It's Always An Irritation

I hate it when people are Passive Aggressive. It's always irritated me, especially among friends. I've had friends who I could tell where being completely PA towards me and I would call them out for it.

The latest is a girl who I have absolutely no feelings for. When she found out that I was bisexual and the rumor going around my university earlier last year was that I was a MtF transgender ( made from my ex, after I told him no when he asked me to date him again) She bounced right out of nowhere and asked me out. I said no, that I was still trying to get over my ex.

She wouldn't have that. She constantly texted me, daily, if I wanted to go have coffee with her. As a friend, yes, I did. She would go on and on and on about these two other guys she tried to ask out. One said no and the other said maybe. She then gives me this sob story: " This time of year is when you really need someone..." and made her face look extra sad but I wasn't buying it. She had asked out TWO other guys. I could tell that she was just being desperate and I definitely didn't want that.

So a few weeks after that, she had come over to my house, unnannounced and uninvited. We where about to have dinner, my friend had came all the way from Rhode Island and I wanted her to leave so I could spend the first dinner with her, my sister and my sister's bf alone. She didn't leave. I told her exactly why I wanted her too after I pulled her away from everyone. She pouted and then goes behind my back and asks my sister if she could stay. My sister, of course said yes and I was furious. At that point, I was so close to blowing up. She had stayed for dinner and since there was only enough for 4 people, she ended up eating some of mine and I didn't like that. I was starving and she was being rude and doing annoying stuff.

Afterwards, she still wouldn't leave. I finally got down to it and said out loud for everyone to hear: " You NEED to leave. I am trying to spend time with MY friend that came all the way ACROSS the states and YOU are interrupting MY time with her. NOW GO!" All she did was give me that same fake sad face she did the other day and then said " I get it.....I guess I AM making your night a horrible mess..just like I do with everyone else's nights...that's why I'm so alone." My friend from RI gave her a dirty look, which made me feel a little better because I knew I wasn't coming off as an a$$. I told my other friend to cut the cr@p and to just go because I was tired of her attitude.

She finally left and like 15 minutes later she texted me " I love you...." and I just ignored it. another few minutes later she texted again " I guess you don't love me back.....that's okay, I understand...." and then....THEN. Another 10-20 minutes later she texts AGAIN saying " Hello? I know you're there..why won't you answer me?" I had it. I had just cracked.

I phone her and she picked up saying " Oh you do love me!!" I was like : No. No I do not love you and I will NEVER love you. I WANT YOU TO STAY AWAY FROM ME. DO NOT TEXT ME. DO NOT TALK TO ME. DO NOT BE MORE THAN 15 FEET AWAY FROM ME. YOU FREAK ME OUT AND YOU'RE SO F*CKING PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE THAT I WILL NOT STAND FOR IT ANYMORE. HAVE A GOOD LIFE AND OH, A TIP FOR YA, MAYBE YOU NEED TO CORRECT YOUR ATTITUDE AROUND PEOPLE AND THEN THEY'LL WANT TO HANG OUT WITH YOU. GOODBYE!!!"

I know. Maybe it was out of my place to do that, but I couldn't handle her anymore. I had to leave it on a note where she got it nice and clear.
HappyZappyZaperson HappyZappyZaperson
26-30, T
2 Responses Jan 18, 2013

that's a very Toxic person..you have my sympathies!

Some people are very "high maintenance" and will suck you into taking care of them. Be firm, as you apparently have been.