The sad part is that I still love her like a mother. How sick is that. i WILL NEVER BE WHOLE AGAIN! NEVER! SHE TOOK MY LIFE FROM ME! I HOPE YOU ALL END UP IN HELL FOR WHAT YOU ARE! FIVE YEAR OLDS?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! JESUS CHRIST DUDE! I HOPE YOU DIE!

Just cos a bloke has kids from past doesn't mean we should have to put up with them. A few cells mutated and bred these aliens. Not our problem! Why should we not have the man we want because of these brats

so true, let's pray for them all disappear, stepkids should stay with their dearest mothers and leave us and our family alone. I will never allow my kids to see their so called 'half-siblings' for safety reasons.

Haha . Yes I have the same issue . My step daughter is 5 and she is dumb as a rock . She can't tie her shoes , count , tell me what letters look like , shapes . Smh . She throws fits over everything . She harasses my 5 month old . I need to step my game up so she doesn't come around anymore

I am the adult version of the abandoned step daughter all of you selfish disturbed women are trying to abandon. My "father" was a result of a lie he create to cover up the fact that he was cheated on, a fact his "wife" "failed" to see (along with the fact that she was a part of the Jerry Springer fiasco because that's who she is too). I was treated like a third class citizen until I was 16 when, after countless setups and being made the scapegoat of what I thought was my family, I was abandoned in the ghetto. I was promptly found by a sociopathic 19 year old who offered me a place to say in another state. He wouldn't let me go home after that so I spent SIX YEARS BEING SEXUALLY ABUSED, MISSED THE REST OF HIGHSCHOOL AND HAD HIS BABY! He moved me to a different sate every year. It has been over a decade since I ran from him and started over. My "stepmother" still does these tactics with me. The sad part is that I still love her like a mother. How sick is that. i WILL NEVER BE WHOLE AGAIN! NEVER! SHE TOOK MY LIFE FROM ME! I HOPE YOU ALL END UP IN HELL FOR WHAT YOU ARE! FIVE YEAR OLDS?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! JESUS CHRIST DUDE! I HOPE YOU DIE!

you are a ***** **** you .you should be ashamed you little *******

If you are an evil stepmom, your partner will end up leaving you.

Sometimes it's just a question of immaturity

Wow! My step daughter is 25 so I have a real problem, she wont change, but some of you have little step children 2 and 8 yr olds? come on. They are children. If you love your partner you will be patient and try to make it work. There is family counselling if you think it will cause a problem with your partner. How do you think you would you feel at that age, being catapulted into a new family unit. Those kids didn't ask for their family to be separated. I can see when it's a teenager or adult but children? Didn't you know the guy had kids? You can't blame them they are hurting. You should find a way to communicate with them before they do become the teenager or adult that will be too late to get along with.

Seriously your a old ugly selfish **** who needs to just get in the woods and be killed. YOUR A NASTY SL*T! and i hope your husband leaves you

I am the adult version of the abandoned step daughter all of you selfish disturbed women are trying to abandon. My "father" was a result of a lie he create to cover up the fact that he was cheated on, a fact his "wife" "failed" to see (along with the fact that she was a part of the Jerry Springer fiasco because that's who she is too). I was treated like a third class citizen until I was 16 when, after countless setups and being made the scapegoat of what I thought was my family, I was abandoned in the ghetto. I was promptly found by a sociopathic 19 year old who offered me a place to say in another state. He wouldn't let me go home after that so I spent SIX YEARS BEING SEXUALLY ABUSED, MISSED THE REST OF HIGHSCHOOL AND HAD HIS BABY! He moved me to a different sate every year. It has been over a decade since I ran from him and started over. My "stepmother" still does these tactics with me. The sad part is that I still love her like a mother. How sick is that. i WILL NEVER BE WHOLE AGAIN! NEVER! SHE TOOK MY LIFE FROM ME! I HOPE YOU ALL END UP IN HELL FOR WHAT YOU ARE! FIVE YEAR OLDS?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! JESUS CHRIST DUDE! I HOPE YOU DIE!

sorry I meant 2 year old

You are my hero! I have a 19 year old step daughter who I am proud to say we onlyl have to see her once a year at xmas. she lives 5 hours away with my husbands mom, and its perfect because she is a bad influence for mine and hubbys 3 year old son. shes 19, never worked a day in her life , and is so dumb that she failed her driving test because she doesnt know her left from her right. im not kidding. Mine and hubbys 2 year old corrected her . Hes even the one that taught her how to count past 1000 lol.
I hope one day you are able to "rid of your skid" as successfully as I have :)

Thats awesome! I have a gifted 2 year old as well and it so irritating when his half sister who is beyond retarded ( doesnt know her left from right either at 24 years old) tries to make my son dumb as well. She will say untrue things to him ( 2+2 is 10 as an example) but luckly he is too smart for that.

I know our hubbies only favour their "kids" ( ie accidents) because they feel guilty for not being there all the time. However the only thing our hubbies should feel guilty about is not wearing a condom and producing these life sucking beings!

Lol do true

Good for you. My SD family is in Jamaica, sent her back twice and amazingly she is back. Good for you,

You're pathetic lady.
You've probably grown up as a spoiled little brat and got everything she wanted.
And cried about it until you did get whatever you wanted.
You're weak
And I have absolutely no respect for you're waste of life on this earth.
I hope you grow old regretting things knowing you can't change.
And I hope you become lonely.

Step daughters need to find their own happiness and do one. My step daughter is a waste of space who can't even live a decent life and has no ambition but then she was a mistake just to trap a man what else would you expect. Unfortunately the ugly gene from her gopping mother has continued and sadly I know her. In any other circumstances I would not associate myself with such a person. I know my husband is embarrassed of her I just can't wait for the day when he tells her the truth. Original blogger well done.

I am the adult version of the abandoned step daughter all of you selfish disturbed women are trying to abandon. My "father" was a result of a lie he create to cover up the fact that he was cheated on, a fact his "wife" "failed" to see (along with the fact that she was a part of the Jerry Springer fiasco because that's who she is too). I was treated like a third class citizen until I was 16 when, after countless setups and being made the scapegoat of what I thought was my family, I was abandoned in the ghetto. I was promptly found by a sociopathic 19 year old who offered me a place to say in another state. He wouldn't let me go home after that so I spent SIX YEARS BEING SEXUALLY ABUSED, MISSED THE REST OF HIGHSCHOOL AND HAD HIS BABY! He moved me to a different sate every year. It has been over a decade since I ran from him and started over. My "stepmother" still does these tactics with me. The sad part is that I still love her like a mother. How sick is that. i WILL NEVER BE WHOLE AGAIN! NEVER! SHE TOOK MY LIFE FROM ME! I HOPE YOU ALL END UP IN HELL FOR WHAT YOU ARE! FIVE YEAR OLDS?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! JESUS CHRIST DUDE! I HOPE YOU DIE!

so true, some women just want to live on child support to sustain their life. I just moved to a new country with my family, i will make sure no one in this country ever knows my partner's past. It is embarrassing! If they ever pop in front of my house suddenly, im gonna call police to get rid of them

I think you are insecure. I have a step daughter as well some days I don't like the way she acts towards me but at least I tell her do she's aware of his I feel as well. Some days it's better than other days but I can't imagine trying to pull my husband away from his kids especially a girl. They need that guidance and security from their father. If you knew he had a kid why would you stay with someone you can't even stand? His own blood? I think you'd jealous of the child, I think your selfish and need to grow up! If your not happy changed your life, why try to ruin this kids future regardless of his the girl maybe! Her dad and her have a right to be together!

Your a *****

i have a problem with my step daughter as well but i dont want him not to be in her life, that just seems cruel. I mean he did the crime, he has to do the time (sorry to use that saying) but its the truth. So what if you dont like her, she is still supposed to love her, do u expect him to act the same way with your children if you two break up and have kids??Why not get her a tutor since shes doing bad in school, and did u ever think that she is doing bad because of stress because you are tearing her apart from her father??What would you do if some woman walked into your life when u were her age and took your dad away from you?? how would you feel??

She's his child, for goodness sake! What's wrong with him seeing her? Are you jealous?

cellens11 ;loll your a genuis . still a "female dog tho" . but a genius. with most kids . love and a lil slap on the hand once in a while works. but the rest or f****** BRATS . i hope bieng away from her pops teaches her to change her attitude . "If she is a bad child that is" and if she isnt . then i do feel bad for her n hope things change . but my stepdaughters a B R A T . she eats, sleeps, and POOPS straight attitude . she even breathes attitude . its f+++++++ redicules

I agree with lovelyladybug24! You are a grown woman and you are a bully! I work professionally with children and have seen first hand the kind of damage the things you are doing can do to a child. Christmas is a time to be with family how about having your step daughter and your family over to your house next christmas so you can see both at the same time? And anyway you talk of yourself and your partner having alone time!? have you ever thought that she may just want some alone time with her daddy as well? Or maybe, just maybe he actually wants to see her regularly but feels he cant because your selfish but will kick up a stink? Hhmm??..... How about involving your step daughter in family life instead of excluding her? How about helping her with her reading and spelling every now and again? I am dyslexic and I found reading very hard when I was her age and the last thing I needed was someone to be saying these kinds of awful things about me! She's a child, all she needs is love and encouragement, the first of which doesn't come easily but then, would it be worth it if it did? Think about her and how it is going to affect her, dont just think about your own relationship with dad, and if you cant think of anybody other than yourself then maybe you shouldnt be in this relationship! I really dont mean to sound harsh but with all these things you have written I think you need to hear the truth!

Thank you Brownie Cake Woody for at least providing some kind of input here without spewing out as much hate and fear.

And do please excuse -- there are several assumptions being made in yours and my posts. The first being this:

How do we know if in fact that the original blogger is or was telling posting the whole truth. Another assumption is that the original blogger is somehow still around to read our replies.

Another assumption is, and this is one you shared here, is that she shouldn't be in a relationship with the dad. Assuming that the original blog is true, how do we what spiritual lessons everyone who is involved needs to learn? Perhaps some of the spiritual lessons are meant for us to learn, as the readers as well?

Another assumption, and this one you wrote above, and my point is-off-the subject a bit, but it can still pertain to this discussion. It is the assumption that Christmas is for families. Actually Christmas can be with or without family and with or without friends or just by ourselves. Christmas time really alot about honoring and being grateful that someone as enlightened, peaceful and evolved as Jesus was born on this earth to help us out. His example and teachings can help us all become gentler and kinder on everyone and everything.

With that in mind -- out of all that I could wish someone like cellensii (the original blogger), or for anyone that is scared/confused/lashing out, it is Geninue Inner Peace.

~ Merry Christmas ~

You are a horrible, crazy, jealous woman. Breaking a realationship between a father and daughter, no matter how jealous you are, that's just wrong, kay lady? **** it , I don't care how harsh this sounds- I hope he leaves you, and you learn what you did wrong, and I hope you die alone and miserable with no vagina. Your a grown woman having a temper tantrum over a 9 year old girl who can't be with her daddy because her parents divorced and then her father married a puta. Get the **** OVER YOURSELF!!! YOUR NOT SPECIAL! Just remeber this, he loved HER first, she was there FIRST. You will always be second best. Let buddah have mercy on your soul. Goodbye.

Sadly, some of the comments here are as full of hate and rage as the original blogger expressed against her husband's daughter. The original blogger simple does not know how to handle the situation she is in. Nor is she prepared to be.

Its as though she jumped into the deep end of a pool and does not even know how to swim. Instead of calming down and relaxing and then rolling over onto her back to float, she is thrashing about screaming, yelling, kicking and making it worse on herself, and upsetting everyone around her. And then there are those standing around the edge of the pool yelling back and cursing her -- this does not help. Throw her a life line instead. Something she can grab a hold of to help her survive. True information helps calm the mind.

Please note the age of the original blogger. If the age range she chose is true, she is only between the ages 18 and 21. This is a good indication of where
she is (or was) at developmentally. Her main interest and activity is
(or was) probably primarily focused on having lots of sex. This is a common theme during that time of the human life. Nurturing mother energy definitely puts a damper on sexual activity.

Fathers, calm-down sexually when chosing the kind of female you desire to have sex with, and then marry. Its really up to you to protect your children from ill-prepared women who are not understandably capable of nurturing your children well.

I am the adult version of the abandoned step daughter all of you selfish disturbed women are trying to abandon. My "father" was a result of a lie he create to cover up the fact that he was cheated on, a fact his "wife" "failed" to see (along with the fact that she was a part of the Jerry Springer fiasco because that's who she is too). I was treated like a third class citizen until I was 16 when, after countless setups and being made the scapegoat of what I thought was my family, I was abandoned in the ghetto. I was promptly found by a sociopathic 19 year old who offered me a place to say in another state. He wouldn't let me go home after that so I spent SIX YEARS BEING SEXUALLY ABUSED, MISSED THE REST OF HIGHSCHOOL AND HAD HIS BABY! He moved me to a different sate every year. It has been over a decade since I ran from him and started over. My "stepmother" still does these tactics with me. The sad part is that I still love her like a mother. How sick is that. i WILL NEVER BE WHOLE AGAIN! NEVER! SHE TOOK MY LIFE FROM ME! I HOPE YOU ALL END UP IN HELL FOR WHAT YOU ARE! FIVE YEAR OLDS?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! JESUS CHRIST DUDE! I HOPE YOU DIE!

Its sad and painful to me, but its been 20 years and I'm still not close at all with my husband's now grownup 30-something daughters. Its not because I haven't tried. I admit that I'm not an easy person to get close to. I'm a highly sensitive, deep thinking, highly intelligent creative person -- who flourishes with loving, healthy & kind, humanitarian people, who are highly sensitive and gifted too. It is few and far between that I've found people who I am compatible with and geniunely like and enjoy being around. My standards, self-awareness & requirements for healthy relationships are pretty high, but the stepdaughters and their parents are less so. They all have unaddressed wounds that go unhealed and that I have nothing to do with, and for the most part they all feel way too sorry for themselves - like victims do - so you can perhaps get an idea why I am disappointed in the stepmother department. I am so NOT with my own tribe among the step-daughters. I'd far more enjoy and get along with them if they could take things less personally, could laugh at themselves and were truly forgiving.

This is how I see the unfortunate situation I'm -- or we're all here in to one degree or another. My husband's daughters lost a sense of security when their parents divorced, and they became even more threatened when I appeared. Their false thinking was that "If our Dad could give up their Mom, then he could give us up too." Due to their false fears about this, they set up a difficult choice for their Dad to make. They demanded that he make a choice. "Its either us or her, but not both." I am of the inkling that ultimatums don't work. They don't. Their ultimatum backfired. Their Dad started avoiding them instead.

I also believe that we are all one and we are all related somehow. From the start I innocently believed that they believed this too -- that we could treat each other as family even though we weren't directly blood-related. I was sincerely shocked when instead, I was excluded, bullied and mistreated by them - like I was a convicted rapist - because I was not blood related to them. I am one of the nicest people around, so it was a shock to my system to be mistreated by the s-daughters. I've forgiven them since and even though they irrationally thought I would kill them with a knife and when they lied to a counselor that I was sexually abusive to them. I never even considered mistreating the step-daughters until I had weak moments brought on by fatigue, my own immaturity, their provocations and my own feelings of helplessness, impatience and frustrations.

During one of my breaking points, I collected all of one my s-daughter's stuff, packed it up and moved it to her Mom's. All without anyone's permission because she needed to be with her Mom. I also broke into another s-daughter's locked room, packed up her bottles of whiskey with all of her things and moved it all in boxes to her Mom's too -- because nobody was addressing her drinking problem, and her need to be with her Mom.

I generously welcomed back of the s-daughter when she was 25, but it was a disaster. Here's why. The 25 year old s-daughter reverted back to the age of small child, and would also call her mom and sister to mock and gossip about what was going on in my marriage with her Dad. She felt she was being loyal to her sisters and mom - but her lack of diplomacy, her lack of having her unaddressed needs met long ago, and her lack of maturity backfired on her. I forced her to move out, again. And never again will I welcome any of the s-daughters back to live in my home. This way I am able to care for and control what I can and I can be an example of how important healthy boundaries are.

Thank you for writing this. It is comforting in its way to know that others have traveled this road -- and you describe its surprise curves and how it jangles one's nerves with a thoughtful eloquence that rings true. I know these feelings too, and they are not fun.


Yes.She's 9.NINE.Nine and already some evil (yes, you do seem very evil atm) woman has taken her daddy away from her. You're having a temper tantrum over a CHILD wanting to spend time with HER DAD. You are acting more immature than the nine-year-old. Also, she's has trouble to read? It's *your and *hysterical.And actually, no. I don't hope the child gets a new relationship with the father who just abandoned her for his new, self-centered, mean wife. She deserves someone better, someone who will actually love and care for her. Please, grow up. This is coming from a thirteen year old.

Amazing, props to you. I to had to be rid of the awful mistake my husband made! Or was tricked into as a senior. To all you with the negatives posts, what is this I hate my stepdaughter! Why would you even come here if your going to disagree with the posts!

Wow! I am a step-mom to a HORRIBLE 11 year old girl and an even worse 8 year old boy. I have thought many times that I wish they would just magically disappear and leave us alone but never took steps to do it! That's just mean! We've been together for 6 years now, but about 3 years ago I had hit my breaking point. I sat them down to have a discussion with them (one at a time) and let them know that no matter what Sh** they pull, I'm not going anywhere and if they don't stop I will make their lives a living HELL everytime they step foot through my door. And that if either one of them has any issue with it, then they are more than welcome to go to their mom's and never come back. 3 year's later, there's been no more issues (except the occational bologna that every kid attempts, step or bio) And there's is still alot of resentment towards them, but I wouldn't ever go as far as you did. A simple reminder of the hell I can turn their life into every once in a while when they act out seems to suffice. BTW... don't be surprised when he leaves you if he finds out what you've done. Just sayin...