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Just Venting

I've been married for about 2 months and I can't stand it. My wife is a one sided selfish woman that is only happy if things go her way. Her umbilical cord is firmly attatched to mother and father. Never wants to make time to spend wit hmy family but always wants me to accomodate her. Just wanted to vent a bit. I really don't have any one to talk about this thanks.

wishiwasanengine wishiwasanengine 26-30, M 15 Responses May 9, 2007

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I hope you make time for your own family regardless of if she wants to join you or not. Life is too short. Alot of women just go for their own family, it's not good.

Let me tell ya; get out now. You apparently do not have kids with her. Get out now! I am in the same boat but I am stuck with the evil ***** because I know her and her evil mother will drain me dry of money and turn my son against me as he gets older. As much as I hate to say this, I hate her more by the day.

I mean, I love kids but her kids are so babied I cannot stand them. They are 8 and 16. She treats them better than our son together and my son from another relationship who lives with me; she treats awful.

Get out dude, you can. I would not put anyone through the hell I am living and your circumstances sound exactly how mine started out. It only gets worse, get an attorney tomorrow.

Get rid of the ***** while you can. It won't get any better...I know from experience. I hate the ***** I'm married to with the white-hot intensity of 1000 suns.

These should be some of your best years.<br />
Leave before there are children involved.<br />
You know it isn't fair to her if you are not happy.

It is good you know you are not happy, esp being so young, you aren't nailed down yet.

Speak up NOW!!!! My husband and I fought like cats and dogs the first two years of our marriage about most of the things/stories listed in this group (and issues of my husbands). I don't think a lot of women do these things intentionally. If you don't speak up they have no idea and think everything is going great. Speak up firmly yet respectfully and do not back down. If she is a reasonable, good woman worth being married to, she will take what you say to heart. I did, and my husband and I are going 10 years strong and are both more in love than when we married. However, if you just sit there with your mouth shut...well, start saving now for your divorce lawyer.

Oh no how awful, and it's only been 2 months. I guess it's not true what they say... that marriage ends with "happily ever after"... I always thought that married people are blissfully happy.

Man that sucks, hope you find your path to the happiness you deserve soon.

I couldnt agree, more, do this before it's too late, if you are having sex be super cautious about birth control, you do not want to have any children, not even by accident, and make sure she doesnt trick you either. I am in the same boat with kids, my wife never cut the apron strings from her mother and now with kids, her mother treats them like they are hers. My wife is completely disfunctional, we have a nanny and she pretty much does everything for her, she doesnt lift a finger and expects that her mother will do everything for her. Get out, Get out now before its too late, you will destroy your life if you do not, the best thing you can do is find a lawyer and get his advice about leaving, you dont want to get up and leave without a lawyer because you may forfeit some property and you dont want that to happen. Your wife has a lot of growing up to do without you, she is still a little girl and if you dont free her up to individuate from her parents she will consume you and drag you down, the best thing for the both of you is to seperate.

I couldnt agree, more, do this before it's too late, if you are having sex be super cautious about birth control, you do not want to have any children, not even by accident, and make sure she doesnt trick you either. I am in the same boat with kids, my wife never cut the apron strings from her mother and now with kids, her mother treats them like they are hers. My wife is completely disfunctional, we have a nanny and she pretty much does everything for her, she doesnt lift a finger and expects that her mother will do everything for her. Get out, Get out now before its too late, you will destroy your life if you do not, the best thing you can do is find a lawyer and get his advice about leaving, you dont want to get up and leave without a lawyer because you may forfeit some property and you dont want that to happen. Your wife has a lot of growing up to do without you, she is still a little girl and if you dont free her up to individuate from her parents she will consume you and drag you down, the best thing for the both of you is to seperate.

I am in the same boat with 8-months of marriage. My wife is so attached to her parents and has little respect for me. She wants me to submit to her always, or she gets upset. I haven't had a week that has ever gone by without us being so upset with each other. We are in counseling now because I am ready for a divorce. THIS IS THE WORST DECISION I have ever made and I think you are in the same position as me. If I were you I would get out.

I am with AlwaysRemembers. If you are as unhappy as your post makes you seem, get out early. Admit the marriage was a mistake. You are lucky to have seen the problem this early. Many people do not see their mistake until it is too late (kids, a mortgage, etc.). Just read some of the stories on this site about miserable marriages, sexless marriages, etc. You should leave before you become really trapped.

WOW, personally I wouldn't give it a minute, get the hell out now. If she is treating you this way in the so called *honeymoon stage* of your marriage, i hate to be the bearer of bad news but i suspect it will only get worse, i suspect that only because i have seen it happen far too often, on both sides of a marriage. imo, RUNNNNNNNN like hell, cut the wound off.

Yeah, I think you have time on this one. I would give it awhile things will change in time.

give it time .don't have kids yet and just make it a point to have time alone even if she doesn't want to. Coming from a female if you continue to jump or acomodate her needs you are heading down a dead end street .She may just feel insecure right now bu t you can help her there .remember you married her not her parents .Good luck

wow - sounds like my first marriage. She completely changed not even a month into the marriage, complete turn around. she would tell me later that while we were living together she was in a 'rebellious' phase and went back to her 'normal' self after we got married. Needless to say the marriage lasted about 2 and half years before she left me, it was weekly arguing and disagreements too. My piece of advice: don't have kids till you work out your differences.