We're together 15 years but since having kids I can't stand her anymore. We disagree on everything and she is stubborn, pig headed and so independent that we can't have discussions about how to handle things with the kids anymore because they escalate into arguments.This is coupled with a quantity over quality approach...everything is slap dash and I pick up the mess left behind. She is downright argumentitive and its gone beyond not loving her anymore and growing to resentment and hate. I want to tell her so badly but I know if I do she won't be able to handle it and I fear things may become a legal process very quickly. The thing is that I will not leave my kids...although I would be quite happy for her to leave, but the legal processes still favour mothers desipte the choices of some mothers to favour a career over being a stay at home mum. I have taken the decision that there is no way out of this other than her finding someone else it which circumstances I may have some legal leverage. (this all sounds so underhand which I'm really not proud of) Rather than that I am looking for ways in which to ride out the storm until the kids are old enough not to be scarred for life. Trouble is thats at least 17 years left to go!!!!!! My aim is to create a subtle drift between us where our interests and work will lead to less time together and lots of happy days apart!!! It's not about meeting anyone else for me either because I am determined and committed to staying with my children and I don't want them to be hurt by not growing up with either mum or dad. I see many others with similar experiences so it's comforting to know that I'm not alone.