When Does It Get Better?

I've hated myself for years because I was fat, and because I was so uncomfortable with myself I became super shy which of course led to lots of feelings of loneliness, worthlessness, etc. But this year I became determined to change my life! I lost 70 pounds in the last 9 months and I got my first job, and I finally started branching out and talking to people at work and school but guess what? I STILL HATE MYSELF! Argh!

I don't think I'll ever be happy now. Before I used to think 'if only i were thin' or 'if only I was more social' things would be better but I feel exactly the same, if not worse because my hard efforts haven't paid off at all.

So, how do you stop hating yourself?
grimspecter grimspecter
18-21, F
2 Responses Sep 9, 2012

You have to believe in yourself! You brought up a very good point, and I think that you should get some counsling possilby. That may help with your self image. I was always, "the thin" girl growing up. Now at age 40, I am not thin anymore. Life and having a child, (4 years ago) has make me grown in a size 14. I never understood my friends when they wanted to lose weight. Well, now I understand. Somehow, maybe God is trying to teach me a lesson here. I am still the same person that I was when I was thin. Perhaps, accepting ourselves the way we are is very important! I am having a breast reduction in a month, so I am hoping to have a better self image too....

The things u wish to have or be are never gonna make u happy if u don't start to accept urself first. If u wanna be happy u have to feel loved. But u can't never love someone 100 % if you don't even like urself. You have to tell urself that u weren't born by mistake. God had made a plan for your life (if u believe in him) & now it's up to you to take a mirror & admire the beautiful person that you are. ;)