Trapped

We got married because I wanted to make a complete family. We already had a child together and were living together. It's was my mistake, I know. It was good for about 1 month, then everything went back to the way it was. I was the problem, it was my fault, I was stupid, I don't know how to do anything. But when it came time for the bills or when I got paid--then she was so glad to have me, she was a lucky woman, I was the best man around (even got laid occaisionally). As soon as the bills were paid and there was a limited supply of money it was back to the usual.

I had to let her keep her friendships with past boyfriends that she spoke with regularly  (I didn't even mind). But I couldn't have any friendships with women (past girlfriend or not) and some of my male friends that she just didn't like. I lost all of my friends except maybe 2 or 3 who stuck in there. I never get a hug, kiss, a smile, sex--just complaints and rules.

I try and stay around to at least spend time with my child. I know I should leave--everyone tells you that--but then you calculate how much it will cost you and you realize that if you leave you are screwed and have to basically live in a bad neighborhood and loose your car and your money and guess what--your freedom! So either way you are screwed. Men just can't win!

So I hate my wife for making my life miserable!

traphappy traphappy
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3 Responses Feb 23, 2009

I am currently in an affair with a married man who's life sounds identical to yours. I can't say this to him because I am obviously biased, but I have been married and divorced, and can promise you one thing - being broke, but free is SOOOOO much better than being trapped. I was poor for a couple years, but that horrible feeling I had every day when my husband came home was gone and I was smiling again. Also, you do come back financially also - unless you wait too long.<br />
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I would talk to an attorney and see what the divorce laws etc are like in your state and then make the break. Trust me, living in a little apartment in a bad neighborhood can feel like paradise when comapred to living with someone in an awful relationship. I promise you will come back financially as well - when your happy, things just go better for you.<br />
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It won't get better, so get out now. Everyday you stay does costs you more in terms of money, but mostly in terms of extreme stress that will ruin your entire life.<br />
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Good luck.....if all that doesn't sound good, do what my guy did - get a mistress....lol:-)

I am currently in an affair with a married man who's life sounds identical to yours. I can't say this to him because I am obviously biased, but I have been married and divorced, and can promise you one thing - being broke, but free is SOOOOO much better than being trapped. I was poor for a couple years, but that horrible feeling I had every day when my husband came home was gone and I was smiling again. Also, you do come back financially also - unless you wait too long.<br />
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I would talk to an attorney and see what the divorce laws etc are like in your state and then make the break. Trust me, living in a little apartment in a bad neighborhood can feel like paradise when comapred to living with someone in an awful relationship. I promise you will come back financially as well - when your happy, things just go better for you.<br />
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It won't get better, so get out now. Everyday you stay does costs you more in terms of money, but mostly in terms of extreme stress that will ruin your entire life.<br />
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Good luck.....if all that doesn't sound good, do what my guy did - get a mistress....lol:-)

What can you do....look forward to your future by getting a degree. Be a better parent for you child by looking up parenting styles. Be a better person to your wife by learning about how to make your marriage better. <br />
Oh, and if you drink alcohol on a regular basis, drunk husbands suck elephant balls. Just start acting like you care, that's all we really want!<br />
It's not rocket science.