My Wife Changed For The WorstI didn't meet my wife till I was 30. We were both in the same business
so we had a lot in common. Se was always interested in the details
of my life, always asking questions. I cooked a lot and she liked that
and so did I. We got married after 2 years of dating, in 2001.
Almost as soon as we got married things changed. She became less
and less interested in what my thoughts were or what happened at
my job. She never asked questions anymore and seemed not interested
if I talked about almost anything. I soon stopped cooking becase she
said it 'stunk up' the house with food smells. So we ate out a lot and
used the microwave for fast foods at home.
She started being critical of everything I did. If she dropped a plate
and it broke, that was fine. If I did it, a capital crime had been committed.
She had a set of rules for her and another set for me. If I mowed the yard,
it wasn't the way she wanted. If I loaded the dishwasher it was wrong.
If I vacuumed it wasn't the right way. She is always on a diet and yet
has gained 40 pounds in the past 10 years.
She'll talk to me for an hour about what happened at work today at her
job, as soon as I start to talk out comes her laptop and she starts a video
game, not hearing a word I say. If we take a long car ride somewhere,
she either reclines her seat and takes a nap, or sticks her face in a book
to avoid talking. If I say I need to talk, she'll say fine as long as its not
about this or this or this or that. Which leaves me nothing.
We haven't had sex in years, why bother. All her 3 sisters have exactly
the same marriage we have. They treat their husbands like crap, ignore
them, sex is gone, they treat them worse than the hired help.
I feel like I was tricked. She purposely pretended to be somebody else
till we got married, then dropped the pose. She was married before
and her big complaint was he ignored her. He didn't at first, but over the
years he clammed up. I completely understand, thats what I do. My wife
makes me tense, she's always critical, so I don't say much anymore. Its
to the point where she disgusts me so much I have a hard time looking
at her. No kids, I'm unhappy and have to get out. I'm not sure what she
is, but she can't be happy either. But our marriage is so much like all
of her sisters marriages she probably thinks its normal.
So many women seem to be like this. Shallow and self centered. Its
almost worth it to just date them forever so they have to be nice to you.
I'm realizing I married my mother. This is exactly how my mother treated
my dad. I'm to the point where I'm fed up with women, they just aren't
worth all the hassle.