I Just Hate Her.... Please Help

 hey guys.... really need a help here...

I am married 4 Years and have a daughter (1 Yr 2 Months)...

She wasnt the lady before which she is now... She use to be really nice to me...

But now... she finds lotsa mistake in me.. esp infront of her friends and her parents... She always after seeing where i am and what i am doing by which i aleady lost lots of friend...

The worse thing in this relation have even reached where she slaped me infront of a corwd where her sister was present...

I also belong to a place where divorce is hard to get... and i love my daughter.... Please help me get out this hell of life..

 

thanks guys...

changlee changlee
26-30
4 Responses Feb 23, 2009

Just as there is no reason for a man to slap a woman, there is no reason for a woman to slap a man. This is a disrespectful act. Have you tried counseling? If not, you should. If you feel it is not salvageable, ask yourself if you're willing to stick it out for the kid (which I don't always agree with anyway, because kids DO LEARN from your behavior) or if you think you'd be a better parent by not being with the mother of your kid.

IF SHE'S NOT HAPPY WITH SOMETHING, CHANGE. FIX THE PROBLEM. BE PROACTIVE, GET A DEGREE TO MAKE MORE MONEY, STOP DRINKING IF YOUR A DRUNK, IF SHE'D LIKE YOU TO HELP MORE WITH THE BABY TRY DOING IT. FIND OUT WHAT HER TRIP IS.<br />
Look into how you can help make the marriage better, work on yourself to have more self confidence. Look into how you can become assertive. It's empowering to say what you need to say, even if your not respected for it right away you will become respected for it and she'll deal or things will only get worse. And I don't think she's looking to divorce to be your sought out decision. If she doesn't want a good marriage with you, ask her if she wants one at all. BECAUSE WHAT YOU HAVE NOW DOESN'T SEEM LIKE MUCH OF A MARRIAGE.

What do you mean? Where you married in the Catholic church?

I say you just dump her. Go link up with your friends hold them tight and forget about her ***. <br />
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Then you gotta see your daughter sometimes so that means you gotta deal with super*****. So you gotta train yourself to really not give a flying **** if she's with another dude. C'mon didn't you ever hook up with a girl in high school then see her with some other dude but you guys were still cool and talked. You never felt like some kind of homo cuz some dude was doing your girl. You weren't with her for a reason. So who cares what the next dude does with her. Screw that *****, unless she wants to start acting right and earns your love.<br />
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that's my thought anyway.