Things R Bad --- Real Bad
I m frm india and i have been with my wife for nearly 5 yrs now. First it was a great swing for nearly one yr before we walked the aisle. so all in all i know her from last 6 yrs.
The first problem: No libido
she is not interested in sex , we have sex may be around 4-5 times a YEAR!!!!!! that too when i insist. She says she is not interested. Prior to wedding we have had our bit of romance, and sex looked good to her that time. After marriage it worked fine for a yr and then it fell flat. I dont knwo what she has in mind. I treat her with utmost respect for not having the drive, but things r getting out of hand. She treates as if she does a favour when she ALLOWS me to have sex with her.
Problem No 2 : she is losing a lot of hair and she is not taking good care of herself. No breakfast in the morning, jumping around late in the morning and rushing to the job has been a trend.
problem no 3: Over dedication at work. Now this might be good news for the company, but has been a trouble for me. Thatz why she comes late and has no mood for sex. If asked to change the job she says that this job is a stress reliver for her!!!!! and i argue that this job is causing all the problems.
Problem no 4: Dosent save any money after all the manhours she puts in her job. Now which female would slog all day , screw up her personal life and not have any savings ....thatz my wife
Problem no 5. Over infatuation with mother. All day long she is willing to talk to her mother over the phone without issues. All the smiles and laughs are reserved for her mother. And as soon the phone goes off, i see a diff person altogether. She is not happy with me, very evident. I am finding it very very hard to know the reason.
Problem no6. Does not visit my parents/ Nor is happy when they visit us. Just locks herself in the room reading novels when they are visiting us and tries to maintain distance. However, when i accompany her to her parents place, she is again a diff person altogether, cracking jokes and having a good time. My parents r very harmless and they live in a pre-historic period. they are to themselves and are always worried about me.
Problem 7. she is not interested in having kids, all she thinks is to have a nice book and read and kill time. No kids are not a big deal for her. I think she has a medical problem, but is hiding.
Now i know this list can keep going, but this life has been hell and i have been struggling to keep myself intact. The best part is i cannot live without love, please someone suggest me what i need to do. I have tried telling her the soft way and also the hard way. I am losing my mental balance. I hardly get sleep and my health has gone for a toss. Please help. need guidance. Divorce seems to be the only option, but i worry about her parents and sister since in india divorce is treated in many diff ways in the culture and spells doom for any female.... i am really stressed.