Moving House Is One Of The Three Most Stressful Things You Can Do

Today I start a two week process of moving house. I've had months to prepare, and even though I know I've got things pretty well in hand, I still feel anxious about how well things will go.

I'm moving out of a living space I love, but for a whole host of reasons I think it's time to move on. I've spent 9.5 years here and have had many good times. I love to do Christmas parties, and have hosted 8 of them in this loft space. It's also the last piece of real estate I owned that my father saw during his lifetime, so I feel as though I'm closing a chapter in my life. I always miss him, but I miss his take charge attitude right now. I keep praying for some of that, and it does come and go. I wonder if he ever wanted someone else to take over and get the job done for him. I fight that feeling all the time.

I have two weeks to do the move. Some friends are helping me move boxes and my bed, and movers will come and load up the rest in about a week and a half. In my dark moments, I get upset that my friends aren't more willing to help me pack up and move, but I realize that it is asking a lot and people are doing what they are comfortable doing. I also realize that when you hit fifty, slinging boxes around isn't exactly top of people's hit parade. It will get done, I'm confident of that.

I have been living mortgage free for a year, and am having to go back to having a small mortgage which, if I'm conscientious, I should have paid off in four years, just in time to retire. I know that I am lucky and that not everyone has this opportunity, so I try to be grateful and know that if at any point the mortgage payments become too onerous I can decrease them, and take longer to pay it back. I don't really want to do this, but it might become a necessity.

We haven't had much rain where I live, but it looks like today is the day. Oh well, that's just part of the test I'm being given, I suppose. It's all scary but at the same time it's the most alive I've felt in a year. Deep breaths, and here I go.

expo67 expo67
51-55, M
3 Responses Jun 1, 2012

You seem to have things taken well in hand,When we have to do things alone in life,we just get them done and at least the way we want them done. Yes,often we yearn to share our experiences with someone close and feel we can fall back on a loved one if needs be,but when this is not the case we just learn to soldier on.

Things did work out very well and indeed things did get done the way I want them to. I can't believe it's two years since I wrote this. I've adapted to my new place, and while I don't think it will ever be as special as the place I left, it is pretty terrific in its own way. And I have learned to do things on my own and not feel the need to rely on others. Thanks for taking the time to read this and a few of my other posts. I appreciate the thought you put behind your responses Berangere!

Thanks for the vote of confidence. It has worked out well for me and I don't regret making the change for one second. I wish you good luck in your next chapter as well!

You are strong, and you will get through this move. You will make this new home your own special spot, and you will entertain when you are ready. Admiration to you for making such a move in your life.