Horrible Selfish Wife... Want a Way Out
i married this person i thought i loved about 2 years back... worst decision of my life. even during our courtship we had terrible fights and arguments. But always thought it resulted due to her past experiences in previous relationships. but it wasnt, i was wrong and its just the way she is. shes has problems...
she is selfish (cares pretty much only about her needs and emotions), she has several strong traits of borderline personality disorder - childish/childlike behavior, deflection of all blame, impossible to reason with... the works. she is super-sensitive (without caring about the sensitivities of others).
ive been putting up with her **** for a while now, but im particularly disappointed now... my folks are here and despite their best efforts and mine, she doest care a damn. not only will she not speak with them, but she wont let me spend time with them either (im seeing them after several years now). she is posessive and controlling and all this stems from some *****ng insecurity of hers and it sucks. she constantly accuses me making her play second fiddle.
what really gets to me is that she is "happy" and "chatty" only around her friends and family. around mine she is aloof, disinterested or just plain rude. she picks apart everything my friends/loved ones say and do. she takes offense to everything the say or do. she makes it a point to sit in a separate room or plan parallel activities when they are around. this makes it extremely difficult to have a nice time with my friends/family. its particularly distressing because my friends/family visit very rarely - for instance my folks are visiting us the first time since we got married!
she always blames me when i try to prod her to speak with them, be nicer or do anything differently. she is overly critical of me around my friends and family. she is visibly happier when they arent around.
i cant take this anymore... im at a point where i wouldnt mind ending it all.. not just the marriage if only i didnt have people that depend on me.
thinking back... she reacts negatively to anything i like passionately. from trivial things like clothes/cars to big things like people.
there was a time when i would do anything for her... but i hate her now. hate the thought of going back home to be alone with her. hate the prospect of having to spend the rest of my life with her. marriage sucks.... but i guess all of us here have already made that mistake.