I Hate My Bitchy Wife !

My wife is a nagging, harping, finger pointing know it all *****. I am seriously thinking of just up and leaving her ! I cannot stand her touching me, we never have relations anymore, I don't want to spend time with her, talk to her, and I could care less about anything she has to say ! I don't know WHY the hell I married her, I was happier and better off single !!!!!
cyberfixture cyberfixture
41-45, M
72 Responses Apr 11, 2007

I can understand totally all of this. I was in a 16 year loveless marriage to my ex who I met in Navy A School. Just wasn't anything left. Tank was empty. Consequently, I had inherited quite a bit (QUITE) of money a year before we decided to call it quits. My ex was going to move back to her hometown and I was to remain in mine. We decided to sell our 5 bedroom home and split up the 2 large annuities and investments I had with her. In that time I met my now wife. She was fun, loving, caring, however 15 years my minor. That was perfect for me because I had just gotten out of the Army and was kind of a high speed kind of person. Gym every day, run 4 days a week yada yada. My ex was pedestrian at best so finding my new wife was a refreshing change. Sex was great! In cars, in my office, hell even outside of a club IN the car before we left! Wildcat and loved it! I split the money after my divorce and put us (she had two kids from a previous marriage) in a 3 year old nice Acadian home. She had to pay nothing. I paid all the expenses, even her kids expenses. Bought her a new car because she had to declare bankruptcy over a Chinese dry wall house she and her ex had together and gave her own car up. This is going on way too long. Long story short I started my own personal training business, it bombed. Money ran out and while she works now and we have slowly climbed out of debt, she's a total ***** now and has changed 180 degrees. The sweet, caring person now barely gives me the time of day and flat out just ignores me as she feels necessary. Sends a text, then just drops the phone and don't hear back from here while she's out "shopping". Oh yeah and we had two children together that I love dearly, but like she says "Im over toddlers and babies now". 1 year old daughter is coughing and sick and rather than then bring her back home for a much needed nap (after going to my stepdaughters 3rd grade right of passage ceremony) she decides to go home, get a bed bath and beyond coupon and go shopping for two hours and then pick up my son at daycare! Wow man, this is what I gave up a life of financial security and basically an easy life for. A disgruntled, shopaholic who ******* constantly she has to "get out of the house" every weekend because shes "bored" and spends every minute and dollar we have on spoiling HER kids in the process. Fed up man, fed up.

I went through almost all of this for the past 16 years. Hit a peak and said I wanted a divorce. My wife had anger problems, 3 counselors tried to get her help, and our kids left and kids were afraid of her constantly. I'm not perfect. ..far from it. But I work hard for 6 figures, help with the house and kids. I couldn't figure out how or whst happened...why me friends didn't come around...why she had none. I just knew "I" wasn't happy.

Then we tried a Love & Respect retreat. It didn't work but we both tried....it gave me hope. I then read a FB post about not looking for your spouse to be Mrs. Right and her being right for me BUT me being Mr. Right for her. I mean...we must've had something right at one point. I swallowed my pride and aplogized even when I knew it was her fault. I rnvoursged her hobbies and habit no matter what.

Although it's been quite a while and things are not perfect....they are better. We sre in our early 40's so we have time to get out but decided to kerp going....it sucks. Marriage isn't easy. I don't think it was meant to be easy.

Be Mr. Right versus complaining here about her being Mrs. Wrong.

Dude,I know exactly how you feel. My wife is the same....finger pointing, know it all *****. She's a ******* liar too. I know a lot of men that feel the same about their wives. It's like an epidemic. Women don't know how our don't care to be ladies anymore. The Good Book says that it's easier to live with one arm than to live with a nagging wife. I never really got that until I married this *****. What's up with these ******* anyhow?

I hate my life but in other way, she is blocking me to get to my dreams.
Remember, the more you stay the more cost you pat, which is your time!!! It never gets back.
You've already lost it

This is horrible. Why do men stay with cruel and emotionally abusive women?
I have fallen in love with a wonderful man, he doesn't know although he might suspect. He has been in an emotionally abusive marriage for 20 years and now he doesn't even dare to speak to me because it makes his wife "upset", even though we used to be very good friends. I love this man dearly, I have a very peaceful nature, the depth of an artist, the body of a barbie doll, and the IQ of a librarian. Yet, he is committed to his bitchy wife that makes his life miserable. What is wrong with you, men?
I would never want to be a home-wrecker, and this is why I never let him know that I have any feelings for him, but his marriage is so blatantly, obviously poisoned. It makes me feel ashamed to be a woman and it makes me sad when I see good women loyal to jerks and good men committed to bitchy women.

Hey there,
Not sure if you've been in a longvterm relationship, but after such a long time you get used to it. Like having lunch at 12 noon everyday for 20years.
To change, some one needs balls.
His wife sees you as a treat, so be one

Well said, I'm one of those guys. I love my wife very much but the only difference between a good husband and s fool is how his wife fefeelsels about him. If he tries to please her forever, if he opens every door and lights every cigarette, if he tells her she's beautiful and works hard and loves her with all that he is...so long as she loves him back, he's a hero. If she doesn't live him back, he's a fool. just sayin

hey cyber. You bring up a point I've expressed a few times since joining. women want to know why their men stray or cheat. your case is a pretty clear-cut case of why.

no man wants to spend big hours working a job for a boss who is an a**hole then come home to a bitchy wife.Let's dispense with the formalities, a ***** is a *****. I'm rolling my eyes now because my wife is constantly complaining about our youngest daughter being fat, all the while, my wife is tipping the scales at 260lbs. A bit of the pot calling the kettle black. I do NOT want to emotionally hurt my daughter by calling her fat and am trying to instill this attitude that if she goes out and plays, raising her heart rate for atleast 30 minutes a day, she can start losing her weight and so on.

But my wife is killing me with her negativity. She'll harp on the same damn subject for 30-60 minutes.. on and on.. over and over, saying the same thing over and over ad nauseum...women.. quit complaining to the point guys like Cyber and I leave you.

"I hate talking to her I hate being around her. If I say I love her she say nothing back If I hug her she pulls away saying she tired from work."

I have stopped saying I love you to her at least 10 years ago...because I don't. Don't cha love it when she pulls away. There's nothing that I could do back to her that would make her feel even half as bad as she makes me feel. What a terrific wife!

Never be fearful. Get medeival on her verbally and if she is still rude then leave her. In this bad economy women are a dime a dozen. You and you alone have the power, young Skywalker.

Fairly certain that this is the case. Looking at it from the financial security perspective and gazing deeply into the primitive stuff, women want men to do things for them in a simple cheap exchange of favors for sex. This really is at the heart of marriage and while not readily apparrent in the beginning of a relationship, it always makes it's ugly self known. I am married to one of the most gigantic ***** on the planet - don't even need to go through the details. I get through it by loving my daughter, and having friends, and a few hobbies so I can enjoy my life.

You can't control them you can only hope to contain them:
Game Changer

woman are useless bitchesonly good for one thing taking mans money thats all there good at im sick of them

I will go over and biatch slap her right after i stick my hog in her azz. i love azz play

Pain2: most of us are lucky enough to be married to a woman with a fair amount of good qualities. So, if you don't mind, **** OFF IF YOU CAN'T HELP US!

I know the feeling mate what can u do when u have lovely kids to the ******* botch

I have been married for 2 years and it started out just painful. My wife is the worst alcoholic. I am 25 and I need a divorce. My wife has just been nagging and nagging since the beginning. She has 3 children that aren't mine and they all have bitchy attitudes that I can't even teach them anything. She wakes me up every night with her digusting snoring and I need my sleep because I have 2 jobs to supply for the family and her ******* drinking habits. Every night I wake up and just want to knock her out, so I decided to sleep downstairs on the couch. Then just yesterday she hit me and the face for not getting what she liked at the store. I almost hit her back but stopped myself and simply said we need a divorce. Then she starts telling me she quit alcohol and she will never do that again and that we can take classes. What the ****? Hell no I am getting a divorce I can do 100 times better then her. Plus I better end this before it gets out of hand. 2 years of that crap was enough. Sex was horrible and I don't even like her anymore. I don't even understand how I liked her in the first place. I am never going to get married again. This was the worst 2 years of my life.

I been married almost 3 years and its to the point where I just do not like my wife any more. She b*tch and complain every damn day. We have one kid together and she has 2 from previous relationships I love my son to death but I wish I never met her bitter b*itchie ***. Somedays she wants to smile and talk nice then she bitching about something else just to b*Tch about. Everytime I find a higher paying Job she b*itches about having to spend time with the kids more. Because job will have me working more hours but double the pay. I work night and when I get off I still have my son all morning even when she is off. She sleep late and I work 8 hours and want have no sleep before my next shift. Then she has the nerve to say I m boring because I don t want to go out. Maybe if I had rested enough I would.
I hate talking to her I hate being around her. If I say I love her she say nothing back If I hug her she pulls away saying she tired from work. SomeTime s I want to knocked the hell out of her but I do not want to protray a negative image around the kids. She always want to go on vacation and trips and rather spend all the towards it instead of paying bills. She b*itches about her job and gets mad because I don't make enough to take care of the family. If she would have allowed me to take the higher paying job then we would be OK instead of near foreclosure and power company about to turn off lights every month. I really think that after tax season and I save enough money I'm divorcing her *** quick and getting joint custody of my son. Let her ***** to someone because I 'm tired of hearing and dealing with her complaining ***.

I try my best. I work pretty hard in the house, but I am often spoken down to. I feel lonely and at times fearful.


Soooo glad I found this forum! Was so pissed off at my bydch of a wife that I just typed "I hate my wife" into the browser and it took me here. My wife and I have a son, whom I love more than air.. He's the ONLY reason I don't just tell her to fugh OFF. The second he turns 18 I'm leaving her unfun, lazy, surly, complaining azz. My wife thinks the world owes her everything. She works part time. Yet I do ALL of the house work and yard work. I cook ALL of the meals. All while woking at least 48 hours a week. The ONLY job she does is laundry. And she only does that because it's not actual work. It's a minimal contribution. My wife is absolutely NO FUN. She complains about EVERYTHING. We've been to TWO marriage counselors and as soon as the counselor says she's doing anything wrong or takes my side on any issue she doesn't want to see him any more. She's always pouting or sulking. Always has a problem. She's constantly upset. I personally know at least five of my female friends who would LOVE to have me as their husband. I have 15 years of this misery to deal with. Then I can dump her *** and have a happy life without her. I'm stashing money and preparing for that day. As soon as my son turns 18 it's gonna be SEE YA LATER!!! Goodbye misery.

Man, we are in the same boat. Although my wife doesn't work. We have 2 daughters, they are the loves of my life. It's the only reason I'm still with her. I do mostly everything around the house; laundry, dishes, cleaning, groceries, changing bed sheets. My wife says she's beat bc it's so tough taking care of the kids during the day. I'm sure it is. Our kids are a handful. But seriously, as soon as I get home my oldest daughter runs down stairs practically begging to play while our youngest is still napping. I feed them, bathe them. What a coincidence that she showers every time it's ready of then to eat dinner and when it's bath time she comes down stairs to pack their lunches for school which takes her forever to do. Oh, she also had a masters in psychology and she refuses to work leaving a $70k student loan debt lingering over our heads.

I've spend 11 years trying to stay married to this dumb *****. We got no kids thankfully, since she would be a piece of **** mother. Give this ***** $1000, she will spend $1100 and on some stupid ****. She has no personality. She has no clue what it going on in the real world. She is lazy. She is addicted to pills. She complains and *******. She isn't as good looking as she was, but she is still a looker. However, the sex is lame. She never helps around the house. She don't try to be a part of my family. She yells and takes advantage of her own family. She is ruining her younger brother's life by sharing her drugs with him. He looks up to her. <br />
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I'm at the point where i'd rather live alone unhappy than live with her forever being unhappy.<br />
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And this ***** won't be happy with anyone else. It's not me. She has issues.

And i've been sleeping on the couch for months now. Dumb ***** will sit in bed with the tv on all night long whethere she is asleep or not. Therefore, i can't sleep well. Yet i pay all the bills. She can't even be considerate that i need my rest.

It's all about her 24 hours a day 365 days a year. F'ing c*nt.

I am at a point where I would rather sleep on the cold floow in the lounge than sleep in the same bed with my "wife". She has become worse than the nastiest piece if *** I have ever seen. In fact I look at her now and simply have nothin inside for her. The fact of the matter is, she still feels that I love her and will often say "I love You", to that I do not respond. I cannot recall the l;ast time I uttered those words. She is a truly horridd individual who's only feelings are truly for herself and how she lives. She feels nothing for my being at all in fact, her words of I love you seem to be habitual rather than tru. <br />
We have a 1 year old daughter and that is the only reason I stay, when she is old enough and my finances are stable, I will leave her, this is a fact and not a dream. I will make this happen. I am 40 now and do not want to live my life with someone who is truly a ***** in every aspect of the word. I would ratrher live alone than with her.<br />
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Just to put you in the picture, she said "if I ever left her she would cut off my dogs tail so that noone could experience happiness ever again". well I am sure my dog can do without his tail and he would be far happier without her. He would wag his *** as would I.

This page is so funny and sad all at the same time!!!! Very interesting....Okay so please help all you "I hate my bitchy wife!" contributors. <br />
I am a 27yr old woman married to a good man for 8 yrs but our marriage is falling apart. We both work full time but when I get off work my work continues. I know as a woman, I shouldn't think of tending to meals, laundry, cleaning, homework, managing our bills, ect as work but I do. Why is it that he gets off work and is off???? I try so hard not to be a nagging wife. I don't sweat the small stuff. I overlook mistakes as human error. But don't let me leave my towel on the floor in the morning because he has a fit!<br />
Even though, I am the only one that ever cleans that room too. <br />
I am working hard to advance in my career and always looking for ways to improve our family whether it is the kids' grades, our income, their extracurricular activities, things to do with my husband that he will enjoy. I have taken leaps of faith in the sex department. We have explored sex clubs, **********, sex play and other things. I try to be open-minded and fun but it is never enough. He says that I don't want to do anything sexually. Is it me? Am I supposed to be excited about sex when the session is all about your pleasure? I ask for candles, fun lights, maybe a shower scene sometimes but that is too much to ask for I guess???? So, yes, I am not very excited about sex anymore. I know the session will end with his satisfaction and my demented self trying to find my satisfaction in knowing he is happy.....<br />
WOW. I too give my kids tons of attention but I have always believed that if they lack some attention because I am spending it with Dad, it is not such a bad thing. It is good for them to see that. <br />
I can't get over feeling like he is always doing something behind my back. I am sneaky and snoop. I try to catch things before they go too far. He loves to socialize and I feel like crap when he does. I think because I am always feeling like he wishes I was more, or different. I never feel like what he wants. Obviously, I am a bit of a people pleaser! lol<br />
I am always in a bad mood around him. I tell him to leave. I yell at everything around me. I know I was very young when we got together and I have had my own set of "growing pains" but I have always loved him and try to be everything he needs or would want. <br />
I support him and encourage him. He sex plays with girls on line, sends naked pics of women online, makes vulgar comments among his social peers like "Have some of this before work" with a pic of an *** and *****. I wouldn't care but they all know he is married and I think it makes me look stupid especially when some of these peers are women. <br />
Before you say it, I am not suffering of low self esteem or whatever....People like me and think a lot about me. Some ask how he got me....ect but I am someone who came from a broken home, who knows how important a father is to their kids, and wants to be able to raise my kids in a 2 parent household, and love my husband. I want to be my hubby's wife, best friend, girlfriend..ect I want him to be happy and love me the way I deserve to be loved.<br />
So let’s have it.... I'm I crazy for being such a ***** to him???

naw, you seem like a good natured woman. a rarity. I hope you find happiness. I think i speak for these men here but, the types of women these are, it would be more enjoyable to wipe my butt with coarse sandpaper then deal with them.

If it helps any of you, I have a over dramatic wife. The littlest things make her freak out which makes me lose my temper and usually drives up my alcohol intake. I understand that I cannot change her over the last 9 years but something has to give. I wish you gentlemen luck. I sure need it. Probably won't come back to this site but good luck. I don't think drugs or alcohol are solving the problem but I feel like their are chooses. At least I have a great daughter and one on the way.

She uses her glosssed over cute and sexy voice! To the other guys, or gals on the other end of the microphone. On a mmorpg , not to me whos been slaving my @## off to pay for the abilities to do this. This house should be condemed for cleanliness but the B$#@@! is a level 75. How can I argue with that! Thwe last time sex was even a talk was ... really cant remember. And it was only a talk. I come home , mow the friggin lawn, wash the dishes, Which is really weird cause I use the same utensils every night, but she dont. lol. This mmo has taken over her life , but she thinks its her ..PRIVELAGE. She barely works, making annually what she spends in 3 weeks.THATS When I can get her to work, any job she does she has to ***** ABOUT IT. I could be a gladiator fighting for the survival of the human race, but she had to work beside so-and so , and that trumps that.I wonder if they have an mmo AAA yet, or if even this is my problem, juudging from all other posts, gender might be the problem. Good luck gents

I'm in the same situation but I'm a woman... I work all day - He doesn't want to work. I take the kids everywhere. I pay all the bills. He nags me from the time I walk in the door. Or on a lucky day he'll act like he's asleep until I go to bed then he'll get up. I'm financially exhausted - I leave for work at 6am and don't get back from taking the kids to practices until about 9:30pm - i usually have to buy food out because I have no time and my kids and I scramble just to have clean clothes- when I ask him why he can't at least cook or wash some clothes he replies that he isn't our n****r! Wow! Where is that coming from? As for sex - he told me years ago that I was "unf***able" - so I don't even bother to ask. I just don't know what to do - I think my children are entitled to their childhood and being happy - so my only plan is to continue with the same routine until they are grown - then I guess if he hasn't found someone else by then (since he gets to lay around and socialize all day) - I guess I'll have to see what happens then

i am a 43 year old man. i make six figures. i am a partner at a firm that i founded. we have a huge brick mini mansion on a lake in a very affluent neighborhood. i do work around the house. home improvements, landscaping. i am an amateur chef and cook dinner 4-5x a week. no kraft mac & cheese here, real meals like you'd get in a restaurant. we have very nice cars, take expensive trips. i buy her extravagant jewelry and gifts in an effort to make her happy.<br />
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My wife is 46. we met 16 years ago. she has a son from her first marraige. her ex was a cheating lying piece of garbage. total lowlife. because of this she is completely jealous and as she's aged, she has become less self-confident, thus thinks im on the prowl looking for someone else, even though i've done nothing of the sort. she deleted 40+ friends from my facebook account behind my back because they were women she didn't know. they were business acquaintances, distant cousins or people i just knew from grade school, high school and college. not even any ex girlfriends. seriously. every text message or phone call i get is "who was that? your girlfriend?" in spite of all of my reassurances that i am not cheating, every thing is a dig. I have to travel for business, so of course she things i'm screwing everything that walks the minute i get to the airport. every trip is an exquisite torture of her thinking i'm up to no good and me having to defend myself against stuff i havent done. its so frustrating!<br />
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She is CONSTANTLY picking at me. everything i do is wrong or stupid or not how i should have done it. hell, a busted clock is right twice a day. not me. always wrong. that's me. apparently after 43 years on earth, building a successful business, and having a great deal of book smarts and life experience, awards and accolades in my field, making my clients milions of dollars, at the crest of being the most successful i've ever been in my life, i'm a moron.<br />
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her son is in his twenties, living with an ugly fat chick (whom he intends to marry) and has no job. BUM.<br />
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between the insecurity, the jealousy, and the constant picking and arguing, i'm really trying hard to find a reason not to walk away, besides not wanting to lose half of my stuff.

@ luccabrazzi77~1st, I hope your wife doesn't find out I'm responding to your 'tale of woe' (as in I'm deathly afraid of car bombs and molotov cocktails..lol)
2nd, do you have children with your wife or is it just the first marriage son of hers you both raised?
And you should tell him to forget marriage, look at how miserable you are. The ugly fat chick is just gonna get fatter and uglier....and put HIM in debt. Oh wait, you said he HAS no job. Ooooohhhh....looks like YOU will be supporting the 'happy newlyweds" stepdad! Congrats! (HINT: GET OUT NOW!)
3rd, and last....no prenup???? Its her SECOND marriage...even though her first husband screwed her over. Hmmm, you think she would HATE all men. Besides all your success, wealth, charm (perhaps good looks), prestige, reputation, career and that you're younger and have that wonderful mansion and are a wonderful cook and all....what did she see in you? Why'd she marry you? You should have made her sign a prenup! To hell with her insecurities! You have to stop living your life because of what someone else did to her? BS! To her to seek therapy and get over it already!

I'm in the same boat. your wife sounds a bit like mine. seems like the mid 40s cause women to become very insecure. i think they become jealous of younger, thinner woman and take it out on us because they are sure we notice and desire these other women. mine gained weight and i think that is part of it. you don't mention children in your marriage. if you don't have any i think you should get counselling for a few months to address both your issues. if you can't change something you need to leave this woman. your life will be fine. in the end you must take care of YOURSELF and stop this woman from ruining your life. if you really think you need to replace her, it is not hard. those younger thinner women are looking for secure, successful men. your stuff? who cares, you can replace it also. good luck.

I can totally relate to your situation. I also am a six figure professional. We have a nice home in a nice suburb of a large city. We have five kids, all but one are in college or out of the house. My wife was married before and had one kid by it. My stepson was a holy terror. I lost track of how many times I had to visit him in jail. He's married now and has been gone for nine years. TG. My four children are like angels compared to the stepson. Like I said, the older three are in college and the youngest is still at home.

My wife has become the most negative and critical person on the planet. Every day starts with a monologue of things and people she doesn't like. No one escapes her her diatribe. Not me, not our kids, not my parents, no relative, friend, or aquaintence. She doesn't work, although we could use some extra income with three in college. She never has since we've been married. She is always complaining about the lack of money. She is always telling our kids that we are poor and we live in a"crapshack". I try to not let it hurt my feelings, but it often does. We have no friends. People tend to shy away from her. She has a defensive air about her that people can sense, I believe.

The whole thing is getting to me to the point that I am seriously thinking of pulling the plug on this marriage once the last kid is in college. I think she has some serious mental issues, like depression. We have been to counseling once, a long time ago. She didn't like the counselor. I told her to pick the next one. That never happened.

I have been contemplating a move professionally that would triple my income and be a good way to spend the last ten years of my career, and put us in a good position for retirement. It would mean leaving the area and most likely the state. I doubt that my wife will go for this when the time comes. Perhaps this will be the jumping off point that I am looking for. If she decides to come with me, fine. But it means no more mister nice guy on my part. She either gets help, gets happy, or gets gone.

Wives are terrible. Mine is too ! (I am married for 12 years and have two kids as well). Not all the time, but enough to give me headaches. What is worse for me is that she tends to be provocative a lot. She will basically provoke me and push me to the edge, nagging about very little things to the point that I feel I should now hit her, but I never do. I know this would be wrong thing to do. I am a very educated person and I know what I do not have to do as well!<br />
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- It would have been so much better if she had realised that she needs to change a bit. But if I mention this to her, that is she has to change: my God, she will hit the roof and never ever accept it. You have no idea how much I am ALWAYS changing myself, and asking myself what can I do to make things better and implementing little changes (by the way, that's how I came to this site today!), this makes it feel very unfair, because on her side she would never even think of changing or making things better. I must say she was NOT like this always, at the beginning of the marital relationship, it was okay but it has gone worse with time (in her case, becoming more mature with age does not make her better).<br />
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- Another thing I find nightmarish is that she knows very well what my strength is, and she knows very well I can deliver (whatever it is including house works etc), but she will hit me when I am at my weak point: example when I am tired after work. How unfair this makes life feel...<br />
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- They simply do not realise that a man needs a quiet space, needs peace of mind first so that he can recharge himself after a hard day's work. I find it amazing that a woman does not understand something so simple. I am not saying all wives are like this, but many are and mine is just like this. If only they had understood JUST this, it would have made life so much simpler.<br />
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- Another thing is: in the couple I am a lot calmer than my wife. Now you might think I am trying to praise myself but I am not. I swear I know who I am. Even all my colleagues and my bosses at work know for a fact that I am a very calm AND peaceful person. Now add to this, I have two kids. So when my wife starts nagging, I tend to be the one who will appease things. This is because I am naturally the calmer one, and I do not want her to start shouting and screaming and scaring the kids. So what I tend to do is to adopt the win/lose position (She wins, I lose). I know it's not right, but I have to do it at least when the kids are awake and not in bed yet.<br />
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- Perhaps in some sense I am afraid of her, I am embarrassed to say this, but it might be true. She is very much like her father with very very bad character. She would not hesitate A SECOND (read this twice please!) to suddenly disrupt the whole nice atmosphere/environment of the house. She just does not care if she hurts you as long as she says what she wants! This I find particularly hard.<br />
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Anyway, life is really not easy with a wife, I must admit ! People reading this might think if my story is true or not, but I swear I have described all this to the best of my ability, I do not gain anything by not telling the truth here. All I am saying is what I feel. There is a lot more, but there would not be enough space to write all here, it could be the size of a book if I were to say everything !!

Maybe you should just ignore her completely! Come home from work, do your own thing. Talk with your kids, but pretend shes not even there. When she runs off in a tizy, let her. Then when she calms down a bit, if she can, expain to her in your calm way that from now on, if she cannot give you the respect you deserve, you will ignore her. If she wants to act like a brat, treat her like one, as if disciplining a child. I only say this because your story sounds alot like another gentlemans who wrote on here whose wife was very similiar. He decided to try this method of behavioral treatment on her...ignoring her when she was being bitchy. And he said he stuck with it, that is key! But after several weeks , it worked! She stopped treating him like dirt, he stopped ignoring her. Now they are in marriage therapy, but things are looking up.

My marriage is a miserable combination of all of the above. It's because of the power struggle that marriage becomes. The whole penis envy thing was explained very clerly to me, and on many levels, women are out there trying to demonstrate that they don't need men. How convenient it is to do so, once they have married one and attached themselves like leeches to your finances. At the core of the matter, women want security. Then after they have that, they do the praying mantis thing and want to devour their mate. You don't see too many women refusing alimony or contesting 50% of marital assets are theirs (even when they may have contributed NOTHING during the course of the marriage). That's why I got a prenuptual. For all of you men out there that are too scared of hurting your wife-to-be's feelings....let me say this: It was the single most INTELLIGENT thing I ever did. My wife is a deceitful ***** and just the other day when she told me 'how it's gonna be'...I reminded her that I don't need her ****, and that if she wants she can go **** up a rope...take off, hit the road, etc. I will be UNAFFECTED and I can take ALL my money, ALL my posessions, etc....with me, and she can just kiss my *** and make it alone. I made certain in the prenup that she waive the right to alimony. <br />
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Sure I got a river of tears and the old "Don't you trust me" bullshit, but you know what? They have ulterior motives from the very beginning. After all, what does a guy want in life? A job. Peaceful time at home. A beer after work. That's IT. What does a woman need? Every thing that she sees on TV and that her friends are wearing. They are the ones with the extreme need to keep up with the Jones', if you will. Well, gentlemen, for about 300 bucks and some fake tears, you can avoid a nasty divorce settlement and keep the shirt on your back.<br />
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Here's a good one too! When we bought a home, I created a corporation and registered the land and home in the name of the corporation. So if we get a divorce, I have access to the house and land ANY OLD TIME I WANT. She can't even contest it in court.<br />
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Believe me, I can see how much it ****** her off that I had the foresight to think of these things.<br />
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Gentlemen, let's keep the ******* in their place. We men are much more vlunerable due to our committment to work and provide. A woman gets a divorce, and she's back on the barstool in about 2 hours. If she can find someone with money, a marriage is in the works. Guys work much harder than that for basic human respect. And women know this.

You are right in most cases, it is so disgusting how women are in the US, so selfish, not just only with their husbands, but their whole family, but their still good women around, women that know how to appreciate a good husband, that makes them feel loved and teaches them to behave and be a better wife, still there are women that belief in loyalty and that marriage are for life and not just while they feel like it
ONLY and mayor reason marriages don't last any more is because people have the wrong ideas now a days, the minute one does not get their way, the marriage is over, life is not easy, life is not harder than we can figure and we get married we make a commitment for life, but now a days it seems that is long forgotten

Glad you kept your finances well protected, my husband's ex wife ruined him and still hurting him trough the children

I'm a woman but really despite women that can not remain loyal to their husband, and understand that you marry for life, I'm blessed to have a great husband, that will blistered my butt if I ever mention the D word, [although he refuses to spank me, but I know he can, as done it once, just to show me he can, and because I was disrespectful], a husband that loves me, and will not doubt a second to really remind me my marital vows, and my duty to him, and for that I'm grateful for my husband that I love, and if sometimes I disrespect, I deserve all the sore thighs and arms I have earned myself, as he would not mind giving me a long lecture and a very hard couple of smacks
For any women, and men reading this, do not go to marriage if you do not have it clear in your mind to do it for a lifetime, is not fair to each other to marry and then have a divorce, it destroys one of the couple and makes it so hard if there are any children, and you will be hurting your own children by your actions, a marriage is a life process of giving and take, sacrifices and mutual understanding and loyalty to each other, if you thing you can not do this, DO NOT MARRY, till you are ready to accept this responsibility, and in the meantime, do not be so loose in your actions

OMG!!!! APPLAUSE...APPLAUSE....APPLAUSE!!! BRAVO MY MAN ON THE PRENUP!!!! So smart!!! Now, if only they could make that a premaritial LAW!!! There would be so few unhappy couples out there stuck in a marriage that is dead.

All ***** deserved to be killed and let the devil teach them a lessons that they would not forget. We men work hard and never get appreciated for . Woman is the cause of evil , remember adam and eve it was eve who become evil that why god punished us. Aggree with me and the law is always not fair to us. Stay away fro polish ***** they only want money , money.

No proof that Adam &amp; Eve even existed.

Good luck, and hope you all get things worked out with your wives, especially if there are kids involved

I do recommend Taken in Hand or Domestic Discipline, is not abusing your wife, or beating her, is an agreement between the both of you deciding who is the head of the household<br />
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I have a temper, and can act up, but lately, my husband would not allowed, I get disrespectful, I get a smack or two, and I better quit or get a third one, and I better apologize, or earn another one, and believe it or nor things are better at home, but I agree with him, about taking my medicine if I misbehave, once I apologize, he does hug me, and all is forgotten<br />
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Do talk to your wives, and tell them how you feel when they are disrespectful, try to make them see, how would they feel if it was the other way around, if you have to be forced to **** on your wife, is best you both split, as a relationship with no respect and trust, is nothing left

I have been faithful to my wife for almost 25 years, when I met her she was drop dead gorgeous and I thinkg she still is for her age of 47. She was always controlling but not bitchy. But as the years passes she became more and more controlling and bitchy. When I mean controlling she has a say in every matter. For example, I always wanted a dog but we had to get what she wants a cat I wanted to have another kid but she wanted to stop at one, on and on. etc.... It never stops. It is her way or the highway. She argues about every petty bull s###! She is never wrong about anything. We use to have vicious arguments about stupid petty stuff and then still make up and have sex at least once a week. It was a bad situation but bearable. This year it got worse, because this June I lost my job. My income went from almost six figures to $405/wk.. unemployment. We stopped paying our mortgage and bank started foreclosure proceedings. My wife became more and more unbearable. The sex stopped, and constant nagging about when are you going to get a job bull#### started. I don't want to get a crappy job and still make the same amount of money as unemployment. I try to explain to her but she does not understand. I am about to lose it. Good jobs at my age which is early 50's are hard to come by. I want to f###### leave her but financially I can't do it. I still pray everyday but since my dad's death, and after losing my job, an about to lose my home I started to question the existence of God (Sorry for all the faithful people) . I am hoping that it gets better for all of us here on this blog. I am also tempted to cheat on her with a younger woman who has been trying to get my attention for sometime.

God to know I am not alone!<br />
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I don't know if my wife is as bad as some of the women I am reading about in previous posts, but I can tell you that I am already at a place where I can no longer see a possible happy ending in this marriage. My wife loves to nag, point out my errors (and gloat in a passive aggressive fashion) and is generally negative about anything I say or do. She will blow almost any disagreement into a showdown with the fate of our family in the balance unless I agree with her. I'm so sick of it, every argument becomes a question of whether or not our relationship should continue. This happened most recently over a milk bottle I was feeding my son with, she insisted I was doing something wrong (my son was half asleep so it appeared to her he was not drinking). I was aware of this so I wasn't worried about it). I'm not new to dealing with infants and I damn sure know how to use a bottle. She freaks out over it, I get pissed for the 115th time and then she escalates it to a question of our relationship continuing. The usual crap. This happens with EVERYTHING. Nevermind that I spend 6-10 hours a day looking after my son so she can have time for herself on my days off. Or that I wash the dishes, cook, do laundry, vacuum etc every day while she is on maternity leave of a YEAR... there's no pleasing them.<br />
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She has a ton of flaws, spends money like it's water, never on time for anything and general laziness are just a few. She complains about everything she has to do as if she is some princess being taught a lesson. I almost never mention her mistakes or shortcomings because I have never been that kind of person. They're called mistakes because they're not intentional. And as for flaws we all have them, so unless they are grating I keep it to myself and try to accept things as they are.<br />
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Whenever their is a question about something that needs to be done she will ask my opinion and then proceed to do the opposite of what I said or she will choose to not trust my judgment on a matter that I have a lot of experience with, and listen to what "someone else" told her. She will sometimes look for some outside persons opinion to verify what I said as if I can't be trusted. All the while she will tell me how SMART she thinks I am. Right.<br />
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And then she wonders why we don't have sex? If your woman makes you feel like your an idiot then why would you want to open up to her like that? I sometimes wonder if women think men don't have feelings. <br />
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I am at the point where I simply avoid her as much as possible so as not to feel on edge for hours on end. It's the only thing I can think of doing since something as simple as using a baby bottle, turning up/down the heat or using the incorrect spoon for the rice can make her irritable and when she is that way she looks for ways to **** me off. This has lead to me distancing myself big-time. <br />
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I can't remember the last time I felt like myself while she was around. It's been years! It has been 4 years now in total but we have been married for one year. I have a 3 week old son who is the only good thing in my life right now. I just wonder how long I can keep this up. I wonder why the hell I married her in the first place. The longer it goes on the more dead I feel emotionally. I'm worried that if I pretend my way through this for my son he will learn to look at marriage/relationships in a negative way. You can't hide this kind of thing from a kid, they will figure it out and most likely repeat it.<br />
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Relationships are not complicated, women are! They are impossible to please because they don't even know what the hell they want in most cases. I'm convinced that the nicer you are, as a guy, the worse it will be for you in relationships. If you a re a nice-guy, don't get married.

Amen brother. My wife is a burden on my soul

Wow -- painful stuff here. I know we men have our issues, but the last 50 years have created a lot of male confusion. Don't get me wrong -- I'm not against equality, but the days are past when the man did the work and the wife was home preparing dinner with a kind smile on her face. My wife doesn't even work and acts like watching the kids is the hardest job in the world. It is hard, but c'mon -- she knows she doesn't want to be kissing *** all day long in some office. My wife is a real ***** -- full of pain, insecurity, and stress -- and she takes it out on everyone, thinking that somehow it will make her feel better, but it never does. So she feels more pain and guilt and is too prideful to humble herself -- instead, she yells, pitches a fit, all for the "rise" she gets out of me and the kids. If you think about it, it's the only emotion she can truly feel any control over, even if it is a negative one. Guys -- if you aren't going to leave your wife (and I will not -- we have 3 kids together), then the only thing that works is Pavlovian-style training. In 12 years of marriage I have not found anything else that works. It's almost like training a dog. You need to be firm and in control of your emotions, showing no sign of weakness, no reaction to her ugly words, yelling, or name-calling, and being completely consistent. I learned this from a psychiatrist who did his dissertation on it. When your wife starts "acting bitchy" you look her in the eyes, ask her if she wants a glass of water or something (as a kind distraction) and then say (with kindness but forcefulness) "Baby, your action now is not conducive to our home/kids. I'm sorry you are in pain, but I am not the cause. If you continue this tirade, I will take the kids on a drive for a couple of hours, but we will not share our time with you like this." Usually, she will want this (to get you and the kids out of her hair) but MARK MY WORDS, in a about 2 hours she will call looking for you. Don't answer. You control when you come back home. Each time she reacts like this, take the kids for longer (or leave them with her and just get out). The breaking point was when I took my kids on Christmas Eve last year, with all of their presents, and had Christmas in a hotel room the next morning. My wife cried and cried, but I had warned her and was consistent. I told her we were not going to spend Christmas Eve with her like this. She felt I had ruined Christmas, but I told her firmly and quietly that it was her who ruined the Christmas. Then I sweetly asked her if "Baby, can I get you some water or something?" Those like service words make her realize you are completely in control of your emotions, and she is being the freak. My wife still has her outbreaks, and when she is humble we talk about them. But if she is bitchy and crosses the line, then the "dog training" has to come back into play. Set out the consequences, and still to them. YOU are the man of the house -- show her that. You are not going to take her crap, but you are there for her if she wants to be vulnerable and talk about her pain.<br />
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My 2 cents -- I'll tell you it's the only thing that works if you want to keep a "bitchy" marriage.<br />
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i call my wife the buldozer with a broken rearview mirror. she flattens everything in her path and doesn't see it. she used to be a fun-sponge now she is the fun sham-wow now capable of soaking up 4 times the fun. i have noticed many people not just women have lost touch with reality. someone once gave me some great advice to help me stay grounded. if you want to know where you stand in life, look down at your 2 feet. it is what it is. there is nothing wrong with dreaming, as long as the dream doesn't creep in on the reality of things. i find that many people perfer the dream version of their life to what's really going on. it's simple my wife loves me no doubt, but is her version of love the one best suited for me? that is a decision best answered by the heart not the head.<br />
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is my wife my best friend? yes but by default, she has always been there for me that being said she has always been there for me. like hitler was there for the germans.<br />
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living with anyone is a challenge doesn't matter who they are. living with my wife is almost impossible i really don't think she has the ability to predict the destruction she is capable of before it happens. her mother does the same thing and she has not changed. most people see it this way if "my partner is still with me, i can't be all that bad." do not make the mistake of leaving and coming back . now you have given your partner the impression that you need them and you don't have anywhere else to go. if they were horrible before. now you can bet nothing has changed with them apart from feeling more free to treat you poorly. "hey they know what i'm like, and they are coming back for more. i didn't hold a gun to their head." after 16 years with my wife i do not doubt if she loves or cares about me. in theory she is a good wife in reality she really sucks at helping a man feel good about himself. she is more of an obstacle than a catalyst for self improvement.

i call my wife the buldozer with a broken rearview mirror. she flattens everything in her path and doesn't see it. she used to be a fun-sponge now she is the fun sham-wow now capable of soaking up 4 times the fun. i have noticed many people not just women have lost touch with reality. someone once gave me some great advice to help me stay grounded. if you want to know where you stand in life, look down at your 2 feet. it is what it is. there is nothing wrong with dreaming, as long as the dream doesn't creep in on the reality of things. i find that many people perfer the dream version of their life to what's really going on. it's simple my wife loves me no doubt, but is her version of love the one best suited for me? that is a decision best answered by the heart not the head.<br />
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is my wife my best friend? yes but by default, she has always been there for me that being said she has always been there for me. like hitler was there for the germans.<br />
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living with anyone is a challenge doesn't matter who they are. living with my wife is almost impossible i really don't think she has the ability to predict the destruction she is capable of before it happens. her mother does the same thing and she has not changed. most people see it this way if "my partner is still with me, i can't be all that bad." do not make the mistake of leaving and coming back . now you have given your partner the impression that you need them and you don't have anywhere else to go. if they were horrible before. now you can bet nothing has changed with them apart from feeling more free to treat you poorly. "hey they know what i'm like, and they are coming back for more. i didn't hold a gun to their head." after 16 years with my wife i do not doubt if she loves or cares about me. in theory she is a good wife in reality she really sucks at helping a man feel good about himself. she is more of an obstacle than a catalyst for self improvement.

Where do I begin? Ok, in 24 years of marriage she has NEVER said please, thank you, I'm sorry or it was my fault. She compares me to everyone else's husband. Why can't you be more like so and so. She even gives side comments like isn't he a great husband etc., and not in a nice way but saying how I don't measure up without coming out and saying it. If one of her siblings is doing better than I get it just isn't fair. I also get this is not what I signed up for. A perfect example: I built 3 10ft tall storage shelves from scratch and enclosed them by building a wall. It took about 2 weeks of work plus quite a bit of money. On the other hand her father cleans out a small room that had some junk in it and bought two inexpensive wired metal shelves and put them up in the room. She says to me, don't you think that is such a great job! In the meantime the only thing she ever said about the shelves and wall that I built was, get this.... "What took you so long?". I will never forget this for as long as I live. I could go on and on but you get the idea. I would leave today if I could afford to as my life is miserable as it is.

I hate my wife too. I really had enough of her. If it wasn't for my 3 yr old daughter i would have already left. I don't care about the house that i paid with my money etc. She is a ***** and getting fatter and fatter. One of these days I dream of waking up in the morning and just leave, take only my passport and a few valuables and get the F... out! but what is blocking me is my daughter. she is too young. I think she would never forgive me and i don't want to lose her. she is so beautiful. i really need help. before getting together with my wife i was in good economic conditions, worked for 7 months a year, travel for 5, had a business on my own abroad and freedom. since i'm with her i slowly lost freedom, money and the job. i don't even have the business i used to have abroad. I feel lost. luckily my family(parents) back home could help me in every way but i don't want to disappoint them destroying my family but these days it seems inevitable. I really hope for a miracle. Help!

My wife is arrogant too. she tries to be a therapist all the time. Whenever I don't want to listen to her she would be following me and saying the things over and over and over and I absolutely hate it. She is very mean to me sometime but she always has she stupid reason to be mean with me. She would turn around every words I have spoken and make me feel bad. Whenever I want to leave her and say that I want to leave her then she would start acting differently.

I was such a fool when I believed that marriage is a good thing and we will happily live ever after. Now my life is like HELL because I managed to marry a dictator. Gentlemen, you don't have to believe me. Hey, I didn't believe it either before I got married, I never thought the nice woman could change so much in not more than 2 years. But please, please consider this: if you want to live a good life and want to achieve something, if you want to keep your self confidence, your dignity and your overall positive attitude, NEVER EVER trust a woman, or even worse, marry a woman. You might be one of those lucky 1%, but chance is, your life will drastically change for the worse in every way possible (your money will be spent on useless garbage, your sexual life will go down, your emotions, thoughts, opinion will get stomped, steamrolled by the Mrs.)<br />
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I Have been going through all this shitt as well. I am completly ****** up! that *****, have made me mad. and therfore i write and speack a language that i too dont understand,,alabala hoo ha,,,boooooooooooooooooooooooo...........OHHHHHHHHHH God! take her back please!

yep, they are all the same, my wife sucks as well, and not in the good way! she ******* about everything I do, then if I make a comment about her or something she's done she turns on the water works and starts yelling at me. our sex life is soooooo boring, I'd rather jerk off. SHE wanted to get married and have kids (and made all the promises in the world) then she ******* that the kids are hard work for her, mind you we only have 2 kids who are both at school. she works 2 days a week and expects me to kiss her *** for it, never giving me credit for going to work full time and often weekends as well. the list goes on and on and on. every time I pack my things to leave she begs and pleads for me to stay saying how much she loves me WTF??? I haven't cheated on her but I don't think I would resist if the opportunity arose. I know the only reason she is still with me is because she would be screwed without me supporting her fat, lazy, hairy, miserable ***. If I were less of a man I'd punch her f@#king head in. <br />

I hate mine too! Really hate! When we were married, (19 years ago), she was the sweet, caring, compassionate, funny, patient and layed-back women every man dreams of...for about five minutes. Slowly, the horns began to grow from under her blonde hair. I didn't notice. Now, she's matured to the demon seed she truly is. Attacking me every afternoon when I come home, her ob<x>jective is to use the hours remaining in the day to make me as miserable as possible. Mean, hateful *****. Now, thanks to the recession, I can't afford to live alone and I won't leave my dogs, ( I actually CARE about them). <br />
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I have found my own remedy however. Gentlemen, get a third-shift job! I sleep all day and work all night. Never see her. It's great! I don't have to see her ugly mug or hear her damned opinions, which nean less to me than the price of soap in Sweden.

hi there, i cant believe there is a sight for this. my story is similar yet the reason for not leaving is different. she is boarding a plane as we speak to come over to the U.K. from phoenix, Arizona. i have know here since i was fifteen. we have only been married nearly 8 months and i too question the reason for ever getting married. i did it for paperwork so i could get her over here with me, let me tell you she is not even here and i want to gouch my eyes out. i have an anger problem, however it only seems to arise when she is around or on the phone, she talks so much crap to me constantly. she called me retarted and tried to call me gay this morning. i think i can sincerely say that i hate her... it just sucks to have wasted this much of my life with one person who is so unhappy and making me unhappy. she gets mad how much i worry and care about things, then when i dont care and they dont work she is pissed. its what i consider a lose lose. thanks for listening.

guys I feelall your pain I have a wife that is not happy with me no matter what I do. Basiclly I work 2 jobs I cook Clean and try to spend as much time as I can with my family. If I manage to get 100 things done she will ***** about the one thing that didn't get done. I am so tired of her yet I don't want to leave because of my kids. I am so pissed off at how the court still favours women in costody battles. Even though it is my wife that loses her temper with the kids all the time not me.I am at a loss

OK guys i've looked at almost every post and relate to every one just about, but lets look at the situation from the outside for a moment and ask ourself how can we keep our children, house and sanity. The answer is to play the BS game and take out all your frustrations out on some strange. I swear by it, you'd be suprised how well you deal with your wifes **** after a good night of pearl necklaces and spanking...you know the stuff our wives stopped doing once they realized your balls where tucked away nicely in a jar within their hope chest. Even if an all nighter is beyond the reach of your leash you can still take $100 and loose pair of pants, my prefferance being jogging pants, to your local ***** bar and get you some foreign cutie whos buisness being 99.9% married men needing a happy ending. No fuss no weird BS the next day and so on, a very great alternative. However the best thing to find is a girl who doesnt care if you have a wife but still appreciates a good penis and a movie followed by got to get home before the wife calls. Find this girl and your wife will not even bother you nomatter what the ***** says. I am the happiest ive ever been because of cheating. Presidents do it so why cant you,is your sanity really to much to ask for. Lets be real anyhow no woman has the ability to please a man forever their really quite disposable.

A woman wants a ripped gym instructor, The doctor type smart guy, The greasy hot mechanic, The man in a suit n tie- and don't forget the happy mini van family guy- Each a different day- <br />
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I have no kids and a hot new date each month or whenever I want- At 46 yrs old Im happy and feel good had many good years- could die a happy man - Good luck guys - your first in life -

Bitchy, is that really all that can some up these terrible stories? It takes 2 to tango and all that, however, I do think their is little reason for women to get married anymore. Yes, there are those who have been married for 50 years but that is so rare and their values are totally different. I guess that's why marriage is so different today, too. Men are suckers for punishment and their pride runs deep.<br />
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We don't want to fail but, as my father said why bother kicking a dead horse? As a man, I really can only have an opinion for men. We only know what was taught to us by our family, society, culture and of course Hollywood movies... Yes, that crap we watch teaches us a lot of bullshyte. <br />
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My story, I was married to a Japanese lady who had a son from a previous marriage, I thought I'd be the big hero and bring them back to N. America. What a challange! Not onlly was she not going to adapt, learn the language or at least try... She was in daily contact with her "friends" from home.<br />
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So whatever, the kid is the one who gets the blunt end of the stick as usual. Me spending so much time trying to coddle her, make dinner most of the time, displine the kid ie. do your homework, blah, blah, blah. I think in the 12 yrs we were together, she confessed that she was spoilt brat and her daddy treated her like a princess. So, maybe it's our fault that we as parents spoil our daughters and they become Medusa on some poor sap? I dunno. She just got up one day (after the kid has almost finished his high school) and some poor sap helped her to the airport. You behind every woman, there is a "fall down" guy to play the hero. <br />
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Men, we are own enemy and jump at the chance to take sombody's place as soon as the relationship goes south.

I hate your bitchy wives too!!!!!!!!! Why do they get to have a man, children, and finical comfort? Where I am a nice person without any of these things. Why do awful women get men?

for the ladies here that just don't understand why men stay, then you probably need to open your eyes. men lose much of there life in a divorce, their kids, their finances, the house. the sad part is the woman will win in court but both will have to file bankruptzy due to lawyers fees. the courts in michigan and ohio, basically say, oh you have a vagina, you get the kids, have some child support and you need alimony. ok.<br />
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so men stay to protect not only there lives, the kids and from losing everything. i stayed, until she signed my name to a check, a girlfriend of hers at the bank allowed it to go through. as soon as i saw it, bam, threatened to press charges or get out, sign the papers etc. <br />
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by the way, it was a 7000.00 financial aid check, to pay for my school etc, all gone. she doens't even know where it all went.<br />
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but, i do not care. here stupid stunt got me out.<br />
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i for one will never allow a woman to share a bank account, or anything with me again. i may fall in love again, but no f***** way.

I have been married to a B_ _CH for 15 years. I'm always the one who is wrong. She's NEVER wrong. She has never said sorry to me for anything in the last 18 years. I'm always apologising just to keep peace in this household. We started having major problems once she started making more money than me. I make $19.50 / hr and she makes $28.50 / hr. She wont even listen to me anymore. I have left 3 times already, but she put the screws to me so bad all 3 times (financially) that I had to move back in. Isn't that entrapment? I think so. I hate her. <br />
I gave up on having friends 8 years ago because she chased them all away. I quit consuming alcohol in 2002. ( I used to drink to kill the emotional pain caused by her) She buys birthday presents for her FRIENDS KIDS to act like a big-shot every month. were always broke, and I have NOTHING to show for all my years of hard work. My FATHER bought me an old used car out of PITY, because she would not even let me get a different one after my 1990 crown Vic went to S_ _ T!. <br />
I feel your pain brother!!! My story is 100% true. No lie.

Thinking about marriage? Why? Read this forum, it will happen to you at some point in your relationship. Women are complicated and seldom worth it. What are you getting in return for all the years of hard work, the complete denial of all the things you want out of life? I started out in love, then the day after our wedding we got in our first fight-my fault, of course. I told myself it would get better. We have been fighting since and it's been almost 21 years-I can't leave my kids-that's why I stay. I think about the day they are all moved out and I wonder what the hell I will do then. I can't afford to move out and pay for two separate houses, I don't want to go back on promises and I don't want to admit defeat, but damn If I don't wish I could be free from the constant blame for her unhappiness and depression. I spend days just dreaming about what I would do if I were free, where I would go, what I would do-it's hell because just when I am ready to go she will soften up just enough to make me change my mind. I should have just kept going when I met her but we are wired to notice women-reminds me of a Jack Nicholson line, "women! was it a joke or did he (God) do it to us on purpose!?"

When do you say enough is enough? IF you have kids and you want to be "the best dad ever" do you stay? Where do you draw the line? I find myself fighiting over the pettiiest crap ever. I can't think of a time where I didn't feel on edge: subject to her mood swings and internal thoughts of which I am not privvy to until it is too late and I am the selfish pig that all men are.<br />
God, could it be that we are not the a-holes that have been portrayed but rather men that have taken an ***-kickiing for so long that we are learning to accept it and maybe even agree with it? I can't any longer.

nagging the secret weapon-evil and more terrifying than world war 3.

Sup Guys. I feel your pain. I have been married to my wife for 12 yrs. The first 11 1/2 years made me wish I was never born. I thought she was demon possessed, crazy, lazy, ignorant, selfish 2 yr. old who whined constantly. Lost my feelings for her, and didnt even like her. I though she was the worst kid in the world. Like one of the people here said, either change it or leave. So I started working on changing it. But found out it was me that had to change. Once I started to work on my junk, she noticed the changes in me and is now working on herself. I cant change her, but I can change the way i react to her. She doesnt think that I'm there yet, so she's watching in the distance. I guess when she figures it's real, she better work on herself or I'm gonna leave her behind in this personal growth. My wife is not the bitchiest wife in the world now, and she actually sees what she is doing to us and the kids. Unbelievable. She actually (maybe) is starting to show some respect, and thanking me for working, helping around the house, with the kids, working on our cars, taking us out. By the way, I havent taken my wife out for about 10 yrs because all she wanted to do was fight. I told her that I wont go out to just fight. Now, we are actually talking about going out to eat without fighting. Hmmmmm, wonder what that is like

What did you do??? please be specific I would really like to know

I don't know what to say after reading all of your horror stories. I feel a lot better now. My wife and I argue, but we still have great sex at least once a week if not twice. We love each other and she's a catch to say the least. I truly feel for you guys.

I work ten hours a day 7 days a week, just to get away from the bitching.<br />
Then I have to go home and kiss her *** just to have a quiet evening.<br />
I wish she would just Shut her ******* pie hole. I want to sew her mouth shut. She whines about being sick, but wont go to the doctor, or if she does. She doesn't do what he says, or take her med's. I feel like I'm married to a damn two year old.<br />
I say to her,<br />
“Don’t come bitching to me because you burnt the **** out of yourself! When you shouldn't have been playing with matches in the first place.”<br />
I find it really frickin hard to feel sorry for some one who has created their own situation. OH! LOOK! POOR ME. I really don’t give a crap anymore. I'm stashing money like a bunch of rabid squirrels stash nuts. First chance I get: <br />

I thought I had the bitchiest wife in the world. Now I realize that I'm not the only one. My wife is thinks I am wrong 90 percent of the time. When she's wrong, she won't admit it unless she notices it herself. When I point out that she's wrong she argues with me. She argues with me about everything, no matter how petty, and takes every opportunity to let me know that I'm wrong, or that I suck, or that I'm worthless. Sometimes I try to find a solution, but the only solution is to leave her, but everytime I try to leave her she makes it impossibly sucky. I feel like killing her more than 50 percent of the time. Honestly, my life has never sucked as much since I got married. Getting married was probably the worst decision of my life.

it's been twenty long years but it is coming to an end. I have been slowly moving out my things, putting back enough money to survive, and just getting ready to hit the road - the kids are almost grown and I just cant take it anymore

Why do women change after you get married? I'm starting to think marriage is Bull####. Seriously, once you get married its like they change and become the B#### from hell. one thing i hate is that your always the wrong. I'm at a point i feel like choking the SH## out of her. Im happy i stumbled upon this website. I can let all my feelings out.

I certainly understand alot of u people and I wish i could say alot about my feelings of my wife but she is standing right here next to me, so i'm going to reserve my words for another day but let me say this, we men can't win every argument especially if u know ur wrong, an dthe same thing for women, sometimes we have to give in to the argument just to avoid a major catastrophe but it only works if she does the same if not ur boned like me. this is why we men resort to cheating (jk)

I am starting to hate my wife. Ive known her for last 12 years through high school and university. Why da hell did i get married to her? ever since i got married to her since last year... i know her true side of living with this evil lady! she hates my mom, she hates my family...alwayz puts me down in front of my family. She thinks shes too smart!! She expects me to be home when shes home and have dinner ready for her....but whenenever i come late from work ...she just sits up in front of the @!#!# tv and watches it! I am alwayz depressed cuz of her, i cannot be my self. I lost all my friends, i am loosing my religon and i am about to loose my mom cuz they dont get along!! jesus christ! i hate this girl!! someone take me away from this misery that i got my self stuck in!! :( what should i do?

I am starting to hate my wife. Ive known her for last 12 years through high school and university. Why da hell did i get married to her? ever since i got married to her since last year... i know her true side of living with this evil lady! she hates my mom, she hates my family...alwayz puts me down in front of my family. She thinks shes too smart!! She expects me to be home when shes home and have dinner ready for her....but whenenever i come late from work ...she just sits up in front of the @!#!# tv and watches it! I am alwayz depressed cuz of her, i cannot be my self. I lost all my friends, i am loosing my religon and i am about to loose my mom cuz they dont get along!! jesus christ! i hate this girl!! someone take me away from this misery that i got my self stuck in!! :( what should i do?

Ive been married to this woman for 19 years things have been up and down. As long as things are going my wifes way things are great. My wife places the kids over all, we have 4 kids 2 are out of the house 2 are almost gone. She spends so much time pampering them that im just sitting on the side lone making money for her to spend on them and her self. My wife is an accountant so she does the bills. When the kids need something boom they get it, I need some money for something for get it. She is always lecturing me about you should be like this and that your not doing this right or that ect, I feel like im living with Dr Phill 24 7. She don’t like my friends but expects me to enjoy her friends when they come over I do just to make her happy, some of my friends have stated that she is a little dominating and that’s where we clash. She is always saying I have an anger problem but I only get angry when she is Dr Philling me all the time. I have no problems with any one else but her she keeps saying I have a anger problem. All Alone, and feeling like im just an income to the family. Im very wore out and tired she stated already that if I divorce her that she would take me to the cleaners. Any suggestions!

i think my dad feels the same! my mom spends spends spends and she doesnt work. if my dad says shes being unreasonable then she has a b* fit and my dad licks her a$$ then he wants to complain by me. it makes me so angry because he always comes to complain by me why doesnt he just take charge and tell her!!!

I am with Cinde on this one! You "boys" need to MAN UP and LEAVE the *******.

Serious question...Why do all of you men who hate your wives stay in the marriage? If I hated someone so much that the thought of them touching me made my physically sick, there isn't any amount of money in this entire world that could keep me with them. I wouldn't care if I had to sleep in a cardboard box, I wouldn't stay! You can always build your finances back up again, but you can never get back all of those wasted, miserable years. Life is too short to be miserable and full of hatred.

I admire your fortitude and independence, Cindy, but the simple answer is, many people stay in these relationships out of fear. Fear of loneliness, fear of the unknown. Usually men or women in these marriages are there because they have weak personalities and are too fragile (or think they are) to break free of the situation. You clearly don't have any of those limitations, and I am happy for you, but many are not so fortunate.

The other reason is money, the other may not make enough to support themselves or would half to start from scratch new furniture tv etc and that would cost what one cannot afford therefore deal with the #$#@ they marry.

shoulda. woulda. coulda. at one point I was an equity millionaire and had 250K sitting in the bank... I remember thinking- if there ever was a time to bail and cash out.... its now. But, I didn't. and now I am phucked. Scraping my way off of the bottom. Life- it ain't fair!

Yep I feel everyone's pain. according to my wife every man besides me is the probably the best thing going either smart or handy. it makes me want to scream. all I get is I'm stupid , idiot etc... at the same time she demands respect from me. <br />
she a short fat hairy little wart that makes me want to throw up everytime she touches. I have to think of other things when we have sex just to make it through.

**** man at least you get some tail. I don't even get that, seperate beds

I HATE!!! mine to, she arrogant, bitchy and just a stupid piece of shite! Got married 8 years ago, she contantly says crap then deny's it 2 minutes later, she lie's, i feel like killing her sometimes, but our finances are so intergrated I cant get out for 2 more week,s until pay day, I wish I didnt marry her that way she wouldnt have got a passport and ****** off back home, oh i could go on what a *****¬! never ever again, I can see why we have homosexuals in the community with women like her, im not suprised

It seems that every man on this thread of storie has chosen the mate from HELL, well that be true or not YOU chose her. IF she makes you miserable do HER the favor and LEAVE her. Trust me, my ex ended up hating me, although he never told me why, but KNOWING that your spouse not only does NOT loves you but makes it also crystal clear that they HATE you is NOT a picnic, whether that person deserves it or not. Let's face it, you picked the wrong one, but seriously guys is it ALL her fault, and after being in that situation and my ex finally leaving (thank heavens for BOTH of us) I felt somewhat ROBBED. He hated me, but never told me why, He said he only loved me for a year, but stayed for 10, and in the end we BOTH went through a hell of a lot of grief. WHY? Because instead of ACTING about his unhappiness he kept it to himself, made me feel like I was totally inadequate and unlovable, and in the end we were both robbed of being with other people that actually would have appreciated us. The best thing he did for both of us was leave. So either LEAVE, or CHANGE the relationship, BUT don't scapegoat her for EVERYTHING, Lord at least take 1% of the responsibility.

I hear what you are saying, but one thing that no one really wants to think about is that sometimes NO ONE is to blame. Who is to blame if a tornado comes along and destroys your house? Often we get into relationships with the best of intentions and it all goes wrong. Life can be really, really hard even with our very best efforts. And that is scary. We want to find someone to blame because we can make sense of things that way. We hate to think that life handed us random crap but sometimes that's the way it is.

I hear your pain brother, went through this with my first wife. She shook her evangelical finger at me and told me I was going to Hell and then left me cause 'God wanted her to'. LOL Be prepared though, get your financial situation in order and other business. Everyone looses in a divorce except for the lawyers (so I married one the second time around LOL).

ROFL! Could you be just a little more blunt??!! Besides, it may turn out she hates you too! lol. You're not alone. I'm not feeling too warm and fuzzy towards my mate lately either!!