OCD Or Just Me?
"I Hate my wife" or do I? I need some help here people don't know what to do anymore, I'm 35 my wifes 29 we been married for almost 8 years she has got the biggest case of OCD I have ever seen. Everything she has got to "try" to control, she cleans the house everyday, not hard but a basic wipe-down, but you can still eat off the toilet after you use it. Sounds like I got a great wife but man 24/7 of this **** is crazy everything has to be in its perfect place all the time. The constant nag, nag, nag "why did you turn here and not there", "why did you do this and not that". "Why is there 50 bucks gone from the bank, where did it go?, what did you buy?" If i leave a pillow out of place its almost enough to start WW III and shes like 115 lbs I'm twice her size and she comes at me like a pit bull, so i do what i can to use my Escolation of Force training to calm her down. When I get mad though I tend get really mad but it ends within 3-5 mins and I'm back to normal she however is still mad at me from a fight we had before we got married. Like right now shes in the guest room sleeping and I'm still trying to figure out WTF happened. You will have to excuse me but my brains going 90 and my fingers are in reverse. We love each other and there are no other men/women for either of us. Most of the time we are fine but the fights gets worse and worse and closer and closer together. I am military and i deploy for 12-15 months at a time but we both have dealt with it, shes has definitely gotten stronger and more independent. I have changed also I have a greater feeling for my time here on Earth I have learned that you are here one sec and Boom!!! now you are dead. I don't think that everything needs to be so organized all the time its nice to see something cluttered lets you know you are really here. But something has got to change or I am going to lose it. I don't want her to completely change just cut the edge off some relax. We both work and no kids just a cat. So why are we at each other throats constantly, by the way this is the nice version of the story multiply the OCD by 1000 % I'm talking shes sees a hair on a fur rug that doesn't belong, someone shoot me some ideas on what I or we can do before it gets Really Fugly.