I Am Trapped

I have been married for one year, and soon after that I realized I have made a big mistake. My wife is just like a sad machine. Whenever I see her she has that F***ing sad face for no reasons. She is now 9 months pregnant, otheriwse I would have dumped her long time back. I dont want my baby girl to left alone with this *****.....
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26-30, M
14 Responses Jun 10, 2007

i feel the same way...except the baby issue. i have been married for 6 months and my wife never seems to be happy. she is an emotionless empty shell and i have been beating myself up because i think its my fault. i want to leave her but want to keep giving it a chance at the same time, this is a tough situation for me.

I often wonder why my dad left my mom,considering he felt she was off base.Now I'm in the same situation i feel compelled to stay because she will neglect our 3 kids.Some women feel the need to make their kids suffer just to get back at their ex, i believe this is very common among women. So i know its hard as hell to do, you have to hold on if she is wacko and slick,no judge will give dad custody if all things are equal.

So is she "really" sad... or does she just "look" sad? Maybe you just don't like the way she looks!.... maybe she's tired, or just has nothing to smile about. I look sad, but I'm not, and people are always asking me what's wrong. Plastic surgery would help, but that scares me. If you "hate" that about your wife, then you are not in love, and there are going to be so so many things in the future that you will "hate" about her. Are you happy about the baby? Do you want the married life, as boring as it gets sometimes, or would you rather be on the prowl? Do you want her? Sometimes we just jump in without knowing what we are getting into and sometimes we jump out... just as quick. It's tough that there is a child involved, but it wouldn't be the first time. You only live one time... and it's a short life, so if you truly feel that way, and are not just venting... if you think it won't get better after she has the baby, which it probably will only get worse... then get OUT! She might be sad because she can tell you are not happy. Let her go NOW, whether she wants to let go of you are not, both of you deserve to find someone who LIKES you, not just lusted after you for a brief period. I would rather be a child of a happy broken home, than in a miserable unbroken one. If you think you love her, and want to give it a chance... stop looking at her everytime she enters the room, and start doing something.

I feel your pain. i'm in the same situation, kind of. After 3 months, my g/f got pregnant and basically said that if i wanted to be a part of this kids life, we'll need to get married. It turns out she hates my family, is a control freak around the house and thinks all her paranoid anxieties are completely justified...

I feel your pain. i'm in the same situation, kind of. After 3 months, my g/f got pregnant and basically said that if i wanted to be a part of this kids life, we'll need to get married. It turns out she hates my family, is a control freak around the house and thinks all her paranoid anxieties are completely justified...

did she always have that sad face ? or did she get that after you guys got married ? .... thinking.... just thinking.

I REALLY HATE MY WIFE!!! But dont worry, if your wife is pregnant, just give her the space she needs. When my wife was pregnant with my little girl, she would not want to listen to any advise from me or from her doctor (not like she listen to anything i have to say anyway,but). Just let her do what she wants, and if still wants to feel sad and depressed, then let her. There is every little the husband could do, except take all the blame for everything. So dont worry , things will get harder once the baby is born, so enjoy the fact that your wife is finally eating what she is ordering at the resturants and not playing with her meal , that u just paid $30 dollars to have in a doggy bag.

get out while you can - its only gonna get worse. Trust me

she might be all hormonal because of the pregnancy. maybe after the hormones die down it wont be that bad?

You are so right sad for no reason at all. I hate tha **** then when you ask them whats wrong they say nothing. If I didn't have my son I would have never got married

Do you really HATE her? That is such a strong word. I am sad in my marriage alot too. I guess he could call me a sad machine but then I could call him an ******* who doesn't want to have sex anymore, amongst other things. But I wont. I have many reasons to be sad and he doesn't really care why. Do you know why your wife is sad? Have you ever given an honest attempt at talking to her? Women need to talk. We need to feel close to our husbands. Besides that, she is pregnant.... she is going to be emotional. You have to be sympathetic about that, ya know?

Baby or not, you'll REALLY regret staying...it will NOT get better in time...so the baby will grow into a little girl, fully aware that neither one of you is happy. DON'T waste your life...........twenty years will go by SO fast, & you'll be up at night wondering why your life is so lonly & unfulfilled.......but I hope you can work it out.........

Perhaps your wife suffers from depression?

You sound very angry.<br />
Being angry and unhappy is not going to be healthy for your child. If you are miserable, get out! Not just for you but for your wife and the baby. You can divorce your spouse without divorcing your child. You won't be the first couple to divorce shortly before, or after, having a child.<br />
You must have fallen in love with something about your wife to begin with, she may be sufferring from depression. Even if you have no desire to try and save the marriage, you owe it to your child to get help for your wife so that she can be a mother to that child.