My Wife Is A Fat Lazy *****

We have been together for 16 years and in that time she has turned into a a bitter, angry,lazy *****. Throughout our relationship she was always unhappy with her jobs. I always encouraged and supported her to look for one that would be more fulfilling. So she said that she wanted to be a teacher so I supported her without hesitation and she quite her job and went to school full time.  she is done with school and has not bothered to try to get a job. This has put a real strain on our resources but she nags at me like its my fault.

During this time I was raising her two kids(she had with another man during a previous marriage) I raised them as my own children.

Did she show any appreciation? No. She just yells and nags all the time. She does not do any cleaning or cooking. She sits in the bedroom or living room all day watching stupid reality tv shows. when I come from work she expects me to do the cooking and cleaning. when i get the courage to ask her to do something she gets mad. (for example we were supposed to go shopping today and i got ready and It now the afternoon and I asked her to get ready and she said "don't bark your orders to me" so i told her i was not coming into the bedroom again until sh got ready and so she left the house without me in a huff)

We have not had sex in 2 years. I cant get it up with her she does nothing to make me desire her. physically she has gotten fat. when ever i try to bring anything up she just cry's and says that I am mean-so I back off and she just resumes to do nothing.

I dont drink, do drugs, or smoke. I don't talk down to her or physically intimidate her. I go to work and come home and try to take care of the house. The only reason I am staying around now is because i feel sorry for her.

dontwant dontwant 41-45, M 15 Responses Jan 17, 2010

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No offense, but YOU created a spoiled brat. I hope she realizes what a good man she has..Probable won't happen until you cut her.

She's depressed. If she drinks beer, she should stop. She'll lose 15-20 lbs by not drinking beer for a few months. Once she sees herself clearly, from the sobriety, she'll start taking better care of herself. If she doesn't drink then she's just plain depressed and needs help. If it's a chemical imbalance in her brain, nothing can help but a Dr. if she doens't want to go to dr, doesn't care about you or herself, get out as fast as you can. That will help her see the light as well. The best thing my husband did for me was leave, it made me wake the **** up and lose the weight and then I started dating someone 10 years younger than me. He's 10 years older than me. Thank God he left. I'm having the time of my life.

I know your pain bro my 'wife' is a fat ***** who just stays at home all day on her laptop,I come home to a messy house and no dinner on the table,When we do get some food it's either a ****** McDonalds or a KFC we don't have sex anymore and we actually sleep in different rooms,I only stay around for my kids..

Throw that disgusting pudding of a woman out on the street!!!!

At least I know I'm not the buggered up one in the relationship. Thought maybe the fat lazy ***** was right and I was crazy. This helps

Dont worry feeling sorry for her wont ladt long. Then you can dump her and start to live the one life you got for your self.. Instead of wasting it... Who knows u leaving may just wake her up either way u dont belive u should sacrefice your life because someone make u feel gulity.... Good luck

This is what you need to do, First fix her a good meal, then get her drunk, wait until she pass out, ***** her nakid and then pound the *****. Dude stop being a pussing and pound that *****, hold her fat *** down, pull out your **** ram it in her, look her dead in her eyes and spit in her face! Fat ******* love when men spit in their face

Ok... well leave dude... It's a no brainer... Fat and won't sleep with you, doesn't do anything but put you in debt... Bye porky... Good luck finding another sucker...

So in August she finally got a job and guess what? Shes miserable with that one also. So when she comes home she just wants to ***** about it for hours and hours. Oh and if try to bring up anything positive she acts like I am betraying her. I swear to god she just wants to be miserable all the time.

So that that we have her paycheck to add to mine she thinks we are rich. She wont even consider sacrificing anything to pay down our debt.

She still will not do any housework- our house looks like an episode of hoarders because of all of her junk all over the place. every once in awhile i will say we need to get rid of some it and she just gets mad and says I'm trying to control her.

She is such a miserable and controlling person that her kids don't even want to be around her. She will guilt them to visit and call but they leave as soon as they can.

We still haven't had sex since the last time i posted-she just is such an unattractive person that i cant imagine having sex with her.

I am trying to pay off our debt so that I can leave her without feeling too guilty. sometimes I will set things up to leave her but i feel this sense of obligation and sorry for her so I don't go through with it. I am just afraid that I am going to waste most of my life in this bad relationship.

Im right with ya man!!!!. I work 2 jobs.She also works 2....her 2 jobs dont pay though they include watching reality tv shows and knitting...oh yeah and stuffing her fat face all day. I cant do a thing though if I ditch her I loose half my hard earned stuff...Im hoping she just chokes on her next bite or has a coronary or somthing....Im keepin my fingers crossed....I would be better off living with a horse...It would cost less to back better company...and to be quite honest look alot more attractive.

that part about being better off living with a horse cracked me up! lol. that alone gets my vote lol

Damn, man, it sucks for all of y'all. I'm a woman, and single for the last few years; curiosity led me here, though. I swear I feel sooo sorry for each of you. In every case I think you need to get OUT. There are plenty of other single guys who could use a roommate in a 2-bedroom somewhere, and splitting the bills and housework, you can make it. You dont' have to stay in the prison of these go-nowhere relationships. One is a whole number; there's nothing wrong with being single. I promise you, being in no relationship is far superiour to being in the wrong relationship.

I wish you all the best.

I see no reason for you to stay with this woman. Cut your losses and find someone with more motivation. Women like this are the reason men refer to them as the old 'ball and chain'. As I see it your other option is to take up 'heavy drinking'. In that case I prescribe 24 tall boys and everything will be as white as rain.

sounds like my wife. if it wasen't for prison i would smack the **** out of her. :-) every time i say anything to her at all she bites my head off. just to day i told her about somthing i saw online. later that night i sent her the link to it. and she got pissed. she said you alredy told me about it why do i need to see it and started bitching. what the hell? i told her to shut the hell up and don't talk to me anymore tonight. and called her a ***** and told her to go to hell. but thats about how it is every night around here. she is a techer too BTW. and most of her teacher friends are just as bitchy. she has a spending problem too. she makes min wage but keeps shopping she is in debt over 300,000 dollars and i still dont have a clue as to what that debt is for. i don't really see anything but a bunch of 10 and 15 dollar items. she also cheated on my with 2 guys and a girl and even brung then to my work to rub it in my face. and then after wards she is all at me with this im sorry and i love you crap. one of these days i am not going to hold back and i will **** her up. i cant afford a divorce and she refuses to leave and i got no ware else to go so i am stuck. i have been with 2 other girls that were the same way. the nice ones don't put out so you loose thare. the mean ones are all ***** so you can't win no matter what you do. i am starting to thing that all these gay people know something i don't. 20 million gay people can't be wrong. LOL!

I feel for you. My wife was something like that few years ago, but slowly it has changed. It takes courage. Dont hold back your frustration. Say what is on your mind right there and then. The first few times she will be super mad. When she does, tell her that you expected it, because it is so predictable of her. Pass sarcastic comments. If you post your problem in some site, you will get a response "have an open and honest talk with her" Trust me, you can do all the tlaking and it wont work.

u r a fkn whimp... make her clean the house & do somethin for goodness sake. be a man