Here Goes

I just goggled "I Hate My Wife" and i found this web site..... This is great, other married guys going thru the same thing I am..... Here I thought I was all by myself... 

Well here is my story...... Ive been married about 6years and I have 2 lovely kids 1yr old boy and 4yr old girl (My whole world).... My wife and I fight like cats and dogs......we just no longer see eye to eye....... I don't even think we have anything in common anymore....not sure what happened.......Her mom is the mother of our kids ( that is when we are around) we lose all parental control...... Drives me insane....... If I say something I'm an @88 hole.... I couldn't tell u how many times Ive come home from work to find messy house, no food in fredg, no dinner, and my wife on the damn Face-book...... again If i say something I'm a @hole....

And her nephew, who is a year older than my daughter (I don't trust that little boy)...... His parents are separated and he has no concept of discipline...... not to mention his mother is a garden tool...... Who knows what he has seen....... I witnessed first hand at Disneyland him trying to give my daughter a kiss ( which I immediately jumped n and stopped) ....... need less to say that was the last time they played together.......again I'm a @ hole because the little boy has it rough.....I should be more understanding.........BS........My wife covers for her family like there is no tomorrow......

Long story short.....I would LOVE to leave......but, I cant.......I'm afraid what my become of my kids......not to mention how hard it would be not to be able to see them everyday......I would go crazy......

IDidItToMyself IDidItToMyself
31-35, M
7 Responses Mar 8, 2010

You have to stand-up for yourself and protect YOUR kids… you owe that much at least. If words are their game, actions should be yours. Take a stand and make them see the ugly side of you. Take away all of the privileges you ALLOW them to have. Don’t take any crap from them. Google how to play games with those women and have fun doing it. Play games with their minds; drive them crazy for a change. For example, make them think you’re cheating. While doing all of that, plan for the day you leave… starting now. Put as much as you can aside for that day for freedom. Take my advice or regret it on your death bed. The CHOICE is ultimately yours.

First time poster here. I too stumbled upon this site via a yahoo search. What blows me away is how each of these stories practically comes off of the same assembly line with one of two minor variation i.e., my wife is lazy, nags, selfish. I've been married almost 4 years and have to say, that was THE DUMBEST thing I've ever done. I'm also in it for my two boys who are pretty much the only reason I'm able to get out of bed in the morning. I'm seriously worried about what would happen to my kids if I wasn't around which is the only reason I stay with this god forsaken wretch of a woman.I won't tell you get divorced like everybody else but if you can somehow, then go for it. I'm planning on it when the boys are finally in school and won't have to be in day care every day. Until then, I'm just trying to stay sane and be a good dad. Remember that even though you feel like you are in a solitary pit of hell, you have many fellow cell mates who are living the nightmare right along with you. Most likely, you are a good guy and just trying to put your kids before yourself. Stay strong brother.

Hey there Ididittomyself, <br />
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Welcome to the club. I was also in a really bad place with my wife. We just got married and we got back from our honeymoon and I found out she was cheating on me (through our entire wedding ceremony and the honeymoon). I couldn't even understand why she wanted to get married, I certainly didn't. Anyway I was really frustrated one day at work I just typed I HATE MY WIFE into google (because I couldn't scream it out to anybody and I have no one to talk to about this stuff) and I found this place. It's good to know that we're not alone and that there is a place where we can just go and vent and release whatever frustration we have about our lives.

Hi everybody,<br />
This is my first post to this sight so bare with me. I find this group kind of a comic relief. I say this with the utmost respect, as I too am married w/ 3 children. And I have enough testicular fortitude to say " I HATE MY GD WIFE !!!!"... with that established, I'd like to point out a contributor to the next poor bastard who will no doubtedly being posting on here soon.... PabloHoney.<br />
Seriously this chick.. And I quote " Well..........! It's your fukkin fault.......! It seems to me as you ain't being the man enough! WTF you mean you can't say anything!<br />
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And if she thinks you're an ******* act that way.........! Your situation is a mess! That's not even a family and it's not healthy for kids! You either handle it and make it work or leave! "<br />
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Really... So listening to my wifes past conniptions, I felt it necessary to break this down sentence by sentence. First we have. <br />
-"Well..........! It's your fukkin fault.......!" That's great. Man is being honest, and automatically, it's his fault. Damn if he's right or not... no, that wouldn't be relavent.<br />
-" It seems to me as you ain't being the man enough! " And you came to this conclusion how? By reading a few paragraphs? HaHa. Seriously. Let's fail to understand ANY underlying problems, and just attack his manhood. That usually works!! Yup, that's REAL mature. <br />
-" WTF you mean you can't say anything! " This one's a classic my friends. Just like my wife, she just wants to keep talking nonsense. That's what he means by... he.. he can't... Can I just please get a word in ?!?!?!!!<br />
-" And if she thinks you're an ******* act that way.........!" What she really means is, your absolutely right about your complaints, but she doesn't want you to know that she thinks that, so just give her an excuse to b****h and complain anyway. Does that about sound right?<br />
-"Your situation is a mess! " Thank you Captain Obvious !!! You've saved us from misinterpretation again !<br />
- "That's not even a family and it's not healthy for kids!" Could it be... is she starting to make sense ?!?!?!!<br />
- " You either handle it and make it work or leave! " WHat the HEll !! Just when we thought you were on the right track, you go and say something obvious again !!! Why in the hell do you think were all posting to this thing to begin with!!! Venting so we can last another day!!<br />
My summary conclusion is simply that this gal will surely make some poor bastard our comrade to this cause one day. Which begs the question, why would a chick even join a thread like this? Either because she made a poor bastard leave, or he's on his way out the door as we speak, and she still doesn't get it....<br />
Nice to meet you all..... sadly.

Hi everybody,<br />
This is my first post to this sight so bare with me. I find this group kind of a comic relief. I say this with the utmost respect, as I too am married w/ 3 children. And I have enough testicular fortitude to say " I HATE MY GD WIFE !!!!"... with that established, I'd like to point out a contributor to the next poor bastard who will no doubtedly being posting on here soon.... PabloHoney.<br />
Seriously this chick.. And I quote " Well..........! It's your fukkin fault.......! It seems to me as you ain't being the man enough! WTF you mean you can't say anything!<br />
<br />
And if she thinks you're an ******* act that way.........! Your situation is a mess! That's not even a family and it's not healthy for kids! You either handle it and make it work or leave! "<br />
<br />
Really... So listening to my wifes past conniptions, I felt it necessary to break this down sentence by sentence. First we have. <br />
-"Well..........! It's your fukkin fault.......!" That's great. Man is being honest, and automatically, it's his fault. Damn if he's right or not... no, that wouldn't be relavent.<br />
-" It seems to me as you ain't being the man enough! " And you came to this conclusion how? By reading a few paragraphs? HaHa. Seriously. Let's fail to understand ANY underlying problems, and just attack his manhood. That usually works!! Yup, that's REAL mature. <br />
-" WTF you mean you can't say anything! " This one's a classic my friends. Just like my wife, she just wants to keep talking nonsense. That's what he means by... he.. he can't... Can I just please get a word in ?!?!?!!!<br />
-" And if she thinks you're an ******* act that way.........!" What she really means is, your absolutely right about your complaints, but she doesn't want you to know that she thinks that, so just give her an excuse to b****h and complain anyway. Does that about sound right?<br />
-"Your situation is a mess! " Thank you Captain Obvious !!! You've saved us from misinterpretation again !<br />
- "That's not even a family and it's not healthy for kids!" Could it be... is she starting to make sense ?!?!?!!<br />
- " You either handle it and make it work or leave! " WHat the HEll !! Just when we thought you were on the right track, you go and say something obvious again !!! Why in the hell do you think were all posting to this thing to begin with!!! Venting so we can last another day!!<br />
My summary conclusion is simply that this gal will surely make some poor bastard our comrade to this cause one day. Which begs the question, why would a chick even join a thread like this? Either because she made a poor bastard leave, or he's on his way out the door as we speak, and she still doesn't get it....<br />
Nice to meet you all..... sadly.

Don't listen to the nasty people on here. Anyone who is nasty in the anonymity of cyberspace is classless and a coward.<br />
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I hate to say it, but your best bet is divorce. Your situation will only get worse with time, and if you divorce sooner rather than later, you'll minimize the damages that the divorce is sure to inflict. My advice is to consult with a good divorce lawyer, and get some solid guidance and advice - and DON'T TELL ANYONE you're doing this. Keep it your secret, so you can preserve the element of surprise. Luck Mate; you're in for the fight of your life. And when you're finally divorced, don't get married again....why would you?

Making her leave is something you can't do? Why wouldn't you get custody of the kids?<br />
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Why not think a few things through, give yourself a few goals, (ie: no longer cao toa to her mean words or her nasty mother.) You can turn off the internet service or put a block on for a few hours a day so she get her responsibilites done. But honestly sweetie, tolerating her verbal abuse is unacceptable and she needs to understand that you are not there for that. This is something you must do.. Put your foot down. Tell the mother in law to stay away for now.