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Getting Rid of Yur Stepdaughter

I wanted to share my story because like all of you I hate my stepdaughter! However, I took action and got rid of her, from my life at least. I live with my fiance who had is 8 year old daughter every weekend when we first started dating. A year and a half later he sees her 3 to 4 hours every other weekend at his parents house. She is not allowed at our house because I don't want her too. I moved us further away from his parents so it takes him longer to drive, and I got rid of her room in our 3 bedroom home. She's an idiot, she'll be 9 this year and she can not even read and she's getting held back. I think it's histerical and to think I actually tried to help her in the beginning. None of her family cares enough to help her with schooling, but that is not the point. I wanted to give little details on how I did what I did so if it will work for any of you, you can use it! First I claimed we needed alone time, which got the visitation to every other week. Then he started working on weekends and I told him I am not his babysitter and I am not her mother so he has can not bring her to the house. Then one time when she was at our house (last year) she didn't listen to what I told her to do so I tore into her dad, he refused to talk to her about it so I told him that she is no longer allowed at our home. She hasn't been here in over 6 months! Since then I got rid of her bed and put a guest bed in the room, and I have been progressively throwing away her toys. Since we just moved into our new home they are still packed up so no one ever knows the difference. We moved another 30 to 45 minutes away from his parents house so by the time he gets off work on fridays he has no time to see her, and then he works saturday and then i let him go to sleep and don't wake him up so he dosen't go up there saturday until like 6. Then Sundays after work all he has time to do is go get her and take her home, which I join in on. I want to make sure she associates me with leaving and no seeing her dad. And sometimes I even fight with him when he goes to see her so he assoicates seeing her with us having problems, and sometimes he dosen't even go! Ladies trust me there are a million things you can do to move your stepdaughter further out of your life. Plan vacations on special events, demand that every other holiday you spend with your family (I did that one too, he hasn't had her in 2 christmas's!). Accidently have made plans with friends on her weekends, and tell your husband way before so he dosen't think to count the weeks and goes ahead and agrees! I love our life now that she's out of our lives, our relationship is so much better! Good luck!

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I WISH I COULD DO ANY OF THE THINGS U DONE, BUT SHE LIVES WITH US, N IS A HELL I FEEL WAAAYYYYYY BETTER WHEN SHE GOES ON THE WEEKENDS TO HER MOTHERS HOUSE N FUNNY HOW ALL OUR ARGUMENTS START BECAUSE OF HER I HAVE 2 OF MY OWN N THEY WILL LISTEN. TO MY HUSBAND N HER SHE IS JUST A BRAT, SELFISH, ANNOYING, STUPID TEEN, I CANNOT WAIT TILL SHE GETS PREGO OR LIVES THE HOUSE PLZZZZZZZ HOPEFULLY SOON

I understand how some may find your candidness abrupt, uncaring, and disrespectful. Sadly I understand what you are going through. My husbands ex, his daughter -totally run our lives. She has been brought up with attachment parenting, breastfed til she was five, and is downright mean to me. I love my husband dearly but if I had to do it all over again would never. The father/daughter relationship will beat the husband/wife relationship every time, leaving me feeling hurt, regretful, inadequate, and deflated.

Wow! Awesome job! I am not able to do anything from the above. That brat is living with us 24/7 . Guess what is the only reason me and my husband are arguing about? That's right - my stepdaughter.
She has a learning disability so either pretends or she is really stupid.
I've made a decision to leave his *** because this marriage had brought out the worst of me. Can't wait to create my own family where kids love and respect me- their mommy :)

You're the kind of step-mother that make those evil step-mom stereotypes. You aren't allowing your husband to see his daughter! It looks like you just want to keep him all to yourself and your children, and keep the poor youngster from her father.

You're a cruel, selfish woman.

Sounds mean but I agree totally. People wouldn't really understand until they're in our position. Sometimes I feel like I should go to work Sunday to Sunday just so I wouldn't have to deal with her. Her mother is neglecting her and her father is allowing it but I'm sorry I AM NOT HER MOTHER, I have my own child who give me no trouble whatsoever and I shouldn't have to deal with another's problem. Her mother's negligence towards her is not my problem and it should not fall on my shoulders to compensate. That's just not fair to me.

When I first read your posting I felt somewhat bad for the little girl, your step daughter. I thought that maybe you were just impatient or maybe too young to understand.

I have since recognized the sheer gleefulness of eliminating her from your life.

I have a 13 year old step daughter, she is a spoiled princess. It's not her dad that seems to be the main issue in her upbringing, you see, she lives very far away from us, so my husband depends on the idiot mother, and the grandparents to help out. They have spoiled her rotten, and all because they feel sorry for her.

She has taken full advantage of this, by demanding anything and everything her little **** heart desires.

She recently stayed with us for the summer. I am pregnant for the first time, a high risk pregnancy, difficult and delicate, and my husband decided to bring her here for TWO months. I have dealt with a spoiled, selfish, jealous whiny little ***** for two months. He has spoken to her about her behavior, but he is not consistent, and eventually goes back to coddling her and overcompensating again.

She will be gone in two days, and I am so relieved. I TOLD my husband I do not want her for MY baby's birth. His parents want to be here, I don't want them here either. My father-in-law coddles her more than everyone, told me that he buys her whatever she wants, whenever she wants it with no question. My fear is that they will bring her, and they will pamper to HER needs while I am in labor and when the baby is born. The attention will be about how SHE feels, and my baby and I will be left behind, forgotten. I will NOT allow them to do to my child what they do to me. NO FREAKIN WAY.

My husband is the only one allowed in the delivery room, and my parents will be the only ones allowed to come to meet their ONLY grandchild when born.

Applause to you. I have gone through hell with SD and also was recently successful in removing her from our life. My husband asked me to take down her pictures, he is completely done. Thank god!!! It only took 6 years of misery and verge of divorce many times. Now we can move on with OUR family and OUR two children. The drama is finally over. Ps until you have been in these horrible shoes, don't judge!!!! You would never understand what we go through.

Congratulations at least someone out there had the balls to stand their ground against these unwanted leaches who do they think they are trying to barge into your new life I really can't stand these god awful brats that think the world owes them something because their parents aren't together boo hoo daddy's got a girlfriend so that gives me a right to be a disrespectful little ***** I don't think so! They should all get a grip and stay with their useless mothers who weren't good enough to hold on to a man big applause to you lady!!

holy ******* ****!!! that 9 year old girl deserves way better than you and her "dad". your husband has zero balls and just like someone else said, god will get you. i seriously hope that girl grows up not knowing either one of you. and i hope that your ovaries and uterus and **** all get cancer and rot off your disgusting body. you are a ****. no wonder the girl doesnt listen to you, she can tell that you hate her. and to start fights with your husband to brainwash him is terrifying. it shows how selfish you are. you dont give a **** about him. all you care about is yourself. well let me tell you something you little ****. you better watch out cause that 9 year old girl is going to grow up to be a 21 year old like me and **** man, i do horriffic things to my step mother. i put sugar, salt and oil in her gas tank i put bleach in her contact lense solution, i put bleach in all of her potted plants, i spit lougies into her shoes, i wipe my **** with her housecoat sleve so it gets on her hands and face. and on my last day here im going to ******* snip all of the wires under the hood of her truck. i ******* hate my step mother but unlike your stupid, ***** whiped ***** husband my daddy loves me and doesnt let his **** get away with a lot of ****. that little girl will make your life miserable. karma will kick you in the teeth. and im going to pray to god to ask him for revenge for that poor girl. i hope you rot in hell you peice of ****. its people like you that are ruining this world. go die

Get a grip you have obviously never been in this situation retard!

Are you mad bro?

I understand you perfectly. My step daughter and her son are living with us and now I want her out of my life!!. I emigrated her, I paid for it (because my husband hasn't had a good job) we wanted so badly have her with him. When finally she was able to come to USA she moved in with us. I started to notice her behavior, she is lazy, dirty, sleeps a lot, she thinks she knows everything, she always is right, and so on; I told my husband that she needed to accept the "rules" of my house if she wanted to live with us. At the beginning she agreed to the rules but after and slowly she was doing wherever she wanted. Until I got pregnant of our first baby, I was getting mad every single day because of her and her behavior. My husband told her to go back to her home, with her mom; she always was saying she would move back there. Then, one year later, she told my husband she was pregnant and that the boyfriend told her to go back to her mom's house. I said poor thing, ok, may be now that she is pregnant she is gonna change her attitude. We bring her back. But now she is even worse. She is been living with us for a year and my life is ugly like a hell. She doesn't work. She doesn't help with the chores at home. She has her bedroom dirty. She says she is tired of me and my rules. She is rude to me, she answers rudely, makes faces to me when I tell something to her. And the worse thing is that she doesn't take care of her baby. When he was like 1 month old she was giving him water instead of milk; she said that the water will helped his stomach. He cried a lot pretty much whole day because he was hungry, she would feed him only for 5 min. She would be at the computer in Facebook and the baby in her lap. She had the baby sleeping with her in single bed having a bassinet for the baby. She would feed him while she was sleeping. When he was sleeping she would put the blanket on his face. I have found the baby clothes with pop all over, which means she wasn't changing the diaper frequently. Now she has daycare (she applied for it). The baby is been taken care better, he doesn't cry that much. But in the weekends she needs to feed him, and because she is to lazy to prepare the food for him (we have the baby bullet to make things easier) she feeds him only with milk and even worse she gives him breast milk to avoid wash the baby bottles. Few days ago, the baby fell off the bed, she left him on the bed and she went to the kitchen, it was an night; we only heard the sound when the baby fell and he crying. The baby has some orthopedic issues and the Dr. recommended a brace for his legs and to use it every night, which she doesn't do. My baby and hers go to the same daycare. At the daycare the lady told me that I was been abusive with my stepdaughter, because she was saying that she was cleaning the house, making meals for me, doing laundry and everything at the house, that it was not okay which made me angry, obviously she is not doing anything at all. Sometimes I just want to grab my baby and run out of the house. I'm at the point where seeing her face bothers me. I feel sorry for the baby, that's the only reason for me no to kick her out, but I'm about to because I can't handle this situation anymore. My husband talks to her but she doesn't care. She wont listen. Obviously my relationship with my husband is deteriorating. I'm not longer happy.

I in NO way condone your behavior, but I understand your reaction. When a child makes it impossible for you to care, then there is no emotional attachment. You don't care because it's a sincere reaction. You are protecting your home environment. I think it take a real amount of maturity to get along with a step child, I'm not saying love, I'm saying acknowledgement and respect for their feelings. It's just a very hard situation in which your husband must have a clear view of his children's behavior, sadly most men are blinded by pity for their children, and they end up spoiling their kids.

I hate my stepdaughter too. But for good reasons. You are just a gigantic *****.

You people are fucken sick. The ***** that posted this should be arrested! God will make you pay sweetie. What you do done to her another will do to you or your kids.

All of you resenting stepmothers are very wrong. I am a step kid to 2 people who love me very much I imagine that if your child was sick in the head like that, you would call a doctor. Wouldn't you? Be the bigger person and make the appointment yourself, if you really love this person you would love his/her kid as well. My stepmother plans my trips to go to and from my mom and dad and she actually wants me to go over there a lot. I actually am very lucky for my step parents, my stepfather is a jeweler and he makes me jewelry from time to time and he also drives a limousine late at night to pay for my tuition and he don't give a sh*t cause he loves me and wants the best for me. Same with my stepmother, I have my own room and she went shopping with me for my Christmas presents and we spent just about $500 on just me bc I also wanted a hello kitty sowing machine. I am very grateful for that shopping spree and that was just presents from her, not my dad. My dad gave me a $100 bill. For those women who want no stepchildren, just leave the man and consider a single man who will have time for you and have time to start a family. As many women said here that ex's of your husband couldn't keep the family together, we'll try it yourself and see how 'easy' it is to you.

Your love is based on expensive presents and your tuition being paid. You have monetary conditions with your step-parents. It is shameful that you cannot value your relationships with you step parents without mentioning a pay out, money or presents. This says more about you than them. It seems that you are the kind of step child/ person who can be bought out. What if they were all really tight on money, what if it was impossible for them to buy you so many gifts and pay for YOUR tuition. Would you still admire and respect them. I don't think so. Tell me about their qualities as human beings, about how much they respect your relationship with your dad, but don't tell me how much money they spend on you. You sound really spoiled.

You have no idea what love is. You sound stupid!

I know that love is not based on money. Love is something you feel for someone regardless of how much money they spend on you. This is a sad generation of spoiled, overcompensated children of divorce who take great advantage of their step parents, and especially of their biological parents. You depend on the guilt they feel to get what you want. You are confused and truly do not know YOURSELF what real love is. When you GROW UP and stop feeling sorry for yourself, hopefully, your little brain might understand. Spoiled, selfish, self pitying brat.

I'm sorry peacemaker, your stepparents are paying for your tuition and according to your profile you are between 41-45 years old??? I should jolly well think you have your own room if you are of that age. Are you really who you say you are, or are just here to cause a little trouble, and if you life is so wonderful why are you on an internet thread discussing issues with stepdaughters?? Believe me if I had been allowed to, I would have dragged my partner's horrible Daughter to the nearest psychiatrist, but as we were not married I had no parental rights over her, plus the fact that her Father thinks she is perfect, which seems to be a common problem with single Fathers to Daughters, something I have done much research on. All I can say is that I have been the victim here, I used to take her to school, pick her up, pick her up from her Mum's for her weekend visits, I have done it all including spending my own money on her and believe me it got me nowhere. I never used to resent my Stepdaughter but she unfortunately resents me simply for being with her Father. Sorry I am still laughing at the thoughts of a 40 something woman on her Hello Kitty sewing machine. Cover your tracks a little better before thinking you are clever.

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After reading these posts I can see where you are all coming from. I am just about to walk away from the man who was the love of my life, I just cannot take his one sided behaviour any more. My stepdaughter was 6 when I met her and already showing sociopathic traits, which I observed and kept quiet about. Twice I caught her throwing my beautiful elderly saggy 8 year old rabbit to the floor and kicking him. A year later when our cat gave birth to 6 dead kittens both myself and her Dad cried. She never shed a tear, just kept wanting to go and gawp at their dead bodies. I also caught her locking my puppy in a bedside cabinet. When her Dad was out of work I paid for EVERYTHING for a whole year, including his maintenance to his fruitloop of an ex partner. I also bought shoes for his Daughter as I was sick of seeing hard skin on her feet through ill fitting shoes. There is really too much to tell it would take me ages,but lets just say that I know she has some sort of problem and is now 11 years old, nearly as tall as me, and quite frankly she gives me the creeps. Ive caught her analysing me when she thinks I cannot see her, she steals from me (sentimental things that cannot be replaced). I wrote her Dad a heartfelt letter last week, and when some more of my jewellery went missing I went into her room to look for it. I found a small picture of her Mother and tucked behind it in the frame was a piece of paper folded up into tiny squares, and when I opened it, it was a copy of the letter I had written to her Dad, she had copied it out word for word then stuffed it behind the photo of her Mum. I am at the point now where I am not going to wait around until she either pushes me down the stairs or stabs me in the back, literally. Ive googled "mini wife", she fits the bill, she fits the bill for sociopathic, phycopathic and other disorders but her Dad thinks she is his little princess and can do no wrong. I have now decided to cut my losses and leave them to it. I would never harm her but I seriously hope that she does the same thing again to his next girlfriend, as he seems to think that sacrificing the love of his life is worth it to keep cossetting this horrible child. We were supposed to be getting married, then she upped the ante with her behaviour. I would imagine she will be grinning like a cheshire cat when I leave, but he is terribly afraid of being alone and the minute he brings next girlfriend into the equation, the merry go round of **** will start all over again, and by this time I will be long gone, maybe then and only then will be realise that the true love of his life was trying to warn him and tell him the truth. His loss, not mine.

The only way things could change is if he realizes that she is causing the issues in your relationship. If he can't see her for what she is, a little sociopath, then he might the one being pushed down the stairs one day. I would like to say that there is hope, but while the father does not stand up to his kid, then he will leave a trail of hurt women. All hurt by a little *****, that was never taught to respect her father's decisions. Even if you do stay, there is too much hurt, she has done too much. Believe me, she has learned to manipulate adults, and will go on manipulating men her whole life. I know there are "step kids" on here that will disagree or will try to defend that callous behavior, but truly no one can honestly say they are willing to put up with this type of sociopath behavior, from ANYONE. Biological parents are blind to their kids horrible behavior. Step parents DO NOT have to put up with it. He either chooses to make her respect his decision to stay with you, or you leave, and make him regret being such an manipulated and permissive parent. TO THOSE STEP KIDS ON HER: RESPECT YOUR STEP PARENTS, AND MOST OF THE PROBLEMS WILL GO AWAY. I DON'T CARE WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU THINK YOU DESERVE, IF YOUR STEPMOM/DAD IS HAPPY THEN YOUR OWN BIO PARENT IS HAPPY AND GUESS WHAT? THAT WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY. Spoiled ********.

Thankyou Melinashi for that reply. It makes me really sad that my relationship is at an end, but relieved in a way as if I had married this man I would have had to tolerate his offspring for the rest of my life, and I truly believe that she would never stop. Her Mither still behaves in a disgusting manner as does her Grandmother, to be truthful the whole family are abnormal. I challenged him about the letter that I found and he denied it was her writing, destroyed it, then claimed that someone must be breaking into the house and stealing my beloved items, then planting letters in his Daughter's room for me to find!! I mean, have you ever heard such a load of old guff in all your life?? As he has a habit of destroying the evidence, I have now taken to photographing the letters (several so far) on my smartphone so I have at leasy got something I can print off later if I need to. I am still living in the house as I cannot afford to do otherwise and I am now thinking of getting a covert camera to catch her in the act, and then, and only then will he believe what's been going on. I truly believe though that even presented with undoubtable evidence, once he is backed into a corner he will simply tell me to leave, rather than admit that his Daughter is evil. She talks to him like ****, like she is on the same wavelength and certainly behaves like his girlfriend, not like a Daughter and quite frankly I am glad I never married him because he is looking ever more spineless the more I know him. Trouble is I know I am still in love with him and always will be unless I get out of this madness.

I am married, first time, with a divorced man. He was married barely out of college at 21, with a woman he was pressured in to marrying as she was pregnant. He met her when she was cheating on her boyfriend, my husband was the other guy. His culture is very conservative, as is mine so he got married to please his father. Four years later, this woman gives birth to a baby, a son, that my husband thought was his. He did not see a resemblance. He filed for divorce when he discovered she was having a long affair with a police officer. He demanded a paternity test during the divorce proceedings. She begged him to refuse the test, swearing that the little boy was his. He was not persuaded by her tears. The test came back negative, my husband was NOT the father. He finalized his divorce. His daughter was around four years old when she was separated from her father. Very sad, as it was not her fault. Four years later, we met at church. He admitted to having a child and being divorced, I saw the divorce decree and pictures of his daughter, oddly enough she looks nothing like him either, but oh well. He proposed after one year of dating. This is what I said:

I UNDERSTAND YOU HAVE A DAUGHTER, AND SHE IS VERY IMPORTANT IN YOUR LIFE, AND I RESPECT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH HER, i WILL EVEN ENCOURAGE YOU TOO SEE HER, BUT, I WILL NEVER BE A MOM, SYMBOLICALLY OR LITERALLY TO HER. I WILL NEVER MEDDLE IN YOUR ISSUES WITH HER MOM, AND, DON NOT EXPECT ME TO EVER FORCE A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR DAUGHTER OR TO BE THRILLED ABOUT SEEING HER. AS LONG AS SHE RESPECTS OUR RELATIONSHIP, I WILL RESPECT HER RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU. THE ONLY TIME I WILL BE PISSED AT HER, IS WHEN SHE DISRESPECTS YOU.

(sorry for the caps, but I was firm when i spoke)

She visits us during the summer, she is very spoiled, and I blame her grandparents. They live in another state, her, her mother and her grandparents. Whenever I visit I feel like an outsider, BUT, my statement stands. I am NOT expected to do anything I do not feel like in regards of her. If I make her a grilled cheese, I'ts because I WANT TO, there is nothing forced. She respects me, I respect her, there is no love, and barely a friendship. My husband stood up to her once during a family trip, OUR FAMILY (which does include her) when she was acting really spoiled, turning her back on me, ignoring me and marking her territory in the hotel rooms, heck even in my bed. My husband saw her doing everything possible to ruin our trip, I did not utter a word. He took me by surprise and told her to respect me because I am his wife. Still today she is quiet and respectful. I don't have to do anything, because actions speak louder than words, and her actions were appalling during that trip. Truth be told I have been very patient, and have not provoked her in the least, so my husband can see for himself and decide to discipline her when necessary, in return, I give them all the time in the world to hang out and go shopping. I purposefully stay home, or got out by myself. I am sincerely pleased when I see them happily getting along, they both have the same personality, and it is funny to watch them.

I feel for you, really, i want to say that things will get better, but that is in your husbands hands. If you truly want to stay with him, why not suggest a counselor, so he or she can point out his mistakes. Although if you decide to leave, it would be easier to do without children of your own. If you have children with him, it is worth a shot, trying to stay together. You don't want your kids to have to deal with the same issues you are dealing with. Pleas take care.

You should be committed. Leave the relationship you loser. You don't scar a kid who's clearly going through something.

Pinche pendeja, how old are you? are you really that dense?, have YOU ever dated a divorced man with children? Are you lame? What the hell is wrong with you, are you some little spoiled brat who wants to take her frustrations out on me because you have a b!!tch of a step mom. I am not your step mother, I don't have to put up with your bullshit. So until you grow a bigger brain, Then STFU

I have never scarred my step daughter, I have never scolded her or insulted her ***** mother. You are so ignorant. Did you even READ my response. What the hell is wrong with you. Are you so blinded by anger that you find it difficult to have appropriate reading comprehension? I am not leaving MY MARRIAGE (NOT RELATIONSHIP YOU IDIOT) with my HUSBAND because he calls my step daughter out when she behaves badly. I am fortunate enough to have a husband who sees the bullshit and acts accordingly, someone who loves me and expects his daughter to respect me. so fack off and target YOUR step mom, the one that hurt YOU. I am not her.

I've recently done the same. It was hard, it never got as far along as your experiences, but it wouldhave done.
Please be assured that you have done the right thing.
I have now met a wonderful man, also had children but it's a totally different world.
Please be strong.
He will NEVER truly hear the truth, I tried and tried to the point of being really cruel to my ex but he had no remorse, he knew exactly what was going on but didn't care.
Only when the same child turns on the parent will they realise but they still won't care!!

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I have an 18 year old stepdaughter and I met her when she was 15. I know you are a b+i+t+c+h. A 9 year old kid, come on already, you are not only selfish but you are also insecure about not only your relationship but your own identity. That's sad. You are the one who needs to be dropped sweetie. You are pathetic and have no reguard for any other human being! You are selfish and you don't deserve what you have and he will figure you out eventually and drop you for the b+i+t+c+h you are. Grow the **** up already for real, *******!

My marriage has fell apart because my spouse of full time rights back to his kid, every thing revolves around her, all we do is fight because he wont discipline her, he ignores the baby... I think since he see's his self as christian he needs to re-read his bible and see that the marriage comes first and Abraham sent away his child and the mother and the same needs done here. WHat does he do? buys stuff he doesn't take care of the physical constant demands he isn't the one getting held back on a career because he wont take the ex for child support so mountian heart will accept his child but will mine! I suffer from her, HE DOESN'T, because he has no responsibility I have it all! My child suffers from having a neglectful father because of it! I think if he is going to let that woman see her that woman needs to take the responsibility and be a mother not a friend! I want to help the mother get back her rights back so at least one of the natural parents will be taking care of her! because neither one really does anything! I can't do nothing for myself or my daughter because I'm stuck taking care of his kid while he is at work, and with him constantly telling me how much he doesn't love me I want to get my career in place so I know we will have something to go to when a divorce happens and I wont feel so bad for his kid for not having anyone decent taking care of her. Just thrown in and out of baby setters, daycares, schools, and god knows what. He doesn't have time to be a father why should I waste my time taking care of his baggage while I have my own child to take care of! God knows the little pill head isn't gonna pay child support that is the only reason he took the other kid he didn't want to pay his ex any money because he is a dickless pos!

Kids, teenagers, need their fathers to step up and discipline. No more feeling sorry for little sally, get it together and teach your children to respect their step mothers, and maybe stories like the original one posted on this page, would not happen.

Or teach you kids the sight of evil. So they can report it to the police

You have issues lady! Please seek help of a counselor before you continue this behavior or worse yet before you teach this behavior and bad choices that stem from it to others. This planet doesn't need anymore help from people like yourself.

Thank you I'm so outraged about this *** hole telling people this! Honest people actually looking for a way to connect with a stepparent is a real blog that we all need to start.

This is the exact reason why children do not trust their bioparents' new lovers/spouses. This is the reason they are horrible to them. Seriously, this is exactly the thing they fear, a stepparent who wants to take their bioparent away and willfully tries to destroy the parent-child bond they share.
I don't like children, in general. I won't ever have children of my own, and I would never marry someone who has children under 18 that he/she has contact with. So, I understand where you are coming from. They can be a pain, and after a while frustration will probably get so bad that you just want them out of your life and miserable for the rest of their days. But really, it makes you a pretty horrid human being. It's quite petty and childish to act like that.

shut up.

You should be arrested. I'm going to report you and I hope I can save your step child

I feel the same you are a blessing I can't stand my wife's devil's seed she's horrible she got pregnant when she was liked 15 we made her have an abortion and come to find out this little fun swollower has been having sex sinse she was like 12 oh I hate this *****

You can have your skid mark sent to placement actually if that was my state what she is doing is illegal! If she runs away ever... i expect she will there you go call the police have her sent to the hospital's psych ward over and over for running away, underage sex, and delinquency after 3 times you can have her sent to a long term treatment facility. I think little hoes need it she is probably doing drugs, and could be into self harming too since she has no respect for her body... having an abortion could be an attempt to have harm inflicted on her self... hell it doesn't have to be true even just get her somewhere that will treat her that behavior is worth treatment enough! (though our world is used to it so... you're gonna have to say what you can to get the police to take her) Having an abortion at 15! she needs to see a doc anyways that leaves emotional scars as it is! I can already tell you a **** seeking 12 year old probably has a borderline personality... divorce can cause that issue with all the pointless taking a kid back and forth between parents. (that crap isn't for the kid, is rarely good for the kid, and i believe it is only for the parent)

This is about the original post not some ******** opinion about a stepdaughter!
Come on already. What do you do for a living??? I do much more than you and no your way is not the way to help someone. If you aren't a professional or have your own experience about the situation then don't comment!

You aren't a psychologist, or behavior therapist, or school counselor so don't give out medical advice, ok?

Obviously she needs help, she's in a bad place! People like you disgust me, what have you done to be proactive in her life? What about your wifes feelings? Don't care? Looks like. Children aren't a devil's seed ***. They are a blessing and you take that on when you marry and take on step children, get a life and be proactive and help this girl! You won't be married long if you push this aside. May be divorced already! Maybe you are trash that doesn't care at all, sounds like it.

Maybe check your ***** she did a ****** up job raising her. She was obviously abused sexual to exhibit this behavior. Your probably the culprit

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And I say this to ALL bio moms who have a problem with step moms...

Stop having kids by men who don't stick around or that you can't keep!

KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED IF YOU CAN'T KEEP YOUR FAMILY TOGETHER!!

If YOU kept your family together step mothers would be non-existent!

Also, sometimes it's not the "bio" mothers fault. Sometimes men just get bored....you can't force someone to be with you know matter how 'perfect' you are. Everyone one who's educated knows that.

Lol yeah I'd bet your man would get bored with you lol I hope you don't have kids because if so, they will totally have a stepmom.. Totally.

Your the most disgusting piece of human feces on this planet. You psychotic-sosiopathic disgrace of of a human being. I am normally not one to condone what I'm saying to you, but **** you, you worthless pill of filth. I hope he leaves you for a beautiful and wonderful woman so he can finally see the the difference between a beautful soul and a rotten pile of maggot soul. You digust me. If you were infront of me I'd spit on you.

Why do white ppl always wanna spit on someone. I seen this lady get her *** KICKED this past summer over the same thing... You white ppl gon learn one day. Smh

Because it's an utter disrespect to a person. I can understand why "someone" of your stature wouldn't understand. Don't worry, it's expected.

Lol How is it that I know you're fat??? Lol I know you'd never admit I'm right and will swear u look soooo good but I can totally tell you're fat just in your language. Kill yourself cow!

Elina1989 ur my hero! I wish step children under 18 could be aborted! Just put down like dogs!

Karen-the message I wrote above you applies as well. Worthless waste of a life...

You are an as swipe, you skidmark

I've never felt so disgusted in my entire life. Is this what that woman my used-to-be dad was with, did?
You... You need to stop being so sick and realize what you are doing. Have you no feelings? Where is your heart? You teach children, yeah? You love children, yes? Then why are you pushing this little girl away from her father? You have no idea what you are doing to her.
That man your with told you to come here so we, everyone on this site, can talk some sense into you. You need help.
And something I know nothing about? I know a whole lot of something's about this. You make me sick.
I've never been a hateful person, but ma'am, I will laugh when someone has finally killed you, then I want to stand over your grave and laugh as your corpse rots, then I will want to laugh again as the devil puts you through a torturous hell, and hopefully, you will regret every single second you didn't love on that little girl.
You are why every girl hates their stepmothers.

well sometimes it is because they are spoiled brats and don't realize their drugs shouldn't be around a new born for example... or they are pissed that the one person who disciplines is the step parent. I love my step parent, my step is my real parent. My step also beat my *** when I deserved it! So don't put the same shoe on all feet.... I liked the two steps and my bio father much more then my bio mother I hate her to this day, but only admit to that anonymously. I get alone with her better now she has been a great grandmother since karma has ate her *** off over the years. but yea it is messed up she can't wait it out for visits I just read that part... i thought she was another mom being used as the damn maid and baby setter wanting to Baby mama to own some of her responsibility. Because you have to think of this women are seen as the care taker... when men gain full rights the wife gets all the kids full time not the husband... so if you need something like mountain heart which is contracted throw the dhhr and can't get your lazy pos husband to help you you get screwed out of your life! out of your careers your classes because you can't just dropped the kid that isn't yours off at your trusted friend's house and say please watch her for two hours... you can with your own but a spouse who wants to use his kid as a weapon to keep you attached to the house wont have it!

Bravo. He'll leave her in the mud to be with his baby. And that piece of crap will get run over by the karma train.

I have a 4 year old step daughter and I hate her guts! Her bio mother has a suspended licence and is on probation for continously driving drunk. Ohh how often I pray shr drive drunk with that lil brat in the car and they both fly off a cliff!

Miracles happen!

Careful what you wish for, hoe. God works in mysterious ways. Be careful driving.......

Listening to this website is hurtful. What do you hate about the little girl. Some children are wicked and some are good. What is it about the 4 year old you hate?

I'm 19 years old and have dealt with a nasty ***, mean *** stepmother since I was six years old! She had my whole family including my own FATHER turn on me, and as a result on my 18yh birthday I was kicked out of my house. My best friend to me and and even her mother hated my stepmoms guts. My other friends parents thought she was a ***** too, even a few of her own cousins did. I've been trying to tell my father for years this woman is no good but he never listened! Now, after cheating on him before and still cheating on him NOW he finally sees what I've been trying to tell him! She tricked him into moving to another state alone for his job and now she's at home having an affair and taking his all of his money! She's never worked a day in her life accept stupid hotel receptionist jobs and used all his money to go to college and she still won't get a career! She has rubies my life! I hope ignorant as ******* like you as well as my stepmother (soon to be ex stepmother) BURN IN HELL you piece of ****! I wish I knew you so I could BEAT YOUR ******* *** STUPID ****. GO LAY IN TRAFFIC LAZY *** HOE. You're clearly a dumb *****.

I agree, I hope all these co-dependent dirty woman go to hell. I have never been so infiuriated over the internet. If the 'step mothers' want a family. Go ******* find your own not cling to one that is already started!! Stupid ******!

you're use of profanity makes you seem like a dumb b*****. Just because you had a bad experience doesn't make them all... you ever thought that your trying to pin parent against parent caused anything? you don't think anything happened at all that made her feel like wall paper and build resentment hence leading to her cheating on your father? Women don't just spend years with a man to just cheat someday... that is a cause and effect situation where she needed to feel appreciated and we do seek appreciation for taking care of skids... do you know how many women get that appreciation? hardly any... nothing they can do is ever good enough for a mans precious. Yes some women wrongfully take it out on the kids... some times it was just over due and the skid mark deserved WORSE! He obviously did nothing to pull the family together to make you respect your step mother and realize she was there to stay with you trying to convince him she is the devil. You should also know people talk especially family the number of people who hate her has no true value unless you can manage finding some recorded evidence of her actually doing something. You were 18 boowhoo my BIOLOGICAL mother did the same! Was it helpful no... do it make me get my life started any quicker like she thought this action would no actually it held me back from going to college MUCH longer then I anticipated... I just started going last year finally and surely not to the one I wanted to go to. What she did lead up to my marriage and pregnancy though. You can't be a little basement baby your whole life. They moved she didn't take him from you and more then likely for the career you bash her on not getting.. maybe he wasn't supportive? Grow up... you no what's worse... I'm only 2 years older then you. I started college at 19 yes, it was a late start for me since I graduated early in 2010.

I whole agree with you missbabiesnononly, step kids cause the problems that make the step parents feel like wall paper. IT IS THEIR OWN FAULT that their parent's split up, and their fault why step moms need to seek out validation through others. They tear away at your self worth and try to make you feel like crap, because they want everyone to share their misery. I hope to God that all these miserable step kids eventually marry someone with kids: Pay back is a *****.

No, you being a little brat made everyone turn against you. Stop blaming your step mom for the issues YOU have created in your own life, or better yet, look directly at your own mother if you want someone to blame. little *****. Stop making your step mom look like a bad guy. You sound like a horrible person.

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Perhaps this woman is a bit jealous of the stepdaughter, however, it is her instinct to protect her relationship and her future family. How many of you who are making comments actually have stepdaughters. Let me tell you, not just my personal experiences, my only one friend(yes, only one, because the rest will never choose to date a man with kids) told me that her stepkid was trying to hurt her own son due to jealousy. She had no choice but to move her family to another country to avoid this screwed up stepkid. I am in the similar situation too, the stepbrats are so jealous of my daughter that they tried to feed her with plastic balls! I will NOT TOLERATE anyone that is willing to destroy my family, or is a thread to my daughter's life.

You worthless woman..if you want you own 'protected' family YOU SHOULD HAVE GOT YOUR OWN!!!!! NOT ONE THAT WAS ALREADY STARTED. YOU DUMB *****!

I actually think all both of your comments are stupid. If you bio mothers would stop having kids with men who dnt stick around there wouldnt be step moms. Keep your legs closed if u cant keep ur family together!

And step moms, discipline these kids and if u cant leave him and his problem child alone.

I actually agree with that, But that sad fact is most can't and these poor children are left with these immoral pieces of garbage. It saddens my heart to hear that there are women out there like this..

stupid spoiled puta, STFU

Elina, I am currently pregnant with MY first child. I am extremely excited, but the only thing that is stopping my complete happiness is my step daughter. She is almost 14 years old, old enough to know better, but since she has been the only constant child in my husband's life, she is used to being spoiled and her lavish taste and needs for shiny new things is unquestioned by all. I spoke to my husband, I am concerned about her possible behavior once she knows of our baby to be. She is coming to stay with us this summer, for a month and a half. She only comes for new clothes and gifts, hardly wants to spend time with her dad unless she is getting something. He assured me that this time they won't have time to shop or take trips, we need to save for the new baby and he has so much work lined up, he expects her to help him, and chip in. He also told me "I will NOT tolerate jealousy from her". I am so relieved, as my pregnancy has been difficult and high risk. I don't mind her visit, I dread her princess high and mightly attitude. I told him that I don't like her feeling in control, that HE is the dad, and HE needs to say what she can and cannot have. He agreed. He is focused on having a relaxed pregnancy. I hope it goes accordingly.

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Your sick a very sick woman i hope god raises all hell on you.

I hope you will end up with some stepbrats, and they will, just like the majority of the stepbrats, will wish you dead or sick every single minute of their lives! Enjoy it, you are a saint!

I'm just going to comment every comment you made, you filthy bag of dust! Go Ahead mark me as flagged *****!

BTW, i'd really like to urge all of you who dislike or hate your stepbrats to take some serious actions. because, long term resentment is going to damage your health, mentally and physically, imaging all the medical bills you have to pay due to these brats. Secondly, You have done absolutely nothing wrong. Such step relationships are not natural! They are against our true nature. Tell yourself everyday that 'I AM A LOVING INTELLIGENT GREAT PERSON, I HAVE ALL THE RIGHTS IN THE WORLD TO HATE HER/THEM, BECAUSE I DID NOT CAUSE THEIR PARENTS' SEPARATION, I ONLY MARRIED TO MY HUSBAND, HIS ROLE IS TO BE A HUSBAND TO ME IN THIS MARRIAGE, A FATHER TO OUR KID/KIDS TOGETHER'. You truly have nothing to do with these brats, empower yourself everyday, hang out with positive people to increase self-esteem, slowly, they will be getting out of your life, although it won't happen over night. Trust me, the more powerful you are, the further they will stay away from you.

Aww, sad insecure woman who needs to talk herself up in the mirror because of how much she hates herself!

@ Lolobeans: Aww a stupid spoiled *****, who wanted to **** her daddy. find your own man you ****** lover. Get help, your unhealthy relationship with your dad has confused you. He is not there to **** you.

You can't judge someone unless you've walked in their shoes. I know how you feel.

so true. Funny that people actually think im stupid for getting into these ****** situations. In Asia, they usually say that 'if you are not blind, deaf, disable, or too ugly, too stupid, do not marry a man with kids if you do not have kids yourself.' Stepbrats are soul destroying, rude, entitled, treating people like dirt.