Post
Experience Project iOS Android Apps | Download EP for your Mobile Device

My Husband Is Rude!!! And Insensitive....

It is Saturday morning. I did not want to get up and face this day... My husband was on the warpath all day yesterday. I was told to "shut up" so many  times I couldn't count. Apparently, I am the most ignorant woman on the globe! I would just like to be able to remember how it feels to be appreciated, loved, and treated like a decent human. I just pray I can get a job soon and find my way. I don't  think women can stay in a marraige being called an "old cow". I am sure he could find a young air head to share his hell. thanks for letting me vent!
ridinabroom ridinabroom 51-55 12 Responses Jan 8, 2011

Your Response

Cancel

MY HUSBAND JUST TOLD ME YESTERDAY HE WANTS A 25 YEAR OLD. I JUST TURNED 38 AND LOOK 25,,, I FEEL SO DISRESPECTED! I CANT EVEN SLEEP IN THE SAME ROOM WITH HIM ANYMORE! I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. I HAVE AN 8 YEAR OLD AND A 16 YEAR OLD THAT NEED US VERY MUCH BUT IT REALLY IS HELL FOR ME BEING IN THE SAME HOUSE WITH MY HUSBAND!

My husband is also rude ! he blurts out things and never says hes sorry. He corrects me on my words , actions , you name it ! we have been married 10 years and hes drinking on the weekend is getting to me! everything is a big deal and hes just a *** to me in frount of my family ,friends,who ever , thats when he really like to talk down to me. i am a very fisty & strong lady so i set him straight , but in the mean time i wonder what people think ,hes starting to be harsh on my grand son whos only 2 and thats where it will end. i need your help as well as you need mine! any words of advice is wellcome! take care!

wow your rindinabroom your comments on jan 23 sould like my husband. <br />
everyone loves him and thinks that he is great. But behind closed doors. I'm called a stupid idiot. Well if I was so stupid why do I have a good job?<br />
I was told this morning that I embarass him.

Bodryn, thank you for your thoughts. Here is an update. This past week we ran to Walmart (15 miles away), he p'd me off and I quietly got my shopping done, and left him wandering around there. When he called my cell, I said " Oh, sorry, I forgot you were with me" oops. I have decided to walk away when he bullys me, or starts any confrontational behavior. I am getting stronger mentally and physically... I will be "Buff" by spring like J-Lo in "Enough". People who love me have my back, most of our friends and people who know him in the community think he is great... what a chameleon!

I'm no lawyer but from what I have read, if the farm is in your name, you have to be sure to stay there and not move out, then if need be, see to it he is locked out. Hmmm, it might not be a bad idea to have some tough friends or relatives with you to confront him. I read what you say and am totally outraged. Wishing you all the best.

I am a guy in a happy marriage who has also been abused and bullied in my youth and have no tolerance of bullying behavior either in myself or others. My wife and I discuss things as equals. It should be a human right not to have to be abused. When a child is bullied, he may never be able to recognize a non-bullying situation, and think being bullied is normal and just go along with it. Seems to me there always needs to be some kind of safe house where abused people can go and find a safe harbor while establishing a more permanent secure life. I wish you all the best.

If you want my opinion, this can be what we call "verbal abuse" situation, which i have been through, with my ex. I had it for 7 yrs until i gave up, i kept thinking i was inadequate and not good enough for him, and so it gradually eroded my self confidence and self esteem. I tried to brush it off that he was going through depression and tried to forgive him, until one fine day, i caught him having an affair with a "sweet young thing"... I hope your situation is not as worse as mine but do keep your eyes open. AND YOU DO DESERVE BETTER!

If you want my opinion, this can be what we call "verbal abuse" situation, which i have been through, with my ex. I had it for 7 yrs until i gave up, i kept thinking i was inadequate and not good enough for him, and so it gradually eroded my self confidence and self esteem. I tried to brush it off that he was going through depression and tried to forgive him, until one fine day, i caught him having an affair with a "sweet young thing"... I hope your situation is not as worse as mine but do keep your eyes open. AND YOU DO DESERVE BETTER!

I'm not goin anywhere! The house/farm is in MY name. I've invested too much to walk away...I know we need counciling/other..... thanks

tell him to leave

Think you need to move out for a short while and see how things lie have you got family or friend you can stay with.then arrange a visit to marraige guidence councillor and talk over if you want to go forward with present partner or call it quits.

Thank you for hearing. Just to let you know... I am NOT a cow. I am about a size 8, former professional woman who lost my job after having to stay home and care for HIM for six months after someone hit him head on in a severe collision. You are right, he is a bully. I would caution all women out there to watch out for these wolves in sheeps clothing. They always come on so sweet in the beginning... then, I guess their self hatred comes out.

You don't deserve to be treated like that; no one does. Being told to "shut up" constantly, and being called an "old cow"; that is just abuse. Your husband sounds like a bully. I, too, hope that you can find a way to get away from this man, because being told you're stupid, ugly, and your opinion doesn't count...that will wear you down, physically, mentally, and emotionally. You do deserve to be treated with basic human dignity. I don't have any simple solutions or brilliant advice; I just want to let you know you've been "heard".