My Wife Is NutsI don't know what to do. She never misses me. She only needs to check up on me and then she doesn't care if I'm alive or dead. She's insane about everyhting that needs to be accomplished and never stops bitching about anything. Sex without heartache stopped the day we got married. I asked her to change her name to mine because it was important to me and she refused. She lied to me about have changed her name in her previous marriage until the 5 minutes before our ceremony. We are about to buy a house and that's all she cares about.
P.S. We had sex the day before her last period and she refuses to take the morning after pill and says it's too late....24hrs ago.....Our relationship is pretty much a roomate situation and have a mentioned we've only been married for 3/4's a year? I cringe at the thought of being around her and wish she'd never come home. The thought of having a kid with her makes me want to jump off a cliff.
*Update* We talked about the name change last night and she says she never wants to change it and never wanted to change it but she is willing to hyphenate it for me. Also she told me she's willing to get a divorce after a kid so the kid doesn't ruin my life................wtf?
The reason I haven't left is because she keeps mind ****in me......she says if you're not happy we can get a divorce, you can leave if you want, in a civil manner. It's like we're associates at a job. Not a care in the world if I stay or go.
I have been abstaining from having sex with her- It's just hard not to after 3 months without for a guy that's 24.
*Update* She had started acting retarded and mean last saturday so I left the house waitning for her to come to her senses.....came home at 11:30 slept in a different room...got up at 7:30 left and by 8:30 she was harassing me on my phone so I turned it off and eventually came home at 6:30 pm....she came to her senses and was sorry for treating me that way telling me she didnt want me to see her cry so she acted retarded to get me outta the house.
Yesterday she told me she was ready to call her friends and family to tell them we were separating. Her reason for separating is that I do nothing around the house. To an extent, that is true. She just always jumps the gun on anything that needs to be accomplished- and expects me to drop everything I'm doing to do laundry (for example) at 10:30 on a wednesday night....Sunday is laundry day. So yes she does do more. It is not my fault she is irratic about how she does things and I am willing to help her....what gets me is that she is thinking about ending a marriage over such futile bullshit. All the crap I put up with her and she wants to leave because I won't change for her and her expectations are impossibly high.
She told me if I wanted out I could leave. So I am getting a postnump, buying MY house, and just not putting any effort into the relationship anymore. She'll pay me rent for living there and if she gets tired of my **** she can leave and I can just find someone better to live with me in my house.
P.S. She says that there is no reason to stay in the relationship because I have nothing to offer her. I make $55k a year and have free college and own a brand new car and have no debts, and was prior military with VA benefits. She's a civilian with $17k worth of debt. Same pay. What don't I offer?